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[–]MO_drps_knwldg 28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Hope you learn this life lesson earlier than I did.
Feeling sorry for yourself, acting like a victim, and being jealous of others will only lead to misery.
You feel like a loser because you have a loser’s mentality. If you’re actually serious about changing, take ownership of your problems. The victim mindset is addictive because it gives a false sense of security.
If you want the life of a millionaire, then complaining on Reddit won’t get you there. In most instances, self-made millionaires had to put in a ton of work, get rejected, have others shit on their dream, yet they still pursued it.
[–]No_Fly_7360 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I still got this loser mentality. To be honest I think I need therapy, cause I’m dying in frustation every night. Hearing my homies with their success with girls, and they don’t even care for self-improvement as much as me. They even find it funny that I wake up early, don’t masturbate or watch porn, have a routine, reading books, skincare routine, meditate etc. I try to improve my looks, clothes, everything. That makes me wonder, what the fck is wrong with me? Its not my looks, or is it?, I get looked and noticed, now…well I used to look…It’s this anxiety bullshit from my past experienced that I need to fight. I dont even want to blame my parents anymore for causing this in me. I need therapy.
Also, I think I’m just being impatient. It’s been half a year since I started to self improve and get out of my depressive state. At least I woke up from that.
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’ve been out of therapy for a year, starting again next week. Hopefully you can find someone that works for you and is affordable. Definitely look into therapy
[–]No_Fly_7360 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yea I’ll def look into it, got me a permanenet job at a factory after highschool. Now Im just figuring out myself for a year atleast, using my money wisely on improving myself first and invest some of it, and save some for university/ college.
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[–]No_Fly_7360 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Working on myself to become more confident in myself, when you look good, you feel good. With that confident it feels easier to approach and socialize. Thats how I look at it, and Im working toward it.
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[–]No_Fly_7360 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Bro what the heck i aint gonna read all that 😭 Im just improving myself. But yea sure, if writing all that makes you feel better
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[–]No_Fly_7360 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
I understand what u mean, I dont put as much effort socially but im taking one thing at a time, right now I really enjoy improving myself, having the time and money to invest in myself is great. Idk man I just get frustrated sometimes and rant, but truth is Ive never been improving so drastically, i went from playing videogames all day and jacking off to this in a year. I realize, Progress is happening, we just moving different my boy.
(Is it rant or vent) i think I meant vent.
[–]Snakehead004 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the only comment in this thread. Everything else is fluff and bs. Well said!
[–]Tactical_INTJ 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]montanalombardy 22 points23 points24 points 4 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
Dude stop it.
Billions of average men have had sex though the history of mankind. The average woman is attracted to the average man.
Yes, some people are more fortunate. They are born rich, or look like a model, or have a talent that makes them famous. So they live awesome lives. But that is the 0.1% of people and you can't compare yourself to them.
Guess what, guys who are dumber, uglier, fatter, poorer than you are getting laid right now. There is nothing stopping you except your low self esteem.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
i don’t want to get laid. i just want a girl who likes me.
[–]GreatWealthBuilder 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Meet as many girls as you can.. better yourself at the same time. Just be happy with yourself and confident. Be interested in what girls you meet have to say.. smile. don't be creepy.
You can do it! It's simple. You'll get rejected lots, but you'll get better at increasing your win rate. Doing nothing, being a pussy and complaining won't get you anywhere.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
thank you for the tips 🙏 i truly appreciate it. it’s easier said than done but i will work on it. thank you
[–]GreatWealthBuilder 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just do it! - Nike
A lot of life is faking it till you make it. We make mistakes every day.. don't let them get to you. Learn from them and better yourself.
There are soo many people on this earth. Building relationships have very little to do with looks... it helps, but focusing on looks is shallow and a recipe for disaster. We get get ugly over time.. it's cute.
If you have anxiety or fear while speaking in certain situations, get over it. Fuck anxiety! We have no time for that. Enjoy every moment of life and be happy with yourself.
Check out toastmasters for a while if you get anxious speaking in front of people. It helps to provide a welcoming environment and helps with speaking in public/crowds. Other than that, start doing... go up to ladies and say "hi/hey, my name is.. what's yours.. are you enjoying your day/weather.. want to grab a coffee/go for a walk?"
