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revente · 2022-08-29T01:09:31+00:00

No. Girls are absolutely shitty at giving signals. And guys are shitty at spotting them.

Approach whenever you're interested.

Comfortable-Unit-897 · 2022-08-29T00:25:51+00:00

If you are waiting on her to give you a sign, you are wasting time. Being cordial and talking is best.

dobbs1997 · 2022-08-28T23:34:58+00:00

it’s more like you show interest/initiate to SEE if she’s interested in you. Don’t wait for anything, you just do it.

jakedaboiii · 2022-08-29T08:53:02+00:00

You do not wait for the girl to show interest.

Seduction is sales.

You have to be okay with getting rejected.

You want to wait to see reciprocal feelings because you're scared of rejection.

Put yourself out there. If she's not interested in you...that's okay.

Onto the next. Someone will like you for you. It's a numbers game.

Good luck.

moomoo2300 · 2022-08-29T05:31:22+00:00

I’m a girl. We tend to overthink. I tend to subtly show interest but sometimes I feel too intimidated or think “well if he was genuinely attracted to me then wouldn’t he be the one to show interest/approach me first?”. I always thought that guys would be down to talk to a girl if she showed interest in them, but if they were extremely attracted to a girl then they wouldn’t be able to help themselves in approaching me first. This may be a dumb way of thinking or incorrect (I’ve never asked a guys opinion of this), but I don’t think I’m the only girl who thinks like this. I personally think as a man, you can never go wrong in approaching a woman as long as you do it respectfully and back off if she doesn’t reciprocate interest/says she’s not interested. Plus, it’s flattering and shows confidence which gives you bonus points

Lucazzz14 · 2022-08-29T00:23:03+00:00

Ask yourself who you'd rather date ...

Girl A who is excited to see you. Messages you regularly, asks questions, laughs at your crap jokes, looks in your eyes and smiles when you talk and so on. Whatever you do or plan is effortless and she doesn't flake on you unless an genuine conflict occurs and she reschedules.

Or Girl B who isn't excited to see you, doesn't ask personal questions, takes days to reply, replies with one word answers or "lol". Agrees to go out with you but conveniently forgot that she is meant to go out with friends and doesn't reschedule.

Im wondering if you need to show interest for a girl to show it back

Do you want to be friends or date her? It's like when you see a job you like ... do you just look at the advert or do you show interest by applying?

userisauser · 2022-08-28T23:59:20+00:00

It depends on how you communicate your interest. The way you ask this question makes it sound like you are going to be too direct. Women are excellent at picking up on subtle interest. If you ask her direct questions about herself and attempt to understand her, that should be plenty enough to convey your interest without losing power. Don't overtly confess anything however.

Remember, you want her to say yes, agree, or elaborate on your statements about her. If she says no, disagrees, or goes quiet, that's bad

CometAzur42069 · 2022-08-29T01:23:54+00:00

Well if you dont know which many people struggle at reading, then you can only find out by approaching and making a move blindly and learn thru experience.

But we dont have all the time in the world, and eventually you want to filter people out and not spend time barking up the wrong trees. You’ll start to read cues and understand better when girls show interest. But in the end, the best way to know will always be to ask her out.

Also what fucks up a lot of guys is they cant read signals and get mad girls “led” them on. Or what not. Regardless if you think it’s fair, this is how life is. If girls “lead” you on, maybe look at what you missed, not blaming others. It wont change your life in the future if you do.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-08-29T01:14:17+00:00

Everything we do in an interaction, consciously or unconsciously, is a move of some kind. So the most precise answer to your question is “no, because the interaction itself is a move, and there can be many reasons why I’d start interacting with someone beyond interest”. I bet that answer won’t be satisfying, though, so I’ll be more specific:

I initiate contact of some kind whether or not I can tell the person is interested, because the person’s response is what tells me their level of interest.
I do not make explicitly romantic or sexual moves until I’m being given positive signs in that direction.
Some easy ways to tell if someone is attracted to you are things like leaning into your touch, actively touching herself while talking to you, giving you bedroom eyes, pressing her lower body into you, going out of her way to touch you, among others.

