Making the dreams stop

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2023-06-04T14:35:13+00:00

100% normal. After my ex-wife accused me of rape and got me kicked out of the house because I caught her cheating and she was worried of losing custody, I was having sex dreams with her for a few weeks. Then after a few weeks the dreams turned into her apologizing for what she did. Now I never dream or think about her. And life is getting much better.

In Jesus name, Amen.

Mrsmmi2 · 2023-06-04T13:35:19+00:00

Focus on building a new life and time. THB, over a year out, this still happens to me. But I have a whole new circle of friends and have gotten into what I see as a more healthy relationship (with caution)

I hate that my subconscious brings it up and it leads to rumination. But it’s worlds better now with the time that has passed.

captainchippsixx · 2023-06-04T14:47:51+00:00

Start watching strong successful male on you tube. You will figure out quickly she doesn’t love you or respect you.

ww3historian · 2023-06-04T15:10:30+00:00

Go on bumble and hinge and find new women to think about. Worked for me

Plenty-Entertainer71 · 2023-06-04T16:02:09+00:00

I made the same thread a couple weeks ago, maybe it’s part of the healing process cause I don’t dream about the ex anymore

MorninJohn · 2023-06-04T16:30:41+00:00

Normal. As you work your way through the grief, it will pass. Try processing things while you are awake, and over time, the dreams become more scarce.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2023-06-04T14:59:36+00:00

You can’t help your dreams, and as time passes they’ll stop

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-06-04T15:48:51+00:00

Thankfully I sleep like a baby even in Hell - no dreams other than one I remember every odd six months or so. Just light 💡 off , light on. Together with no empathy in the Feelingz sense I’ve belatedly realised it’s a superpower not a Curse.

Basic_Advance7627 · 2023-06-04T18:25:20+00:00

It happens and is quite normal. I listened to a lot of music and podcasts to fall asleep too. Even after a couple of years though I still wake up and don’t know where I am for a couple of seconds.

Gattsama · 2023-06-04T13:56:09+00:00

People don't like it, but sometimes can try benadryl (25-50mg) before bed.

toooldforthisnonsens · 2023-06-04T13:50:56+00:00

/r/survivinginfidelity is a good sub for support.

beachndesert · 2023-06-04T18:29:15+00:00

One Year later I still have those dreams not as much. Time heals. . What helps other than working out, eating right, etc. is going out with friends, trying new hobbies or sports, get out of the house. Go meet women in real life. Go to Vegas, Nashville or other fun place with live music, dancing, etc.

Sum1StoleMyGamertag · 2023-06-05T13:42:08+00:00

Was in therapy when this was happening to me. From what I was told, write it down after you wake up, in general though, you went through what many will agree is a traumatic event. Your dreams are a way that your subconscious is working everything out.

Title	Making the dreams stop
Author	Throwaway_858493
Upvotes	19
Comments	25
Date	June 4, 2023 1:26 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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