How can I stop getting boners when talking to girls?

jrknapp359 · 2014-05-28T03:13:57+00:00

your username>

Wear jeans

puaCurveBall · 2014-05-28T01:48:26+00:00

Why is this a problem? Just talk to them with an erection

rusty84 · 2014-05-28T01:39:26+00:00

LOL, that used to happen to me all the times. The problem (I wouldn't really call it that though) went away after I made more women friends and hung out with them too. Its not really awkward. Yeah, I think you're attractive, and I don't control my dick, but you know what you could do, girl?

FarmerinMalaysia · 2014-05-28T02:57:20+00:00

We seldom notice. You'd have to be wearing thin basket ball shorts of a bright color to attract attention to it. Just because you know you have one doesn't mean we do.

JustRuss79 · 2014-05-28T05:16:04+00:00

Talk to more girls so it becomes a common occurrence instead of a trigger (aka get used to it)
Don't be self conscious about it, because it is natural and girls will realize it is natural.
Get older, as your hormones even out so will the random boners. But they will always be with you unless you end up completely impotent.

CANINE_ANAL_GLAND · 2014-05-28T04:35:40+00:00

Best way is to adjust the shlong so that it points upwards instead of at an angle, unless it goes over the waistband then you're screwed.

Either way, it's no big deal unless you make it a big deal, boners happen, everyone's had sex ed and nobody thinks it's weird

dking168 · 2014-05-29T19:44:23+00:00

Just push it up against her and say "I'm the Alpha Male."

levelUpLA · 2014-05-28T06:58:32+00:00

uh why so complex guys? If a girl looks at your junk... Tell her "my eyes are up here sweetheart, get your mind out of the gutter." something around those lines.

nuc22 · 2014-05-28T17:10:48+00:00

Masturbate before u go out

Tentra · 2014-05-28T02:50:08+00:00

See, I have no confidence issues when it comes to talking with or approaching women.

followed by...

It gets so bad that I can't even approach girls anymore simply from fear of having a raging erection.

I think you should work on that confidence a little more ;)

But seriously, just keep talking to girls. This is likely just your blood pressure rising because you're in a new, tense situation. The excitement of approaching will soon diminish, along with your boner, lol.

Webby911 · 2014-05-28T15:59:00+00:00

Spandex 24/7

Sumo_Sex_Stain · 2014-05-28T05:30:28+00:00

This might sound weird but if you clench your ass for like 20 seconds it will draw the blood away from your dick eliminating your bones I know it's not always gonna be usable but if it helps ever then that's a win.

joshsway · 2014-05-28T13:03:25+00:00

When you get a little older this problem will just go away...

ContemplativeOctopus · 2014-05-28T06:50:05+00:00

I'm in the same boat. Spend more time talking to girls you're not interested in, that seemed to help me the most.

Not2original · 2014-05-28T12:45:42+00:00

Be like 'barf' at the end of spaceballs. When his tail is wagging and it goies up the waitress skirt.

"Oh sorry honey, it's gotta mind of it's own. I can't control this thing." Smile and carry on talking loke it no big deal.

creator11 · 2014-05-29T15:25:18+00:00

Age.

DrewCruise · 2014-05-28T02:39:00+00:00

Just go with it. Talk to girls with a hard on and enjoy it. Your body is telling you that it wants her. So just talk to them, have fun, and don't worry about it.

orggs · 2014-05-28T04:27:00+00:00

Boners are normal. Don't sweat it.

Ohhwellwhatsthis · 2014-05-28T04:49:39+00:00

Just flip it up, keeps you good all day. But if you got a big one it's still noticeable but not a big deal ;D

dandeezy · 2014-05-28T06:29:43+00:00

direct their attention to it lol they're probably looking anyway.

no seriously, just wear jeans and talk about what "feels" good. embrace the boner lol

PresidentLixon · 2014-05-28T09:59:21+00:00

as long as premature ejaculation isnt a problem for you, i can safely say you have no problems. put that thing in a comfortable place and stop worrying about it. the bigger the better, just like boobs but in the pants.

dont try to hide it, thats just stupid. they know you have a penis they wont even know if its hard or not!

secretfella · 2014-05-28T13:19:29+00:00

I cant say Ive had this issue with talking to a girl, but when youre in bed with one, and your mind starts to wonder, you think bout where the night will go and boom, boner time. This is obviously bad as youre just getting excited and potentially shortening your night of fun with an early climax.

To stop this, you just need to do a couple things, first is to focus on what is actually happening, if youre thinking about kissing her, and all your doing is hugging, your thinking too far. Youll need to talk yourself back into the present and then focus on it, think about when to make what you want a reality, not about what could be happening.

