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toebob · 2021-10-04T18:28:48+00:00

So you don’t want anyone who is actively pursuing you because you want to do the pursuing. You also don’t want the men who would want to be pursued because they are all too submissive for you.

So you want someone who is dominant but willing to be “hunted” by you. Who is interested in you but doesn’t want to pursue you.

I don’t see how that works out at all.

kawasakizx7rMonster · 2021-10-04T20:26:44+00:00

With respect may be a really nice person yet generally most men prefer a feminine woman over say a woman with career type masculine dominant traits. Because woman in authority/ roles usually have difficulty turning off from their professional careers. Hence the reason why you are getting submissive men.

Seems like best going for a older gentleman who is a higher earner and likes dominant woman. Unless wrong and you dress girly and can be genuine feminine outside of workplace. Maybe consider asking the guys who you were interested in what they thought about you, good to get honest feedback. Consider a matchmaker so your looking with serious intention to have relationship with right men who qualify. Good luck to you.

recyclablebanthas · 2021-10-05T03:44:46+00:00

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To be clear, I have men trying to pursue me, but I'm a hunter and I like grabbing my own catches. Being chased is a turn off for me. That victory has to be mine.

I find that I'm drawing only submissive men which is not what I'm interested in. I'm looking for men like myself.

I mean, you are likely answering your own question here.

Men are pursuing you but you're screening those guys out.
Though it's a little unclear whether you're screening out any guy who simply initiates or makes moves?
If you're screening out all guys who pursue you, then that's only going to leave you with the submissive ones.

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I'm not looking to change myself....

You're not going to get different results unless you change something. That doesn't mean you have to change who you are as a person.

Like it or not, if you're not getting the results you like in social interactions, that tracks back to your social skills. Which means that there's room for improvement there that you apparently haven't identified yet.

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EDIT: I've seen some bits in the thread here where you mentioned that you get numbers and such but then it fizzles out after that.

Once things go to online interactions, it's easy for this to happen unless one of the two people is actively setting up a meet.

The answer might be stirring you in the face: one of you has to suggest hanging out or it's not going to happen and you'll become online pen pals.

Doesn't need to be complicated: "Hey I'm going to location XYZ to do activity ABC.... You're welcome to join me."

Ecstatic-Flounder-48 · 2021-10-05T13:29:24+00:00

OP there is a tendency for both men and women that struggle in seduction to act like everybody else is the problem. This is the impression I get from your post. I suggest you go back and objectively evaluate your problem areas and come back when you’re honest with yourself.

It might suck, but it’s always the fastest path to success.

MuMuGorgeus · 2021-10-05T17:59:01+00:00

Lady, you are all over the place. What do you want? Is it a man that makes you feel special or is it whatever you are saying?

Narcan9 · 2021-10-05T05:55:53+00:00

Alpha women are just so annoying and exhausting to deal with. They're always fighting for control. Make everything a competition. Always wanting to be right, and won't admit when they're wrong.

And whereas men are willing to date down, women want to date up. When she's already at the top of her world, it leaves a very small pool of eligible men.

I was in a relationship with a university math professor. A woman in a Very male industry. I loved how intelligent she was. She was also hot, fit, and the sex was great. It was also all of the annoying shit I mentioned above. She Just wasn't worth the headache.

OverCommunication432 · 2021-10-04T18:53:36+00:00

I think you might need a switch, but someone who leans on dom.

Bogzbony · 2021-10-05T16:42:59+00:00

You're not too intimidating, it just doesn't make sense. As people said you want to "hunt" a dominant man while dominant men will "hunt" you and you will disqualify them because they do. So the only chance is to meet them and shoot first so you can get the "huntress" status but aren't you passive like most of women are when it comes to seduction?

I think you should work on yourself and on what you really want by adding some rationality.

Best of luck to you.

blessedwiththecurse · 2021-10-04T21:58:14+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience like this before. There was this girl in my uni who was known to be quite dominant and not many guys approached her. When she walked in a room you could sense her presence because girls were intimidated by her and guys were into her but put her on a pedestal. At the time I had a solid rotation so didn’t see the reason to chase and flirt much. I decided to get to know her abit completely platonically which made her feel some type of way because most guys are too submissive around her. What she then did was invite me to study with her in the library sometimes. I’d bring one of my girls with me just to see how she’d react and she was literally hooked to me. Everytime I wouldn’t give her the validation she’d constantly want my approval more. She ended up pursuing me for a while until we ended up hooking up. So to answer your question, you should go for guys that know game. Go for the guys that have exceptional social skills because they probably can read the room well and know when you’re making a move. Go to some expensive bars or exclusive nightclubs that’s where you’ll find them

TheConnoissuer · 2021-10-05T07:59:21+00:00

You have masculine traits and are looking for a masculine man. That will never work out for you. It's best to just accept what you can get because what you described is never going to happen. Find a nice submissive guy who you can dominate because that's all you can get.

