I (21M) have been redpilled/blackpilled for a few years now. I understand the mindset could be flawed and that its a negative way to look at dating. One and a half years ago I made a female friend. All my friends prior were male. This female friend of mine was attractive and kind. We talked about dating and she disagreed with my views. After a few months of talking we went on dates. I was still a virgin but it was really exciting for me to be going on dates with an attractive woman. By the fourth date, I noticed that every sate we had been on she had not offered to pay. I started to feel like I was a so called ‘betabux’. In the car on the way back to her place, I told her my concerns and she dismissed them saying her ex boyfriend always bought her things and that she thinks I am a loser because I am a binman and she wants me to earn £100,000 a year as it is easy for me to do so. I then dropped her home and drove off. She blocked me and I was upset.

For the next 7 months I was constantly thinking of her. Sadly to cope with the distress, I was looking at redpill content and Andrew Tate. I started believing that women lived easier lives than men and were privileged. Then in November 2022 which was 7 months after our dates with my ex girlfriend, I was unblocked and she messaged me. We got talking again as if we were still best friends. I assumed she had been dating other people the 7 months we werent talking and she said she wasn’t but I didn’t believe her. We started dating and she took my virginity. I learned from my previous mistakes and paid on all the dates. I was seeing her three times a week. She was still unemployed. Two months into our relationship she suggested we go on two holidays together. I agreed but asked if she had the money to pay for these holidays. She said no but she will pay me back as she is planning on getting a job soon. We went on the first holiday and she still was expecting me to pay. In fact even on my birthday I still paid the bill at dinner and didn’t receive a birthday gift. We had an argument again over the fact she never offered to pay and she said she was planning on paying her way and that I am in the wrong for how I went about it. We resolved the issues after our holiday and a month later we went on the second one. She was paying her way somewhat but not much. I still covered some of her stuff. When we came home, we were suddenly hit with news…

She was pregnant and I wasn’t ready to be a dad and had my concerns. However my love for her increased. But I got worried that she would expect me to pay for everything and that she doesn’t have a job. Even friends and my mother expressed this concern. I then found out that she was in £6,000 debt not including the £1,000 she owed me for the holidays. She then said I needed to stop being a binman and get a better job. She then said that she wanted to send the child to private school. She then said I needed to but a new car for £10,000 as my old car is too small for a child. All these demands and when I asked what she would be doing in return, she got annoyed and said she will be looking after our child. I asked her why she wanted a man to pay for everything and she said she has childhood trauma and that she grew up with nothing. 2 months into the pregnancy, she miscarried. I then decided that the relationship needed to end as I felt like she wasn’t respecting me.

I broke up with her over text and her reply was “goodbye forever”. A week later after our break up, she hit me up, I rejected her advances. Then again a week later, she hit me up. I rejected her again and she then said to me that she has slept with two guys and one was very good looking and then she blocked me. I hit her up two months later (last week) as I left my xbox at her place. She refused to give it back. So I turned up to her place and she didn’t answer the door. She then messaged me and told me to collect it a few days later. When I collected it, she left it outside and said she wasn’t inside her house. When I left her apartment she said that “I look so fuckable”. I recently had a haircut and she saw that on her Ring doorbell. I felt like she was playing games with me and decided to not entertain that.

I had a great time with this woman but I definitely felt like I was being used for my money. It also made me believe women live life on easy mode as my ex hasnt had a job for ages and got two holidays and free food out of me whilst simultaneously moving on very quickly. I am lowkey envious of my ex girlfriend but I understand its not a good emotion to have and that I should forget about her now.