Now I dont know if this helps with your certain situation, but the next should pretty much help. All you really need to do, to get rid of an erection and to slow down is to breath deep, and slowly. I find through the nose helps me more, but mouth could work too, just try not to be tooo loud or obvious if youre talking with someone at the same time. These deep breaths, mixed with focusing on the present topic at hand, and potentially thinking about slowing youre heart beat should help youre erection go away.

If it doesnt work the first time, dont give up, its likely wont, it hasnt worked so far... Just practice and you will get to a point where you think about this issue, and laugh that this was once an issue.

TL;DR Get out of your head, focus on the now. Breathe deep. Slow down heart beat.

Hope it helped :)

ConsistentGrowth · 2014-05-28T13:34:48+00:00

If you're wearing jeans, position your dick directly in the middle, so that any pressure caused by the erection is held in by the zipper and seams.

PASS_THOSE_WAFFLES · 2014-05-28T15:10:04+00:00

You can still get boners?

nominally · 2014-05-28T15:31:21+00:00

Breeaaaaathhhee.

BigGeek43 · 2014-05-28T15:32:55+00:00

Wish I had a boner every time I talked to girls. Would make it so much easier screening which ones are DTF:
http://kennyspuathoughts.com/2013/05/15/want-quick-sex-screen-girls-out-fast-who-arent-dtf/

lofiharvest · 2014-05-28T18:11:00+00:00

How old are you? I usually only get a boner when I'm chatting with a girl and I realize theres a strong chance I'm gonna f-close. The reason I ask is I used to be like you when I was in HS but things have calmed down more now that I'm older.

bbidabbong · 2014-05-28T19:24:20+00:00

I have boners almost every morning. Can't help it. Even when I fuck in the morning it is still up long time after.

I am used to greet neighbours with a boner, commute with a boner, order a breakfast with a boner, and take a morning shit with a boner. Last one sucks.

Saarpa · 2014-05-30T08:39:58+00:00

My policy has been that I don't go out hit on girls when my gun's loaded, if you know what I mean.

iamthesage · 2014-05-30T12:07:25+00:00

I wouldn't worry about this. This is a good sign. This is my interpretation., If I am talking to a girl , and I get a boner - I know I am attracted to her. And it is natural. And this is called chemistry.

Whenever I talk to a girl, and I get a boner - my Game is so free-flowing. Eye contact and Game is amazing.

So don't be embarrassed. You are just attracted to her. Wouldn't you want that?

erind97 · 2014-06-01T18:44:28+00:00

Honestly? Girls won't notice unless it's an massive raging horse boner. And if in that case it is, congrats. But as a chick I can't recall to memory a specific time where I remember a guy having a boner in regular interactions. It just isn't something I (and many women) pay attention to.

sedditforthewin · 2014-06-10T19:33:42+00:00

Own it, I'm jealous of you.

The_shiver · 2014-05-28T06:52:47+00:00

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kenjen18 · 2014-05-28T08:06:59+00:00

I wish I still had your problem. Now it's a challenge to get it up.

reenie91kg · 2022-08-15T04:06:25+00:00

Ya, I could never figure it out so I just gave up on trying to control it.

And then, I downloaded hook-up apps like Adult Friend Finder and Tinder lol. I talked to a lot of girls there and gave me boners the entire time. Time passed by, and I noticed that I’m not having these boners whenever I talk to girls anymore. It became a bit normal to me.

Merica911 · 2014-05-28T11:54:50+00:00

Dude, you don't want to stop getting a boner when talking to girls.

This is how an alpha male gets engage/instate with a girl. My recommendation is to get comfortable with it, and soon you'll be that guy on top of the world. Knowing what you want and how to get it.

Getting a boner when talking to a certain girl means she must be pretty hot and the convo must be going good which is key. You could be having a good convo with an ugly girl and wouldn't get a boner (which is very common) or you can talk to a hot girl and the convo is ice cold and not get a boner (which too is very common)

Be happy about this, not a lot of guys can say "how to stop getting a boner"

drummerinattic · 2014-05-28T12:20:29+00:00

Bro... that's like asking how you can stop getting boners when fondling girls' breasts. It's alllllll goooooooood.

dashhc · 2022-05-22T08:14:42+00:00

Try to fuck her happened to me with a bitch who kept hugging me and I think she felt I was rock hard so we ended up fucking hardly

Title	How can I stop getting boners when talking to girls?
Author	NervousTree
Upvotes	72
Comments	62
Date	May 28, 2014 1:16 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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