What are the best spots for a first date? What are the worst spots

berttbeans996 · 2021-12-17T04:15:00+00:00

Personally I like arcades because I’m not much of a good conversationalist. Gives us something to do

letmereaddamnit · 2021-12-17T10:35:56+00:00

Lots of people in this thread go to strip clubs apparently

Oebreezy · 2021-12-17T04:19:05+00:00

Best: bars, breweries, somewhere you can talk and get to know each other

Worst: funeral, strip club, somewhere your ex frequents

HyakuShichifukujin · 2021-12-17T04:27:57+00:00

Worst places in practice that are non joke answers that are traditionally thought of as good: movie (you can’t actually talk to each other), fancy dinner (this sets the wrong frame, unless your goal is to take 10 dates to get laid and you hate money).

Best (for reasons that are the opposite of the above): a relaxed but cool bar or café, or straight up your place if you can swing it.

laddy_McTaegue · 2021-12-17T11:03:12+00:00

I don’t recommend kink parties for a first date.

2021-12-17T13:37:51+00:00

Best: bars, lounges, breweries, coffee shops, and walking at the park.

These are best due to being very one on one and forcing you to engage in verbal as well as non-verbal communication.

Worst: movie theaters.

Neutral: amusement parks and restaurants can either be good or bad, but this 100% depends on who you’re out on the date with.

Stay_Curious85 · 2021-12-17T04:53:42+00:00

Brunch dates. You got all day to hang out if it’s great, and if it sucks, you got it out of the way and can go do something you enjoy

Live-Ad-6309 · 2021-12-17T09:14:53+00:00

Best: coffee shop, public park, bar

Worst: Michelin start restaurant, strip club, movie

The best first place spots are casual, do not have specific time commitments, are not expensive, and allow for conversation.

shaggy2gay · 2021-12-17T08:39:42+00:00

In descending order of preferability:

- Your place

- Her place

- A bar within 3 blocks of your place

- A park within 3 blocks of your place

- A coffee shop within 3 blocks of your place

- Repeat above but in reference to her place

Avoid: restaurants, movie theaters, anything where you can't talk, anything where you're seated directly across from one another like it's a job interview, anything that involves pets, anything involving a human friend or friends also being present

WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-12-17T15:51:05+00:00

Bars are no1. Alcohol eases her and you have time to talk. Minigolf also helps bc its cheap and you do an activity.

MomsSpecialFriend · 2021-12-17T17:06:24+00:00

Botanical gardens, museums, aquariums- anywhere that you can be entertained and have private conversation. Worst first date is movies, nightclubs, hikes and extreme sports.

2021-12-18T03:53:38+00:00

Arcade, bowling or mini golf after you’ve gone for dinner, being active means you can chat but won’t be awkward. NEVER go to the movies, you both sit there awkwardly and don’t really get a chance to know each other

Riley_ · 2021-12-17T04:25:36+00:00

Cheap bar near home.

BagEmpty6931 · 2021-12-17T07:13:00+00:00

One of my very best: playing frisbee at the park

Worst: coffee shop, especially if you sit in front of each other.

Bro1616161616 · 2021-12-17T15:28:58+00:00

Why is everyone saying bars? What if you don’t drink? What if she doesn’t? What if they’re a raging alcoholic and get plastered to the point where the conversation is incoherent?

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-12-17T15:42:57+00:00

I disagree throughly with some of the other commenters that brunch dates are the best first dates.

Daytime dates—particularly coffee/breakfast dates—early on reinforce the image of you as a platonic friend, not a potential romantic or sexual partner. Brunches are fine once you get to know someone a little and are possibly headed down the path of a relationship, but the first initial dates should be at night.

Nighttime dates are more romantic, there’s more build up/anticipation, and the likelihood for sex to occur is greater. Daytime dates are safe, and enjoyable, but nighttime dates have an element that puts you in the frame of a romantic partner, not a pleasant friend.

This doesn’t mean you have to go out on a expensive dinner, but you want to pick a nighttime activity where you are a) talking to each other directly and interacting the majority of the time b) maintaining consistent eye contact. You can do both of these at brunch, but the energy between a dinner/drinks at night vs brunch are worlds apart.

If you pick an nighttime date, avoid movies, shows, and concerts, etc. While these can be emotionally engaging activities, your attention is diverted elsewhere. The initial bonding happens when you talk, and the primary source of emotions comes from the person you are interacting with, not an external distraction.

