When a tinder girl wants to bring a friend on the first date, how do you turn it down without sounding annoyed

catanistan · 2022-05-06T06:15:45+00:00

My date once brought a guy along to a supposed date. I tried really hard to not be affected. Became friends with the guy through the evening. Girl went home with me that night.

Contango6969 · 2022-05-06T02:34:33+00:00

I would take them to a bar and then youre the cool guy who walks in the door with two girls. Youll probably get more girls looking your way and you have the option to roll off both of them if you want and use that social proof. Or just come back later on or the next day. Just an idea.

DegenDame · 2022-05-06T07:37:14+00:00

At least she asked in advance and you had some warning. I’ve been in a few dates where he tells me after we get going that “oh my friend so-and-so is meeting us there…” and then it was me (F) with 3 bitter divorced single dads complaining about their ex-wives and telling me “don’t have kids!” What a fun time that was. /s

JustCallMeGoku · 2022-05-06T02:33:11+00:00

Just realize that when a girl invites a friend on a date, you may not make ladies feel safe. Not to assume, but it might not be you, it could just be ladies you pick are being safe, don’t take it personally.

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2022-05-06T12:11:22+00:00

Happened to me. It wasn't that bad and we fucked on the second date. There ya go.

kyle_fall · 2022-05-06T15:24:09+00:00

I don't know where you guys live but I've never heard of this before. Only time I had a girl bring someone else is when I asked out this Christian girl and she brought her older sister to chaperone lol.

Previous_Corner3434 · 2022-05-06T03:57:50+00:00

You can say no, but you might want to stop and think about this woman first. If she’s never met you and doesn’t know you ,bringing a friend is a safety precaution.

rhofire · 2022-05-06T03:11:58+00:00

Just tell her that's not what you're looking for.

Better still, forget her and look for someone who is serious about meeting you.

chankletavoladora · 2022-05-06T07:41:00+00:00

A girl invited a whole group of people to our first date. I talked to all but had her sitting next to me. Would grab her arm and tell her stuff in her ear. Was flirty but kept talking to everyone like I didn’t care. Made out with her that night. I did end up banging her but In hindsight, it was way too much effort. The girl kept introducing me to different sets of friends that would filter me. I passed everything but then decided to bow out. I don’t need to be filtered by anyone was the main reason. Should’ve done it way before, stayed cause I was curios and amused. I wondered if I could pass these shit tests I guess. But in conclusion: This is a red flag. if they are not willing to have a normal date without anyone else, NEXT her.

Edit: had to edit since in my haste didn’t realize the terrible job autocorrect did on me. Sorry.

2022-05-06T13:09:43+00:00

Say no?

Altruistic_Flow_9253 · 2022-05-06T17:14:04+00:00

If she’s interested truth is she’d meet you at a park at night, but if she’s bringing a friend it’s probably cause she not feeling you like you feeling her. Just my two cents dude, I’d go against that. Just tell her “If you ain’t interested enough to see me by yourself then don’t see me at all”. That’s what I’d do. Best thing to realise is there’s plenty of fish in the sea and a lot of em ain’t gonna dick you round by bring a mate along. Imagine you brought your mate along to see a girl, it’s weird

Woujo · 2022-05-06T15:16:47+00:00

This shouldn't be happening so much. Are you not making clear it is a date?

weird-but-hawt · 2022-05-06T15:38:01+00:00

If she's a girl, why not

If its a dude i would be weirded out as well... Maybe just go, see if its a chill dude if not Finish you drink without paying, say u have to go to the bathroom really quick 'n leave.

Definitely arrange your own transportation

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VergilArcanis · 2022-05-06T13:10:41+00:00

The bringing a friend is partly for their safety, which if you make no moves to deny, it'll show that you aren't hiding anything and can be trusted.

Baal-Hadad · 2022-05-06T13:14:41+00:00

I've had tinder dates bring a friend. It's not a big deal. You just work them both and see how it turns out.

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TastyRice2581 · 2022-05-06T18:45:01+00:00

Take them to a bar.That way maybe some guy hits it off with the friend and youre in the clear.Win win situation.

fly_away5 · 2022-05-06T06:26:03+00:00

Maybe she is just shy or scared!

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NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2022-05-06T12:03:38+00:00

Women are afraid of being murdered. If you don't spend a little time getting to know them or take them to very public, well-lit places you can expect this behavior.

What you should be asking yourself is how do YOU make a woman feel safe/secure enough that she doesn't fear being killed by you?

mikejamesone · 2022-05-06T06:51:37+00:00

Girls are sceptical of dating apps now and have basically given up hope as they know most guys they meet don't want anything serious. Best to go out and do day game or night game at bars / clubs 🤷‍♂️

2022-05-06T14:17:21+00:00

This isn’t always the worst thing but sometimes can be the one thing that will kill rapport if you don’t handle it right or give too much attention to the other person.

Girl asked if she could bring a friend to a sexy photoshoot we gonna do together . I end up making out with both girls . While I was making out with one the other would be with the camera taking pictures and vice versa . I stripped them both naked in my bed and filmed and got photos of it .

However , recently I went to hung out with a girl and she brought her brother , dude is good looking and had really good physique. I was trying to make friends with him but I guess the girl had low self esteem or something . She got weirdly out at the end when I was just me and her and I said something about him . Her reaction got me speechless and I was like ah fuck now she thinks I’m more interested in her brother than her .

I asked if she wanted to get inside and she refused. I asked her if she wanted to go on a date soon and she said she is already seeing someone which I think was just an excuse to turn me down .

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2022-05-06T11:01:22+00:00

Idk man I'd allow it. Chances are she's just being safe and thats legitimate. She doesn't know you you're just a dude from the internet.

Hit up one of your buddies and invite them too. Best case scenario one or both of you gets laid. Worst case scenario it's a bust. Hell, hang out with both girls. But either option is better than hanging out alone or with your buddies.

queenieofrandom · 2022-05-06T10:47:53+00:00

My mate brought a friend to her first date with her now husband. Don't sweat it.

R4nD0m57 · 2022-05-06T15:14:26+00:00

It's obviously in order to vet you, if you are safe, fun, and not awk, you should be able to segway into a situation without them and it be totally natural

ecologamer · 2022-05-06T18:19:53+00:00

I’m curious, can you expand on why nothing good comes out of a girl bringing their friend on the first date? From my point of view, they are not comfortable with meeting someone they don’t really know alone, which is why they make the request.

2022-05-06T20:53:16+00:00

A very lot of good advice here.

Title	When a tinder girl wants to bring a friend on the first date, how do you turn it down without sounding annoyed
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Date	May 6, 2022 2:28 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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