Dating apps; girls keep talking to me but are hesitant of grabbing a drink with me

Therocksays2020 · 2021-11-17T21:18:36+00:00

You have to use your time efficiently on apps. If you offer a date and time. She either says yes or pitches another day “how about Wednesday” if she does not. Don’t waste your time

I’m not anti dating apps but there are so many women who use them and have no intention of meeting.

One trend in your post is your always catering to them. Stop wasting your time bro. If a chick is feeling it she will be happy to meet up

burncushlikewood · 2021-11-18T07:22:33+00:00

Dude get off the internet to pick up chicks and head out and do some approaches, I have never been a fan of online dating, it's a woman's market on those apps, in person as a man it puts you in control, just my thoughts

LandscapeClear1630 · 2021-11-17T23:45:35+00:00

Way too many females only use dating apps for validation, mate. Not all of them want to seriously meet up with anyone.

You need to weed out the useless.

JobRevolutionary946 · 2021-11-17T21:59:57+00:00

Always balance familiarity with mystery. If they feel too familiar they wont he curious. If they arent familiar enough then they will be hesitant to trust you. Snap them every once in a while and post frequently on your story

This goes without saying is get their snap before asking them out but be forward with them about your intention of going out, tinder and bumble are great at wasting guy's time at the expense of your attention supplying women's egos

ryukingu · 2021-11-18T02:04:35+00:00

They’re on there to waste your time. They just want the attention and conversation they have no intention of actually meeting up with you. Also get the number ASAP

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-17T22:15:57+00:00

As another poster said you are catering to them, you are not a challenge at all because whatever they say you wjll go, okay no problem, how about we meet another day. That doesn't work? Okay how about the day after? That doesn't work? How about the day after the day after? Still doesn't work? How about....

Just be direct, to the point, be specific, stop wjth the generalities. Tell them what you want to do don't ask. Tell them, Let's go out Friday night, grab a drink at 5 at this and that bar.

saynotolean · 2021-11-17T21:18:19+00:00

My advise would be to not ask them out thru the dating app. The goal of a dating app is to get off that shit asap. Get their number or snapchat or someshit and ask to meet up throight there. All these girls get way more matches then you do and they all want to hangout w her you feel? If u take the convo off the dating app to message or someshit she is gon feel like u r less of a stranger and more of a friend/someone she talks to

2021-11-17T22:21:33+00:00

she probably just likes the attention and can't get enough of it as she's spinning ten different guys.

cut bait and move on.

Ecstatic-Flounder-48 · 2021-11-17T22:26:32+00:00

OP this is probably the first and only time I'll ever have to give this advice but have you considered maybe they just want to hook up?

It's tinder. I've met city girls that will match with guys and expect to get an address in the first 3 messages because they want to bump nasties. MAYBE (and I say this because you claim to be attractive), you should just offer to bump nastiest in a really direct way and see if the outcome changes. I look like a frat guy but don't act that way and a lot of girls I've been with see it as way out of character. SO maybe you've got the same vibe.

Redis_Sara · 2021-11-17T21:40:20+00:00

I have the same problem…

TensionPrestigious29 · 2021-11-18T03:40:32+00:00

There are a lot of scammer profiles. I’m female and ask them to coffee and tell them if they can’t meet in person I don’t trust that they are real and I won’t chat anymore.

inshanester · 2021-11-18T02:34:53+00:00

Most girls on apps just want the validation, next!

youcheekydelinquent · 2021-11-18T00:48:43+00:00

Try something other than drinks? Dance, hike, park, museum, volunteer, feed her, get ice cream, grocery shop and cook, zoo, arcade

Like you can literally seduce someone anywhere lol it doesn't have to be a bar/drinking vibe.

Canadian-Seductioner · 2021-11-17T22:45:50+00:00

Spend the first few messages establishing that you're a normal guy and not a creep/loser (ask about their weekend, talk about yours, etc) then ask her out on the date by saying something like "hey we should grab a drink soon, what do you think?". When she says yes, say "alright pass me your number/IG so we can figure out the time and place". Then have the logistics conversation in the DMs/through text.

This is how I do it and I rarely get flaked on.

2021-11-17T22:19:28+00:00

3-5 messages back and forth then secure number or snap worst case

HorusCok · 2021-11-18T00:02:23+00:00

What fascist hellhole do you live in that is still locked down?

TheCinnamonBoi · 2021-11-18T02:33:53+00:00

Lookup “playing with fire tinder” on YouTube

RunsFastAfterCoffee · 2021-11-18T20:39:38+00:00

I'm a woman and I say absolutely bounce as soon as you ask a woman out for a date and when she can't make it she doesn't counter-offer something else. No counter offer means she's not that into you or is just super lazy. People who are interested will make it easy to meet up with them.

I'm not on tinder because I'm looking for a relationship. If that's what you're looking for too I suggest a more relationship oriented app like hinge or even bumble.

bojackhhorseman · 2021-11-17T21:17:25+00:00

I'm not an attractive dude. I'm 5/10 in the looks department. I'm not photogenic. I get zero matches on Tinder or Bumble, as no woman wants to talk to me. I want lots of women on Tinder and Bumble to like me, lust after me, and talk to me, but we all want what we can't have.

I wish I could help you.

gladwrappedthecat · 2021-11-18T13:27:46+00:00

If you're good looking it can be intimidating for women to meet. Not all of them of course, but some. Have you tried doing a video chat as a "let's video chat and see if we want to meet in person sometime" as a way to take the pressure off them. Genuinely interested if you've tried a video chat?

Monty_Booourns · 2021-11-18T02:04:11+00:00

Had the same problem as you. We also have lots of covid restrictions where I am. What works better for me is ask them if they wanna do a phone call to get to know you better. Once you actually talk to them there is more of a connection and they will be more likely to go out on a date. Try it out.

gabihg · 2021-11-18T08:30:17+00:00

It’s pretty crappy that she initiated and then kept saying No. Maybe try asking something like “When is good for you?” That puts the ball back in her court.

I definitely get nervous about meeting people too soon. “Too soon” for me means before I feel safe meeting up with them. That said, I would not suggest meeting up if I wasn’t ready for that.

gucciwillis · 2021-11-18T10:14:51+00:00

Move it to text or snapchat and then ask. Ask her to let you know when she’s free

ChubbaChubzz · 2021-11-18T13:34:03+00:00

Show diq

AruiMD · 2021-11-18T19:18:15+00:00

Can you blame em? Imagine life as a female.

I bet 50% of my thoughts would literally be, is this guy trying to kill me?

Title	Dating apps; girls keep talking to me but are hesitant of grabbing a drink with me
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Date	November 17, 2021 9:13 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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