The more you do that opens up opportunities. It's the same for your career. You open up more doors by doing it. You create your own opportunities, especially if you didn't have any headstarts in life. Build great habits; get rid of shit ones (like media, social media, constant gaming, constant drinking, constant drugs, etc). Go travel!
Many things are easier said than done, but we also put off many things that we fear. Once we do them, we usually say to ourselves that we should've done that sooner.. that it was pretty easy in hindsight.
It's summer time buds! Lots of girls will be outside seeking warm weather.
[–]Marcoscondit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why you need a girl to like you so bad what will that do for you , will it improve your life? Honestly if you keep thinking you need a girl to like you you’ll actually end up repelling them or when you get them you’ll just keep overthinking and start acting needy , or you’ll get one be happy for a few days but then realize your still not happy
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
true. i am happy with myself
Af first I think you should , Just start talking to girls like you would your guy friends, tease em like you would your guy friends , don’t think I’m a try and flirt try and think I’m a joke around with em here’s an example : one of my friends crashed his car for the third time the other day , it’s been like a week since so when I’m driving with him I’ll be like so how many highway disaster did you cause today? You can do that with girls , especially if they make a mistake or say something silly
fair enough. women are humans too
[–]Everlast23 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
I do feel like OP has a slight point.
I do think most women nowadays would rather just be single than date an average man these days.
1970s: Diane the school secretary dates Steven the grocer.
2022: Ashley the school secretary says "ew gross, no" to Shawn the Grocer.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ya times have changed since everyone is exposed to these top 0.1 of people.
Standards have risen.
Your avg girl isn’t considering the avg guy as much as before.
[–]Everlast23 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You know what's weird? I truly believe the average girl is okay with sharing a super hot guy as opposed to having an average guy all to herself.
I have plenty of female friends who have been dating high valued men for months, and they secretly know they're not the only one, but they're okay with it.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s been that way forever.
But I can’t rly blame them, the avg guy is boring af.
[–]geardluffy 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I loled pretty hard at your analogy
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Billions of average men have had sex though the history of mankind.
Tinder didn't exist back then. Lower tier women didn't have easy access to upper tier men. And not to mention back then there was no birth control. So your post isn't helpful either.
[–]CompetitionFair7686 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your big problem is not that you are average but rather that you hate yourself.
That attitude is what turns women off. And even if you claim that you don’t show this attitude to women, they can smell it.
Women have a 6th sense to smell insecurity in a guy, they can tell because the difference between a guy who is truly confident and a guy who just pretends to be confident is very noticeable. .
[–]BigBrownBicep 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can hate yourself and be unsatisfied with your life and still get laid if you can work through it and take action.. sounds like you aren’t though and your game is just weak
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your last paragraph is everything. The internet has tons of fake BS on it my dude. Those “rich” kids aren’t the only people getting laid. Also, adjust your standards.
[–]potatoeswithfries 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm shorter than you, probably average in many ways, and I have no problem with getting women. I mean, I'm not getting laid like a rockstar, but I also haven't really been lonely for even a day in the past couple of years.
The problem is not that you are average, the problem is that you are dissatisfied with yourself and that you're giving up. And it doesn't even sound like there's anything wrong with you, outside of the way you're thinking, so you're beating yourself up for no good reason.
I look at all these rich 18-22 year olds on the internet and get envious.
This is your biggest problem. I'm guessing Instagram. Instagram is making people insecure. Get off of it.
Then stop with the "incel" self-identification, since you're not one, you just haven't even properly tried to get a girlfriend. Read this, then get out of the house and talk to women. It will get better.
