I know that it is very selfish of me to want a divorce but I don't feel I can take this any more. We've (ME 36 her 37) been married for 1,5 year now and it's just getting worse IMO. Arguments in front or loud enough so that the kids can hear us bickering. We have 2 boys, 13 and 15 (not mine biology but known them and her since 2012) that listen to this all the time. Before I enter the house from work, I'm already thinking, what have I done wrong today or have I forgotten something that she is going to be angry about. Everyday. After Christmas and New year's I told her last Sunday that I don't feel that I can continue with us. We don't talk only text. Today she wrote that she will not sign the paperwork and that, we should try and work things out, what about the boys, the house, the family. She says am ruining our family. Maybe I am. One of the boys has exams in May and both boys are changing schools this summer. There are so many things, birthdays and summer vacation, that's going down the drain. I feel so bad for them but I can't stand one more month let alone 6 months with therapy and giving false hopes. I don't know how to tell the kids about this.. Is there a good way to do it? Have any of you experienced that your wife wouldn't sign?

We live in Northern Europe.