Equivalent_Current_3 · 2022-08-29T03:29:01+00:00

no. If I waited for a girl to show signs that she was into me, I would never approach. I have learned that I just have to go for it to get the rejection over with so I can go on with my life without wondering "what if"

98Air · 2022-08-29T06:07:53+00:00

Watch this

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incognito3107 · 2022-08-29T07:21:34+00:00

You would rather try to match her energy, mood and attention level. If she is not holding a conversation, her emotions are flat and her body language is "tense" or "absent", you will not get anywhere with her. Just stay casual and natural, you should make it comfortable for both of you by not making big of a deal from talking to random attractive stranger girl.

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-08-29T11:59:37+00:00

No, actually the only girls i ever got with i had no idea we're into me, since they always avoided me at the gym i just assumed they weren't until i said fuck it and went for it

inline6throwaway · 2022-08-29T16:03:29+00:00

The general signals are her looking at you over and over, similar to how a guy might look at a woman he thinks is beautiful. Her being around you over and over, eye contact, randomly staring conversations with you CAN be a sign, not always though. Playing with hair, open body language toward you.

But you don't always have to wait for those signals. It's possibly that you could approach a girl who is giving no signals and she could like you or choose you as soon as you walk up to her. I've done it before. Hell she might not have seen you UNTIL you walk up to her

Traditional_Map_9206 · 2022-08-29T04:50:10+00:00

I’m just confused, why do you guys sit on this app and ask questions when you could literally go to a coffee shop or a bar and ask these questions to real life people who have experience? Like why spend all day sitting around wondering? All guys want is sex or head mostly head or even handjob? Do you think a woman is going to just do whatever you want at all times? You get what you give to the world, seriously it’s all about right time right place. If you are constantly drunk/full of yourself and/or doing drugs you will never EVER get married let alone find real love. Plus, love is a verb which is the saddest part about it. Lastly, love does not conquer all problems unfortunately :( in the saddest most black and white form: love is just mutual attraction and appreciation for each other as humans. Do I think love is meant to last forever? No. Do I think it does? Also no. I think all people eventually become selfish and take for granted the life they have created. I believe if you wake up everyday with the intention to make whoever you are currently seeing/dating/loving/fucking feel important/cherished/beautiful then that’s all that matters.

Jay-Ames · 2022-08-29T06:19:03+00:00

Most of the time women are trying to hide their intentions. So I check for only two signs

Do i want her
Is she taken

If i waited for signs of her i would miss every opportunity.

kettlebell_workout · 2022-08-28T22:10:04+00:00

Its like asking "Should I eat if I am hungry?"

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InfinityRelia · 2022-08-29T02:19:14+00:00

Yep.

Woujo · 2022-08-29T04:50:50+00:00

No. Escalation is a process. You show a little interest, she shows a little, and then it snowballs.

borderline_autistic1 · 2022-08-29T16:32:51+00:00

Fuck no

tohmmu · 2022-08-29T17:14:13+00:00

Chat with them, if you’re making someone laugh and they’re smiling you’re doing fine. You don’t need a green light to innocuously suggest a date. But read the room first, setting is important. Don’t ask someone on a date at a funeral.

The most important thing is to be fine with a polite no thanks, not let it bother you and gracefully move on.

CptHoytUdall · 2022-08-29T23:52:21+00:00

You're making this harder than it needs to be. You're both adults and everyone knows where this goes, it's no big secret. Quit wasting time and show your interest early; take the lead. If she's interested she'll follow and reciprocate. If she waffles move on. If you move on you might find that she'll start chasing you.

puma085 · 2022-08-30T08:55:23+00:00

Just approach. Signals are fickle and not really really realiable indicator that she really likes you. Some women are just friendly or playful.

Got rejected quite some time despite the women should be into me according to the"signals". Reality is a bit more complicated then shen just relying on set parameters I am afraid.

TalkShit247 · 2022-08-30T22:42:47+00:00

Yes its how ive been getting laid .. i don’t chase I prefer to be chosen ..

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