DryAdhesiveness6579 · 2021-12-17T14:13:14+00:00

emperatrizyuiza · 2021-12-17T16:05:46+00:00

Coffee shop by my house or walk around the lake/park by my house (f). I try to keep first dates under 1 hour and convenient for me but free for the guy. If a guy isn’t willing to come to my area then I just don’t hang out with him.

deviant-lover · 2021-12-17T21:06:14+00:00

Worst: Anything too high effort, or anything too low effort. Fancy restaurant, McDonalds, movie theater.

Best: Anything that's casual and fun.

CloudiLungz · 2021-12-18T01:38:31+00:00

I took her on a picnic in a really pretty nature place and got her some flowers. I’m kind of cheesy and old fashioned lol. She absolutely loved it we talked for hours and I got to smash 🗿

waywardwaif · 2021-12-17T15:42:22+00:00

A book store with a coffee and snack shop....it's great because you can what they're interested in, how bougie they are with their drinks and if they are willing to stuff their face with sweets in front of you. You can wander together and talk to get to know one another. It's an awesome low key first date and where my now husband fucking nailed it.

2021-12-17T15:23:01+00:00

Best: a bar Worst: movie theater

GhoulChaser · 2021-12-18T07:55:09+00:00

Depends on what you’re trying to get out of the date to begin with. If you’re just trying to screw don’t try to “impress” her by taking her on a fancy date without her working for that. If you have a car a drive thru and a chat in the car honestly will suffice. You cannot invest in a women until you see she’s worth investing in. A dinner is already straining your wallet because 10/10 she’s most likely expecting you to pay. A walk at a park. Or a cafe where you guys can build rapport is something good. I would usually go to a bar get a drink, finish it and walk around with the girl and just talk late into the night. If you want something serious with her. Take your time investing in her and feel her out( not in that way) if she shows you that she wants the same thing as you brunch is a safe bet. I try to stay far away from dinners unless I know she knows what comes after the bill.

RPslimjim · 2021-12-17T15:41:04+00:00

Cheap and quiet/ relaxing. I usually do coffee or a walk in the park. That’s good because it’s low cost and low effort. Depending on how much you’re dating it can get expensive.

Worst spots are dinner dates or movie dates. Expensive and you can’t really talk to the girl and find out how much she’s into you.

Shifty312 · 2021-12-17T16:20:00+00:00

I get that the Movies isn't great for creating conversations, but why would it be the "worst" place for a date?

TestaverdeRules · 2021-12-17T13:18:03+00:00

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2021-12-17T14:13:56+00:00

I like going to the movies and grabbing food after idk it gives you time to acclimate to them and just relax with them and then you can grab food and talk and if there’s nothing to talk about talk about the movie

But I also love going to the movies so I’m a lil biased

shopifypartner11 · 2021-12-17T17:42:20+00:00

Worst is like movie theater where u cannot communicate with each other much while i think the best is to hang out at a coffee shop ^{^} you both will have time to chit chat

blakwoods · 2021-12-17T20:27:04+00:00

Why are bars or places where there’s alcohol a good place for a date? I wanna be sober and talk. Plus, it feels wrong talking to an inebriated woman on a date.

Bigtitsobsession · 2021-12-17T22:46:06+00:00

Your bed

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-12-17T23:18:56+00:00

Ur place

Vikk773 · 2021-12-17T23:48:44+00:00

from personal experience, the worst spot is the mall, atleast for a first date. literally i got food with the girl, walked around the mall, looked at clothes, and left.

for the best im not too sure because i don’t personally have too much expeirence, but something interactive, like i saw someone say an arcade, maybe lazer tag, something where you can both engage in something and laugh about it because its more personal and enjoysble that way, imo

Stujitsu2 · 2021-12-18T00:48:13+00:00

Best is quiet bar/lounge. Classier the better

Tier 2: Billiards/bowling/mini-golf/restuarant/cafe

Worst: Movies or anything in the wilderness.

Top Secret: Take her to see a play. They serve drinks and tend to be rife with adult humor and innuendo

EU-Howdie · 2021-12-18T11:18:14+00:00

Worst is a too loud place !!

Title	What are the best spots for a first date? What are the worst spots
Author	GalaCad2003
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Date	December 17, 2021 4:08 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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