The guy you want will never be attracted to a dominate masculine woman. It's like 2 magnets flipped around, too much resistance for them to make a connection.

MBPz2251 · 2021-10-05T17:26:25+00:00

Listen to Jordan Peterson’s take on high caliber professional women dealing with relationships. It might help you sort out how to pursue what your looking for. Women in your situation have a tough deal for finding suitable men nowadays.

AcceptableAd1523 · 2021-10-05T17:59:48+00:00

It sounds like you're looking for a brat tamer?

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-05T02:30:06+00:00

Most men like feminine women..

You seem to be the opposite of that..

1master_dom · 2021-10-05T03:51:29+00:00

Unfortunately you’re not what alpha men are attracted to.

No feminine woman sees men as prey to catch. Any man with an alpha bone in his body would vomit at that idea.

It also doesn’t help that this is reinforced by your stature.

You’re playing a losing game, either learn how to be submissive/ feminine or accept the submissive beta males who will appreciate what you have.

Awaken-the-guardian · 2021-10-05T04:38:01+00:00

It seems that you want to be the alpha in the relationship. As a man I can appreciate a confident, self assured woman but not a dominant one. That doesn't work for me no matter how attractive she is. Not sure if two alphas are destined to be together. Not for long, anyway. That's not to say you won't find what you're looking for. Good luck.

Itchy-Distribution83 · 2021-10-05T17:17:45+00:00

Sounds like a troll

AelfredRex · 2021-10-04T20:51:41+00:00

What you're looking for is a man who'll lead you on a merry chase. One who will always dance a step away but draw you deeper and deeper in. Then when he lets you catch him, you're so frothed up from the chase that his touch is lightning.

Most guys are dogs who just chase tails because that's what dogs do. What you want is a rat, one who likes to be chased. Rats are usually found in the underground... artists, musicians, bohemians. You may want to reconsider your hunting grounds.

gmilfmoneymilk · 2021-10-04T18:58:39+00:00

Well, you have a 100% chance with the guys who are pursuing you. And I bet some of them aren't totally submissive, some are probably really hot.

You have a 50% chance with the guys you're trying to pursue, and from what you've said, they're all turning you down.

I'd be grateful if I even got approached by one girl in my life, I have to do all the approaching, and I fail every single time. If you want to succeed, the best way is to find it in yourself to give those guys a chance.

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tes_befil · 2021-10-05T01:24:15+00:00

I don't see any issue with this. It sounds like the man you're looking for isn't the majority of men. A dominant man that women chase is not as common. You just have to keep looking.

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DaydreamingMister · 2021-10-04T19:10:26+00:00

Hmm... When you see the kind of guy you like, what happens next - what do you do as this "hunter who likes grabbing her own catches"?

shikendiner · 2021-10-05T04:52:58+00:00

are you a Sagittarius?

IssueInteresting1203 · 2021-10-05T18:17:10+00:00

I’m comfortable with ladies like you and I am not submissive 😉

MmmNeapolitan · 2021-10-05T23:36:38+00:00

I've been thinking about this all day. Do you play sports? What if you setup first dates as 1v1 basketball or something like that where you can both assert dominance through your competitiveness? Lots of opportunities for banter and physical contact

MetaphysicPhilosophy · 2021-10-06T00:00:36+00:00

You are contradicting yourself. You don't like submissive men, yet you want to be the one who chases men? Either stop chasing men or start liking submissive guys because otherwise nothing is going to change. I recommend just being normal and not chasing guys. This is weird for a woman to do. It's normal for a woman to like dominant guys, but abnormal to be the one who chases. You should be the catch, not the other way around. Just because you are six foot doesn't mean men won't go after you, especially the taller guys who find you attractive.

curdea · 2021-10-06T01:11:27+00:00

it's easy,just pursues a dominant man who dont interests in you.but normally,if a man doesnt like you,he does not like you,hard to change.

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