How do I even talk to girls without coming off as a friend?

ifuckedyourgf · 2022-08-29T21:22:55+00:00

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V-Future · 2022-08-29T23:11:40+00:00

Easy, don't behave as a friend and you will not be friendzoned. Show your intentions since the first moment. I'm not talking about being too direct because you might scare her. Just let her know you feel attracted to her as a woman and you don't wanna be just another friend.

Remember, don't talk too much, be brief.

warbloggled · 2022-08-30T04:58:01+00:00

Making friends with girls is a key step in seduction. Friendzone is only real for those who don’t know how to navigate sexuality. So I would suggest you reframe how you view being friends with females to a good thing.

I saw another comment here offering good advice about giving compliments, physical/non physical. They are good for escalating yes, I would also add physical touch.

Knowing how to touch a woman’s body in a place you know appropriate so she is receptive is also key. It doesn’t have to be sexual.

Just like man, a woman also automatically imagines a sexual relationship.

It just takes a creating a safe atmosphere so you 2 can be physically present in the same place where the escalating can happen. If a girl is willing to meet you, she will be willing explore the world with you as long as she understands you are someone she can safely do that with.

It took me a while to understand that but once I got it, a line I learned from Mystery and Style became very useful.

You have to let them know that you think they’re “a really cool person and you love their friendship, that you would never screw them over but you would screw them, over and over and over.”

ZoeticLark · 2022-08-30T03:43:40+00:00

We all have a unique signature to how we flirt. It can take time to discover where our confidence and interests are, but it's worth the journey!

zapadz · 2022-08-29T21:58:47+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x1AfaKShTe4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqYJ_6lLI6o

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1uucwvSpw0

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ifuckedyourgf · 2022-08-29T22:20:54+00:00

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AssistTemporary8422 · 2022-08-30T05:20:29+00:00

Working on your physical attractiveness will really help in getting women to see you as a romantic interest. Get in touch with your masculinity because most women are attracted to masculine men. Assertiveness, non-neediness, fun, being chill, and humor are attractive qualities. Learn how to communicate your intent through body language and subtle flirting.

bitchybarbie82 · 2022-08-30T01:01:25+00:00

If she’s interested she won’t view it as a friend. That simple.

BigVisual5833 · 2022-08-30T05:24:43+00:00

Finally someone asked this important questions, let's see the comment section.

morechris · 2022-08-30T10:39:45+00:00

A girl here, I’m currently trying to figure out if I’m reading signals right with this guy I work with. We aren’t in the same departments, so we aren’t directly talking and speaking with each other. We always tend to smile at each other, make an effort for eye contact when we pass by, sometimes it’s prolonged, and he always tells me to have a good night. I’m usually rushing out, so I don’t give him a chance, but he’s almost always doing something or busy as well, he’s very cute, and I don’t know if I’m reading him right. I know I could just go up too him, but this one, makes me anxious, and it’s always so loud and busy to even talk. I guess, the tension is going to keep building until one of us makes a move, he is definitely more inclined to do that, because he always speaks up, when he does he’s usually a distance away, talking with a coworker about something that’s needing attention, or working with other managers, but stops the conversation to wish me well. Am I reading too much into this?

revente · 2022-08-29T21:55:39+00:00

Don't overthink the 'seductive talk'. Focus on physical escalation and leading to the desired outcome.

Domin8u315 · 2022-08-30T03:58:24+00:00

Be flirtatious

2022-08-30T06:12:40+00:00

Here’s an easy way to start being comfortable with your sexuality, start talking to girls about other girls you find attractive. Not like a creepy perv or horny dude but in a respectful or humorous way.

Jay-Ames · 2022-08-30T08:32:09+00:00

Say none of the stuff a friend would say. Make it sexual. And more importantly, dare to make it sexual (without being a pervert).

Make it clear that this you are a sexual being.

Try to do it playfully.

Do a game of truth or dare for example.

NinetailsDestruction · 2022-08-30T09:42:10+00:00

We have the opposite problem brother, I’d be down the trade tbh cus I can work on my skill. By the way, it’s 90 percent body language and eye contact and 10 percent what you say.

CledusUnleashed · 2022-08-30T13:03:33+00:00

Tbh you just gotta say fuck it and not care about being rejected. If you wanna fuck say it. If you want a gf say that. It’s all about communicating and taking a risk. Females out here don’t open up to men like that so you’re gonna have to take a risk and just be like I’m looking for this and if she’s not with it just be like cool and leave. You gotta start somewhere you just gotta know how you work and use that to your advantage. It’s better to shoot your shot early than to waste your time and someone else comes in and now your stuck in the friend zone wanting to be that guy.

