Today was an epic failure

drubbaaa · 2021-08-16T22:41:58+00:00

I don't get where the failure is

gbizzle2 · 2021-08-16T22:45:45+00:00

Learn how to read women. Its much easier to set a rat trap than to try to catch it with your bare hands

B3asy · 2021-08-17T01:06:57+00:00

Michael Jordan missed over 9,000 shots in his career

2021-08-16T23:23:22+00:00

You got a rly desperate mindset. You said you were bored so go and workout or work on a side project. Your vibe probably turned these girls off.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-08-16T22:47:39+00:00

but she was the kind of girls that too slutty and there are millions of guys who hits on her a day and she is willing to give her number to all of them, so I can't count on her since I'm not that rich

Your mindset is what's holding you back.

You won't get anywhere without fixing this FIRST

If you think you can, you can.. If you think you can't, you can't.

Whatever you think, you're right.

Zeus_xo · 2021-08-17T00:32:15+00:00

I can smell desperation from miles away.

You're in the wrong mindset.

For you rejection = failure and you stop there For us rejection = failure But failure is the biggest part of success. You can't be successful without failures.

So stop crying because you got rejected and start working on yourself and put women at the BOTTOM of your priority list.

Also you approached women, how the fuck do you fail to see that this is a success rather a failure?

SenorTonto · 2021-08-17T01:06:10+00:00

Just interact with them with a skeptical mindset. Stop being so "ready" to get the number. Be ready to walk away. You care too much and it probably is showing. Step back a little

El0vution · 2021-08-17T01:19:25+00:00

If you approached a dozen girls, that’s a major success

FantasticElephant420 · 2021-08-16T23:36:10+00:00

Bro that’s more approaches than I’ve done in my life, you’re a legend for that mate.

King-Britton · 2021-08-16T22:50:12+00:00

What’s the point of a game if you always win? Failure makes you stronger, today was a success

whatisthisaboutagain · 2021-08-16T22:59:06+00:00

Find something better to do than to be sad about this

SuperFuzz666 · 2021-08-16T23:03:57+00:00

Just gotta keep at it dude, just a bad day that's all

Bluedragon75 · 2021-08-16T23:44:37+00:00

Good job with asking them out. I think if you try making friends first, and flirting with people who get to know you, you'll get more success

spicy_simba · 2021-08-17T08:05:14+00:00

The one big flaw in this story is the perspective of basing your happiness and self worth on the outcome of a single dimension of life.

Stay away from such perspectives, they can get you locked in unhealthy loops, obsession, black and white view of reality.

Cheers

Evocatus_ad_levare · 2021-08-17T10:00:41+00:00

Bro I did 5 approaches one day Got 5 blow outs, then I did 10 the other day and had 2 good interactions, then another day I did 4 approaches and got 3 numbers

NookSwzy · 2021-08-17T13:00:42+00:00

she was the kind of girls that too slutty and there are millions of guys who hits on her a day and she is willing to give her number to all of them, so I can't count on her since I'm not that rich.

This is your problem here. Your attitude sucks and women can sense that. Next time if you're bored, go for a walk, play a sport, workout, or do a hobby. You've said elsewhere that you're not desperate but you do seem very outcome dependent. Try to meet women thru a shared activity like hiking or photography or something social you enjoy.

El0vution · 2021-08-17T01:22:18+00:00

Someone here said you have to get better at reading the girls. I think this is your problem. Approaching for the sake of approaching isn’t the way. You need to learn with each approach. Eventually you will see patterns. And then you’re getting there.

vamsig66 · 2021-08-17T05:20:51+00:00

I hear you bro. I'm new to pickup and experienced something similar recently. My first 6 approaches I lucked up and actually got 2 phone numbers and felt amazing and was like wow this whole pick up and game stuff actually works. One of those numbers responded and was open to meeting up for a date but then vanished, and the other one did meet up with me but when I tried getting sexual she rejected me and told me that she was just trying to make new friends and that she wasn't interested in me like that. My confidence afterwards was beaten down pretty hard. I approached about 5-10 other girls after and every single one rejected me and it felt awful and made me doubt my sanity and whether this game and pickup stuff actually works or not because they usually teach that for like every 5-10 approaches you will get at least one phone number or something. I think you just gotta keep at it and realize you'll have your good and bad days and that some days every girl you approach will reject you, and other days you will number and date close several girls. I think it's best to focus on introspecting your game not setting the standard of whether you're making progress or not soely on your results like numbers, dates, lays, etc. Message me and let's chop it up!

Twitulf · 2021-08-16T22:58:26+00:00

Don't be sad?? U lost nothing, it's pointless to complain about it, all u can do is upgrade ur approach with the lessons u learned from ur failures

DakiAge · 2021-08-17T07:03:36+00:00

After that, I made around 10-12 approaches from different ages yet I kept getting rejected by all of'em. I used to go alone but I've never failed that hard as I did today, I won't lie on you guys that really felt sucks and got me really sad.

Your mindset is the problem.

You should approach to these girls for the thrill of it, not because you want to have a relationship with them.

Rejection is a part of life, you can get rejected by your family or in your job applications too.

Rejection means you both aren't compatible and it's HER loss.

It doesn't mean that you have problems and she didn't like you.

You have lots of self-confidence issues so I recommend you to improve it.

earsurgery9 · 2021-08-17T07:33:52+00:00

I'm not sure what the problem is? You could have the best 'game' on planet earth and get rejected 100 times in a row

YOu got rejected 12

Suck it up. Keep approaching, Find the girls who are attracted

Basu_Arka · 2021-08-17T09:28:32+00:00

U sound bored/depressed. Try havin sum fun while sliding in2 a convo w/ a chick.

SerfsUpp · 2021-08-17T11:23:19+00:00

Tbh your whole attitude is so off putting from a female perspective. You called a girl a slut and a gold digger. If a random man with your attitude came up to me and asked me to hang out I would also say no. Instead of being desperate for female attention when you’re bored do something productive, work on project, find a new hobbie watch a a movie etc.

Dire_Empire25 · 2021-08-17T14:28:41+00:00

Hey man I think it's great that you completed 12 approaches. One thing I have noticed is that depending on the size of the venue girls are aware of who is being approached. Be aware of your body language and who you're approaching.

Even if the verbal interaction doesn't go as planned make sure you end the interaction with neutral or positive body language. That could be anything for leaning in and telling a joke, going for a hug ( if it was a soft let down), or a simple high five.

ApatheticHeretic_101 · 2021-08-17T18:44:31+00:00

So...a normal Tuesday for most men, huh? LOL

Cheers

Title	Today was an epic failure
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	73
Comments	58
Date	August 16, 2021 10:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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