Bear w/ me and I'm open to any suggestions from anyone who's walked this dreadful path.... Aside from the below, life's not bad and I'm much happier already.

Mediation is in about 2 weeks.. I filed in July and moved out, but still have exclusive rights to and from our house. STBX has our 3 kids 8-10-13yr olds at the house still until we divorce and have a deferred sell in April. We get along and I come and go helping her shuffle the kids up til a month or so ago.

She will most likely get (primary)custody. I was actually fine with it I filed for JC standard CS. I'm 100% disabled combat vet, plus I work and make good money (also can work 80-90% remote when I want). Not handicapped, I still hit the gym, an am active as I can be (I'm 40, she's 38). It's pretty simple from my lawyers suggesting I'll be maxxed out in CS as I earn more than the max cap guidelines especially adding into the ~4k monthly disability stipend, so pretty straightforward there.... I also have free medical/college benefits etc, on the kids.

Bout a month ago a friend tipped me off, SBTX talking with and going out with someone who she has.mutual friends with., I find out he's a registered sex offender and has a rap sheet, he was 25 the victim was 15 according to the sex registry database. Of course he's feeding her a line of BS and everyone else, trying to make her think he was like 20 and the victim was like 16 or some shit and he didn't know...

Naturally my combat vet side came out and I fed him some lines, wasn't very theatrical, we just MF'd each other and I threatened him over my kids.. either way that'll work itself out post-divorce, he's not worth my time right now.

Sooooo I went the legal route..... turned my lawyers onto the pervert, they ran his records, sent my SBTX's lawyer some communication, and they're pushing to make my STBX sign an injunction about barring either of us from bringing these wierdos around our kids. My SBTX's lawyers responded that they advised her to not to associate with him, she claimed they were only "Facebook friends".... Then I recorded about 16 mins of our phone conversation where she states otherwise afterward.

My rant is, after 19 yrs married, 3 kids, etc... you don't realize how stupid ppl can be. My younger two kids want to be with their mom, which I respect to a degree... But I also have to protect them... Just cos moms " thirsty" and understanding a Weiner can have magical properties, doesn't mean she's able to make logical choices like " let's date a pedophile while going through a divorce and not think my ex soldier/state cop husband won't find out and confront the issue".

So I'm sitting on the brink of an otherwise seemingly easy mediation of splitting, selling, and moving on with an AGREEABLE divorce, to "if she doesn't sign the injunction barring sexual predators from being around our kids in private places (vehicles, homes, etc)., then I may have to go for primary custody and run this shit show into a courtroom. This is in Texas, I'd hope a judge would see that its an issue and side with that. But I'm not hopeful.

Guess I'll provide an update in a few weeks!