[–]Zealousideal6669 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bro you still gonna be an incel while you hate yourself and hate everything and everyone around you. You know what the single biggest things are that makes the difference between successful guys and average guys? Simply habits and mindset. You you're thinking the same thought as a guy who doesn't get girls and you're doing the things that you normally do sure everything's gonna be the same. So you have to act differently, behave differently and think differently then magical things can happen
you’re right, i need to believe in myself more. believe i can win. it’s the mindset that matters. thank you for the help, i will work on that 🙏
[–]Marcoscondit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I hear people say this and think it’s bs . My neighbor is a fat soy boy looking dork and he’s dating one of my sisters best friend who is fine Af, and no he’s not rich or tall, been together a minute, I know a guy I worked with who is 43 looking 50 , he ain’t rich was a cook at a fast food place and I found out he was banging this fine 19 year old I was trying to fuck and this dude short bald dark and fat honestly I still almost puke thinking about it and I knew that girl for a while she wasn’t a hoe either she actually rejected alot of guys at my work so it was more shocking she chose that dude other girls couldn’t believe it either
damn. i should stop making excuses then
[–]Awkward_Management28 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He could be simping
[–]DrinksAreOnTheHouse 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
With this attitude, youll never get laid. I guarantee it.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
well i guess there’s no hope for me
[–]Mean-Spirit-1437 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ever thought about going to therapy? You’re deeply insecure and self conscious. Sounds like you don’t know how to change this. Go talk to a professional about it who can give you some advice on how to improve yourself. There’s hope for you if you’re willing to work on yourself.
[–]Total_Obligation_371 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I knew I'd find a comment like this. You don't actually care about getting what you want. You just want to be all emo on the internet and have people validate your stupid emotions. I'm sure when you're on your deathbed you'll be really proud of all the sad points you got on the internet. Not even gonna bother responding to any other comment you make, it's all gonna be loser talk. Unbelievable.
aye thanks for the positive vibes mane. really helpful 🤡
[–]Total_Obligation_371 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I guess kill yourself then? Not even sure what the point of this post is other than childish crying and trying to get emotional validation from people on the internet. Quit being a fucking baby and BECOME above average. Go to the gym. Dress edgier/sexier. Go approach girls and talk to them and get better at it. Do anything other than be a little whiny baby on the internet. And get the fuck off Instagram and whatever dumbass apps you have. The universe doesn't care that you're sad. You'll either get what you want or you won't. It's up to you. I swear to God, some people.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
hey, fuck you man. fuck you. i am working on myself. i have a rocking body and six pack. what help are you to tell other people who are struggling to kill themselves? a psycho. nobody may give a shit about my emotions but that doesn’t mean i need to shove them down and they aren’t valid. if you are too bogged down by posts like this, then you need to take a look at yourself. go fuck yourself pal :)
[–]Total_Obligation_371 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I have no problem with people struggling. I have a problem with whiny babies just looking for validation on the internet. You didn't even ask a question. You just posted your situation and whined the whole time.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You lack empathy and need to take a look at yourself. Of course you have no problem with people struggling because you do not care. Am I not allowed to voice my problems on reddit? If you have nothing good to say, then fuck off. Simple as that. You aren’t a good person, I can tell you that
[–]Total_Obligation_371 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If I have nothing good to say then I shouldn't say anything? But your entire post was nothing good. How is what you're doing different from what I'm doing. We're both just saying random negative s***. I never said you weren't allowed to post what you want on reddit. But I'm allowed to come on here and say what I want too. That's how the real world works. Maybe if you accepted that and weren't so much about your feelings and your safe space, you wouldn't be such a huge baby.
[–]epimpstyle -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You said that "women look at me from time to time"... but the question is what are you doing at that moment?
Maybe you don't like the girl who is looking at you? Why don't you talk to her?
[–]Nani21k -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro just take a deep ass breath and chill, it seems like your insecurities are fucking with your mindset, for you to think this way, listen up my friend, dont ever do something for other people just to please them, and make them like you, and those people you are envious over, are just like you and every single person out there, just with more money thats all, but suprise suprise that may not make them more likeable nor will girls flock around them, if thats all they care about, wich is the end results of a loser with no life, and even guys dont like those who are like that
[–]Tactical_INTJ -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you ever feel too weak, just watch those UFC fighters who are way out of their prime still risking their lives inside the octagon for some money.
If that can happen, you can sure go out and talk to some girls to brighten your day at least.
[–]alent3976 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
so do something about it
[–]SadBox4529 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
19……stop right there. Dude what the hell are you stressing about you’re still a baby. How’s the best time to get a skill, eduction or qualification. You’ll be 23 or 24 when you graduate. Hit on chicks but don’t hate yourself man. Wtf??? You have a whole world a head of you.
[–]SadBox4529 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Stop comparing yourself to them
[–]rudebwoy100 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Unless your goal is have some kind of a harem in a mansion/castle somewhere you shouldn't have issues attracting a woman. Get over your insecurities and put yourself out there my guy.
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