Men who are assured of their SMV only because of dating success are the same as alpha widows

YtBlue · 2024-02-25T07:14:17+00:00

If a man can consistently bed 9s. He's not a 7. Your trying to apply the same rules of women to men. Women are choosier with casual sex partners and rarely ever date down in marriage

GlobeUnited · 2024-02-26T01:41:18+00:00

For the most part this isn't a thing. For men, if you can get a woman to have casual sex with you, it's likely that you could also get her to marry her. There is a big exception, which is men who are more sexy than stable, like struggling musicians, former or aspiring pro athletes, etc. A woman might be willing to have sex with them, but not marry them. I think that's a tiny slice of the total male population though.

Throwwaway4970 · 2024-02-25T09:23:41+00:00

What percentile are you talking about when talking about 7-7.5 looks wise? Because I feel most normies overrate themselves and almost everyone thinks he or she is a 7 while they are dead end average. I've seen plenty of thirsty men (specially 30+) claim that a certain woman is a 9 while she is just kind of above average (6). I don't trust at all normies rating 1-10.

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-02-25T13:42:53+00:00

This is a dumb take.

Men don't consistently have sex with 9s unless they're also a 9.

Sure maybe they could punch up once if they're like a 7 or an 8.

Ok-Dust-4156 · 2024-02-25T08:42:55+00:00

Assuming that "SMV" is a thing then only way to actually measure it is to go out and try to have sex with somebody. And then your "SMV" is as high as your success. That's how you measure value of anything on any market.

boom-wham-slam · 2024-02-25T10:38:41+00:00

only mention dating but never marriage.

Are there men banging lots of hot women who couldn't be married in a second? This sounds weird to me because I personally have multiple women chasing me around asking me to marry them. "Thanks for meeting me for a drink, so when are you going to propose to me? I wouldnt say no to you. You know I don't need a big fancy ring, although I wouldn't mind one." Smdh.

wolfloveyes · 2024-02-25T08:44:22+00:00

I know plenty of model tier women.

Any loser can sleep with them really, it just boils down to proximity, being fun guy, don't criticize them, help them out, keep them safe, and never put their reputation at stake or use them for your own value validation. You are good to go, just simple social intelligence you need.

You'll be shocked how many short, ugly, dumb and fat guys these hot girls have slept with.

I've often asked them, if you like that guy so much. Why not marry him lol? And she says, well I don't want to be seen with him but I love him, can't marry him either but I like his company.

They have and will sleep with ugly men, just they wouldn't like to be seen with them or can commence marriage or long term relationship in society's view.

Women hand out sex like cookies, be a good friend (you'll get laid), be there when she needs you, you'll get laid unless ofc you are too passive and righteousness (calling out women's sexual freedom, makes women immediate shut to you)

So bedding hot model is not a success.

Are you married to one? Who you got through attraction? And aren't dangling money to keep her? That's more brag worthy.

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MidoriEgg · 2024-02-25T09:57:19+00:00

This seems personal

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2024-02-25T14:04:33+00:00

That’s not really the definition of being alpha widowed but I’ll upvote anyway for tribalism

wtknight · 2024-02-25T15:56:01+00:00

Does it really matter what a man's "true attractiveness" supposedly is if he is sexually successful with the women whom he wants to be successful with? The difference with alpha widows is that they are upset because they can't get the men to commit whom they want to commit. A man who is successful with attractive women is getting what he wants, even if objectively they might be "dating down".

blarginfajiblenochib · 2024-02-25T16:30:34+00:00

If a man can repeatedly land relationships or casual sex with above average looking women, it doesn’t matter whether you personally like him or find him attractive or not, he’s attractive. Attraction is about way more than just looks, especially for women - they want the whole package (looks, personality, status/lifestyle) or as close as they can possibly get.

The only exception I’ll give is that a lot of women who have one night stands are usually doing so due to a lot of negative feelings, usually to try and make themselves feel better through validation and also to try and make their former lover(s) jealous that they’re having sex with someone else. Obviously, yes, some women also enjoy casual sex, but the risk is generally higher for them in terms of safety, STDs, and unwanted pregnancies. Gen Z is having less sex than other generations so I do think the social dynamics of sex are shifting in general.

Green-Quantity1032 · 2024-02-26T14:30:20+00:00

So.. you’re saying 7-7.5 is very attractive in men, and I tend to agree. That’s like top 10-15% I’d say so yeah, high SMV

Title	Men who are assured of their SMV only because of dating success are the same as alpha widows
Author	bloopyboo
Upvotes	2
Comments	39
Date	February 25, 2024 7:13 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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