DarkSun18 · 2022-08-30T06:04:47+00:00

In my opinion being seen as a friend is a good thing, it means she likes you and trusts you and enjoys spending time. Personally I can't imagine doing anything with a guy who I don't get friendly vibes from. Maybe if you're into hookups with strangers you'll never see again.

Necrosaro_123 · 2022-08-30T13:24:45+00:00

Do you guys think that a 37yo guy like me with 6/10 looks is going to have a chance with cold approach?

OLD has been pointless for me.

2022-08-30T04:21:46+00:00

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saryiahan · 2022-08-30T00:48:54+00:00

Tell them you don’t want to see them are just a friend but a lover/partner. If they say no then move on to the next girl

Snoo-50617 · 2022-08-30T06:09:53+00:00

That's easy bro you just say " You DTF?"

jazerac · 2022-08-30T02:38:45+00:00

Be sexual. Stop being fucking so nice. Make your intentions clear. Don't be a creep about it, but be sexual. It isn't hard.

TheTruth221 · 2022-08-30T05:49:35+00:00

i tell them that i aint trying to be friends

Ragnarok992 · 2022-08-30T07:53:12+00:00

Cant flirt to save my life so i guess time to die alone

2022-08-30T04:33:59+00:00

Periodically and nonchalantly grope them.

Twix1958 · 2022-08-30T06:00:58+00:00

What do you want, a girl to fuck or would you rather skim through 1000's of girls till you find one that likes you for being you

stantibuscelsior · 2022-08-30T08:05:30+00:00

MK2718 · 2022-08-30T12:14:49+00:00

Transitioning from "Just Friends" to Boyfriend/Girlfriend

2022-08-30T12:59:39+00:00

Intentions, intentions, intentions

ZoeticLark · 2022-08-30T14:24:38+00:00

Wisdom>Knowledge>Facts>Data. That is the order of awareness. Dont rely too heavily on data as it is often far removed from the wisdom of the body. You may find some truth there, but data alone is not enough to show you have substance and are the person she might really want to date. Keep the data in mind, but work on yourself and be the kind of person you would want to date. We are all humam at the end of the day!

marshall_strud · 2022-08-30T14:43:38+00:00

By being flirty and polarizing

Previous_Active6189 · 2022-08-30T14:57:05+00:00

Tone, touch, body language, eye contact. You can talk about the Fucking weather and still seduce someone if you’re doing the other stuff right. The words themselves really aren’t that important as long as you don’t put you’re foot in your mouth and say dumb shit.

CavemanSamu · 2022-08-30T16:25:26+00:00

Lead with intent. Make it clear you like them

rwalsh138 · 2022-08-30T16:51:22+00:00

A good way to build attraction is to be funny, and tease them a bit, like they are your bratty sister. This playful and light-hearted energy is how you want them to associate you.

Designer-Survey3745 · 2022-08-30T17:19:04+00:00

Remove you clothes and start clenching your boobs

PacBoiLar · 2022-08-30T17:24:40+00:00

Honestly, you don’t need to change much. A girl will be a attracted to you based on the initial interaction. All you can really do is be confident and just a good human being. There isn’t a secret code to how you should touch them, or how you should speak. If anything, treat them as you would a friend you have just met, because that’s the reality of the situation.

What you can do: dress nicely, smell good, have a good physique, lead the conversation and activity.

After you have been a good human being for a while, try and just get closer to to them somehow. Maybe brush their arm with yours if you are walking, sit close to them, small things like this go a long way. If she is receptive to these small gestures, or doesn’t move away, then you know she probably likes you, and then find a time to go for a kiss. Read her reaction again, escalate further if you sense passion, pull away if she just wants a quick one. From there, just keep leading, being confident. Big thing for me is finding the difference between being a gentleman and a “nice guy.” That will change your life.

ethe_ze · 2022-08-30T19:34:26+00:00

I have like minimum experience but i wouldnt do it. She might think you as creepy. Just follow the number-date-sex method. Dont talk seductive before sex UNLESS you guys are both vibing a lot. Also wrong question to ask. She wont see you as a friend if youre attractive and assertive. So if your a slob and shes not then your seductive words will be creepy. So do it unless youre attractive

Top_Client9752 · 2022-08-30T20:40:25+00:00

My friend you have received some really valuable advice in this discussion, but you have a journey ahead of you that will take time, patience and perseverance. It wasn’t until I was in my forties that this all clicked into place for me, and I’ve worked with dozens of other men in the same boat. You have the benefit of starting early (we all fumbled our way through clumsy relationships before falling back into the single scene in mid-life).

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Title	How do I even talk to girls without coming off as a friend?
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Date	August 29, 2022 8:45 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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