Tension with girl on houseparty but she has a boyfriend. What do I do?

CaptainShagger · 2021-09-06T13:52:34+00:00

Personally, I’d never advise on going after a chick who’s got a BF. It can get messy for both parties.

I currently have a GF. But whilst I was single in University, I’d always avoid girls who have a BF solely out of respect. Don’t be a home wrecker.

I can remember this one girl that lived in a flat above me during university. She had a BF but would always hit on me and try to come back to mine after flat nights out and talk about how much she was bored of her BF.

The moral is, the relationship they’re in could just be going through a rough patch. You could well just be the little escape she’s looking for. But it’ll only make things worse for her and her BF. If she’s not happy with her current BF it’s not your responsibility to show her that. She should be able to decide for herself and finish it the right way. Don’t be a home wrecker.

CommercialFig344 · 2021-09-06T13:45:53+00:00

That's a sure way to fuck up your entire social circle. Be abundant my man. Have sex only with what I call the "orbiters". Never with inner circle/outer circle girls that you're likely to see more often. With those you create friendships, so they'll be introducing their girl friends to you.

CommercialFig344 · 2021-09-06T14:02:12+00:00

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PoPoChao · 2021-09-06T15:06:32+00:00

I felt pretty shitty fucking a girl with a boyfriend. She tried to fuck me a few other times when she was with different dudes and I said no. It doesn’t feel right to me. If you have no guilt or shame in doing it, go for it. But then you risk retaliation from the boyfriend. Ultimately if a girl is going to fuck around on their boyfriend, she’ll fuck around on you. They’re not happy and not mature enough to end things with whoever they are with. Shit like this makes me pessimistic on women.

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2021-09-06T15:53:02+00:00

At some point in your life, my dude, you'll need to decide how much your self esteem and personal worth is actual worth. If this low hanging fruit is going to make you happy just be prepared for the consequences. She could get pregnant. You could get shot by a jealous bf. Don't chase validation from bad situations. I have had low hanging fruit before & after a few decades it no longer registers in my mind. I'd much rather be with someone I respect. Don't discount post nut clarity.

Renshato · 2021-09-06T16:18:10+00:00

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rewinder909 · 2021-09-06T15:51:20+00:00

Not worth at all. Just do your thing and show that you are a cool person to be around, if she's really into you she can end breaking up with her boyfriend. But kinda hard since they already have a relationship built, depends on the time they've been together. There's still plenty of fish in the sea.

Mymomdidwhat · 2021-09-06T13:58:18+00:00

Don’t fuck a girl with a BF. Especially if you know allot of the same people. Some chick ain’t worth the hassle.

kev1nshmev1n · 2021-09-06T13:32:34+00:00

My dad had a saying for this exact situation. “If she don’t mind, he don’t matter”.

bubblegummybear · 2021-09-06T14:48:14+00:00

Move on

069reasonswhy · 2021-09-06T15:18:54+00:00

It just gonna bring you blue balls my friend. Move on, thank you next!

Keytone_ · 2021-09-06T16:25:31+00:00

Depends on your on own morals bro, if I’m drunk then I’d get with a girl who has a boyfriend without a second thought (if safe to do so) but never sober, imo it’s not your responsibility, it is hers to be faithful, if the guy isn’t friends with you and you don’t know him then you don’t owe him anything (my take on it)

If she’s gonna fuck w you then she probs will with someone else, so if you can and want to then push for it.

On the other hand, she might be doing a classic female move and setting you up to fall for her for when/in case things fail with her current bf, girls always have a fail safe, you might be another.

At the end of the day don’t think on it too hard and just have fun, whatever happens happens,

Have a great day.

Lemon8007 · 2021-09-06T14:19:04+00:00

she was using you yo get back at her bf. one of those, you shouldve just smashed when u had the chance but youre u didn’t because she has a bf, and he may be psycho. also, its bad karma to kiss another mans girl. she picked you out the moment you walked in, and it wasn’t the good looks.

kitkat616 · 2021-09-06T16:14:30+00:00

Unless you want a black eye from this girls bf when he inevitably finds out who she cheated on him with, I’d stay clear. The “he’s probably kissing another girl” statement seems like she could be coming on to you for revenge. If that’s the case she’d definitely tell him.

It’s not worth the small amount of attention she’s giving you. It would impact your friend group. It would make going to parties uncomfortable. It’s just not worth it.

jrkalin · 2021-09-06T16:16:53+00:00

Respect that she’s in a relationship. Move on

2021-09-06T17:06:33+00:00

Getting with girls that have boyfriends is simply more trouble then it’s worth. Can lead to a whole slew of issues.

