While separated, did anyone shifted their paycheck to their own separate account and just sent portions to the joint account through the month?

Gattsama · 2023-12-19T23:01:28+00:00

This is exactly what I did. I opened my own bank account and had all my payments directly deposited their. I would transfer all communal expenses to the joint account, and either she or I paid from there. This created a clear separation between the finances.

I paid 100% of my expenses from my account. I didn't touch the joint accounts. She did (and had to pay a lot back at final settlement. That was not part of the plan, but it worked out well in the end for me). It also prevents her from spending my resources during the separation.

kencinder · 2023-09-02T00:18:49+00:00

I did that and moved everything off the joint account, while she still lived here and eventually closed it.

She shit a brick at first...but I told her I am not supporting a wh*re who thinks just saying "I want to separate" is a free hall pass with me still paying her way.

deadwoodbuttman · 2023-09-01T04:01:41+00:00

Yup, did exactly that. She’s got a job and makes roughly the same as I do, no reason she should have access to my whole paycheck when hers never even went to the joint account in the first place. Found out after we separated that she actually makes quite a bit more money than she had led me to believe, surprise surprise 🤔

AirSailer · 2023-09-01T02:13:57+00:00

I did this the day i filed the papers. Talk about an euphoric feeling knowing I was, at least temporarily, in control of my income and finances. My ex was literally cutting up credit card statements to hide them from me, the utilities in my name, when I finally checked, were basically all about to get cut off.

I purchased food for her, and gas and gave her some cash each month. She had no job so if she complained I told her to get a fuckng job.. which was always followed by "I'm disabled from giving birth to YOUR child!".

Once you file you're income is yours.

MartyMcFly7 · 2023-08-31T21:21:56+00:00

We did that while we still lived together.

We both had separate accounts, but kept our joint account for paying community bills. Since her pay varried, we each paid a percentage based on our individual earnings.

This worked, until she stopped paying her share. Since her share was based on her income, she should've been able to afford it, but she chose to prioritize paying her lawyer over the house payment. After that, things got messy.

pk2at · 2023-08-31T19:09:45+00:00

Create a new bank account which is local to a different state and send paycheck there. Next cash out joint account (physical cash) and deposit into new bank account or keep under mattress. Do not disclose this account during divorce, let wife and lawyer spend money to trace. No, judge will not get angry at you and yes, you will get keep most of what you hide

goodie1663 · 2023-08-31T18:15:14+00:00

We closed the joint account and then transferred money to each other when necessary.

jimsmythee · 2023-08-31T17:30:26+00:00

I did that. I was the breadwinner and my exwife refused to work. Any money she ever got her hands on, she’d spend on the stupidest shit.

Towards the end of our marriage, she got a DUI and $7500 in DUI fines. She still refused to work and tried to get me to take a second job to pay it off.

So I had to keep my money in a separate account, or she’d spend my money on something stupid like her DUI fines (monthly payment).

I filed for divorce instead. Never paid a dime on those fines.

Hunkaflesh13 · 2023-08-31T17:27:18+00:00

I did exactly that the day after she served me. Works for me.

life-is-short- · 2023-08-31T17:12:24+00:00

Just removed her name from joint account and did wire to hers

Title	While separated, did anyone shifted their paycheck to their own separate account and just sent portions to the joint account through the month?
Author	93tabitha93
Upvotes	7
Comments	19
Date	August 31, 2023 5:03 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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