Why tf are female to female compliments considered the norm, while male to male compliments are considered "gay"?

Its so fucking sad that you can't even cheer your mates up without being made fun of. We should get rid of it asap. Compliments dont sound that big of a deal, but its very powerful nevertheless, even 1 rare compliment can drastically raise person's self confidence. You often hear a woman say to another woman "you look great today" etc, sometimes men and women will compliment each other at work for example, but you rarely see male to male compliments in similar environment because it is made fun of for some reason, either by a person receiving a compliment or by other men and women around. Its apparently only acceptable to say in public to your mates that you suck, that you look like shit, is that really what we are up to? We should be complimenting and cheering each other up