StereoFood · 2021-09-06T17:48:41+00:00

Yeah that’s fuckdd up. Cant trust these hoes

CicadaProfessional76 · 2021-09-06T20:11:41+00:00

Take her to pound town and then drop her like a bad habit

Cr0w33 · 2021-09-06T20:43:55+00:00

A guy I went to highschool with got cheated on by his fiancée, (this was years after graduation) and he went to prison for finding where the guy lived and shooting him in his sleep. He seemed like a normal guy, not crazy

And I saw a guy get his eye knocked out at a party for having slept with this dudes girlfriend before he had even dated her (the attacker hadn’t even been cheated on) ruined the whole party

If you want to be that guy go for it. Girls can get you fucked up/killed, and it’s possible this girl is trying to make her guy jealous

YeastusCrust · 2021-09-06T14:50:56+00:00

Devils advocate: Just cause theres a goalie doesn't mean you can't shoot

CicadaProfessional76 · 2021-09-06T14:23:06+00:00

If her bf is hot then have a threesome 👍✨

Exmerus · 2021-09-06T14:16:21+00:00

Well, you don't know the conditions of their relationship.

Something similar happened to me. My roommate had a party with his co-workers in our apartment. I chilled with them for a while, all cool. There was this very hot girl with her boyfriend that was looking at me with a sexual vibe. I had to work early so I left to sleep, and after like 10 minutes this girl entered my room and asked if she could use my restroom. When she finished, she stayed chatting with me for a bit, then came to sit on my bed very close to me and we talked for a few minutes. She clearly wanted to fuck, but I didn't make a move because her boyfriend was right outside.

The next day I told my roommate what happened, and he said that I was an idiot because that girl had a deal with the boyfriend that she could basically be with whoever she wanted and he couldn't do anything about it. So I could've fucked her right there in the very same party, the guy would absolutely know and it would've been all good.

Do your research next time.

prettyflymuhfucker · 2021-09-06T14:16:01+00:00

Fuck the girl anyway.

HughBeaumont500 · 2021-09-06T14:39:19+00:00

Do it

Regret it

Do it again

Repeat cycle until something breaks

JohntheAnabaptist · 2021-09-06T12:56:02+00:00

Do you have her number? Maybe text her feigning ignorance of the bf?

IBeSomebooty · 2021-09-06T15:16:59+00:00

according to Todd V, a coach I listen to, you act like nothing is wrong with her having a boyfriend, That you believe if she likes you better, she should get with you if she wants to, its a free market, if you dont like your cellphone provider(boyfriend) go to a different one, its that simple. That, and get alone with her.

ZaWarud0z · 2021-09-06T14:06:37+00:00

If you don't know her boyfriend then stop thinking 'nd start undressing. It's up to her not to cheat and if she wants to... good for you mate!

Appropriate_Ad3327 · 2021-09-06T13:06:40+00:00

How tall are you?

MephistosFallen · 2021-09-06T18:06:10+00:00

I wouldn’t pursue her further to avoid conflict with the friend group. However, her commenting how her bf may be making out with another girl and her being so physical, it does suggest the possibility that they have an open or poly relationship. But I wouldn’t do anything without confirmation of that at all.

prettydirtyboy · 2021-09-06T18:44:05+00:00

Hmm well you have a few options. You could decide you don’t even wanna mess with the type of girl that cheats and flirts with other men while in a relationship, you could help her cheat and just get it over with (pump and dump), or you could have an ongoing affair and start developing feelings for her and down the road have this exact situation happen to you

CicadaProfessional76 · 2021-09-06T19:03:06+00:00

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moochingisfun4me · 2021-09-06T19:03:20+00:00

I can't believe this has to be spelled out for some people.

2021-09-06T19:12:00+00:00

Nothing. Don't be a that guy.

CicadaProfessional76 · 2021-09-06T19:33:24+00:00

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BoltFlashun · 2021-09-06T19:36:49+00:00

Leave her alone, she has a boyfriend

2021-09-06T19:41:37+00:00

Stop looking at other peoples food bro

ZidaneLoire · 2021-09-06T20:15:48+00:00

ITT you have two kinds of people. Those who fuck and are comfortable with foregoing fucking other people's partners and those who are sex starved and will do what's morally wrong just because they need to, otherwise they can't get laid.

Which type of man do you wanna be?

Any girl who'd cheat on her bf for you is not a girl you wanna be fucking.

ProperDefinition6668 · 2021-09-06T20:37:54+00:00

If she didn't mention it go for it.

hunkyboy46511 · 2021-09-06T20:50:27+00:00

If you’re not sure of her relationship status, then ask her. If she gives you the right answer, fuck her.

thermopolous · 2021-09-06T21:18:26+00:00

one girl once said to me “a bf means nothing” if the girl isn’t married “it’s nothing”. if you don’t put a move on a girl with a bf you show her you don’t care, you’re afraid, you won’t cross the line and be an alpha male and take what’s yours. good luck waiting

2021-09-06T21:31:23+00:00

You leave her the fuck alone and tell her stupid bf.

Better you get some evidence and send it to him. Do not risk it in this me too era shit. If she gets caught cheating she might say you raped her just to get away with it.

Title	Tension with girl on houseparty but she has a boyfriend. What do I do?
Author	CommercialFig344
Upvotes	96
Comments	118
Date	September 6, 2021 12:42 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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