I'm Sick & Fucking Tired Of Not Being Able To Approach Women. Give Me A Task, Anything, To Get Me Moving In The Right Direction. And I Will Do It Tomorrow. I Promise.

xskander · 2011-03-16T09:51:52+00:00

start tacking dancing lessons. why?

you will learn how to move on the dance floor
you will learn the right posture (confident not douche bag)
you will have contact with so many HB 10 that you will get used to the idea of being next to beautiful girl all the time
new friends
if you do it right it's an excellent training

don't worry if you don't learn how to dance for the first few months you will eventually get it and girls do love a confident man that can dance. a lot of possibility for kino and social interactions. you have nothing to lose but trust me when i say just stay the course. if thing's aren't working out just keep trying.

squigs · 2011-03-16T09:04:28+00:00

Go somewhere public. Look for the most interesting person. Ask them a question about whatever it is that makes them interesting.

Capt_Get_Some · 2011-03-16T09:07:50+00:00

Sick.

Step 1: Wear something batshit ridiculous. Just absolutely stupid. You say your in good shape? Wear a wife beater and hot pink short shorts with a furry hat. Wear a bathrobe and a burger king crown. Just something way out there. Weirdest shit you own, wear it. Pin a safety pin to your chest and attach a few single dollar bills, maybe even a fiver, to it so that they can be easily seen.

Step 2: Own that motherfucker. Strut around your campus (I'm assuming that as a 21 year old male you attend school, otherwise who cares do it anyway) like you had to leave your Nobel Prize acceptance after party early to give golf lessons to Tiger Woods at the Playboy Mansion. Today you are the fucking man and your balls go clank-clank when they bump into each other as you walk because they're huge and made of brass.

Step 3: When anyone asks 'LiterallyAnything, what the fuck is up with your crazy ass outfit?' You reply 'I'm president of the InsertSchoolNameHere Campus Philanthropy Club and were raising money to donate to the Red Cross to benefit Japan in the University's name, how about pinning a ten spot on me?'

Every woman on campus now knows you as the tall, jacked yet caring man who doesn't give a fuck about conforming to everyone else's bullshit.

You will be able to open with fucking everyone and they will all love you. Also you will end up covered in money. How fucking cool is that? If any conversation with a girl goes anywhere tell her that you and the rest of the club are going out that night to celebrate and if she has any kind of social life she should be there too. Get her number and tell her you'll text the rest of the details later.

If your friends have any balls at all they should get in on this and have your back, at least for going out, because you'll promise them chicks.

Also actually donate whatever money people give you because doing otherwise makes you a spineless shit.

Since you posted on a throwaway put an edit up to say where you go to school and at least 1 of the 18000 on Seddit will be in a position to do this with you. I'm down for sure if you're anywhere close.

seddit_throwaway1500 · 2011-03-16T13:28:04+00:00

Take an acting class if there's one available near you.

The goal here is to be able to control your emotions and put your mind into the brain of an entirely different character. Good practice for hacking your mind into the right mindset for picking up girls, or really just being successful in life.

edit: some other random things I thought of that have in some way helped me get with girls with varying degrees of success

learn a foreign language that's considered "sexy" with your target group of females (in the US, spanish, french or italian from my experience seems to be the most popular)
learn to play a musical instrument (already play one? play another, in a different category of instruments)
get involved in a community centered around a particular hobby or idea (maybe a culture club)
acquire some skill sets that are usually considered "manly" (fixing mechanical and electrical things, cooking, etc.)
if you drink, get a taste for beers/wines/spirits, different kinds of drinks, how to make them, differences between brands, brewing styles, ingredients, etc.
watch an assload of movies from various eras, genres, even countries and learn how to be a little more critical of them, acting, directing, etc.
pick up an individual sport (or a sport mostly individual) like running, cycling, martial arts, dancing, etc.
read an assload of books and learn to appreciate the written word
force yourself to be somewhat aware of "pop" culture in some aspect, whether it be movies, tv shows, music, celebrities, etc. so you can hold a conversation with ~~people~~ girls who are really into that stuff

It seems to be that those seem to be a jack-of-all-trades kind of deal, but it's all about expanding your social circle beyond your current comfort zone

Remember, you shouldn't be the one wanting to be invited to social gatherings where females are aplenty. Instead, they (hosts or people close to them) should be humbly requesting that you grace them with your amazing presence. It's all about being that guy who knows everyone.

wavegeekman · 2011-03-16T09:02:41+00:00

Buy "the rules of the game" and do the tasks in order.

MrZeppelin · 2011-03-16T09:24:48+00:00

I have a very fat friend who gets more pussy than all of our mutual friends and I combined. He's a chick magnet, a fucking natural of the highest order. It's unbelievable to watch the guy work. We've seen him going home with two or three chicks at once several times.

Looks help, but it's all about the attitude.

legion_pua · 2011-03-16T16:00:47+00:00

About two months ago, I had an 18-year-old guy ask me why I don't have any AA.

"You're asking the wrong question. Why do you have AA? If you open and fail, what is the worst that could happen?"
"I could look like an idiot."
"Looking like an idiot isn't that bad. Go to a karaoke bar tomorrow and sing Spice Girls. Then next time you are afraid of embarrassing yourself, you can say, Well at least it can't be worse than that time I sang Spice Girls in front of a hundred people."

Geaux · 2011-03-16T14:52:10+00:00

Turn the music up in your car and smile and wave at people while driving. Doesn't matter who it is, just feel the awkwardness of it melt away each time you smile and wave at someone until eventually you will be in-state and feel so comfortable.

Media_Adept · 2011-03-16T20:03:18+00:00

Pick up a pack of smokes.

See chick smoking.

Ask for a light.

As they're searching for the lighter, ask them how the day is going.

You're on your own after that.

squigs · 2011-03-16T08:31:02+00:00

This is not a route you want to go. Hitting the gym won't make much a difference really. You could pick up girls exactly as you were physically. Not to knock improving oneself but this requires fundamental change of perspective. What the community calls having inner game. I'm working through rsd blueprint dvds. I suggest you start there. Doing stupid shit is fun but it's just a shell.

gerusz · 2011-03-16T16:38:02+00:00

First of all, find venues where you feel comfortable! If you feel uncomfortable at a place, approaching will be basically impossible. You should feel relaxed and comfortable first.
After you find these places, visit them frequently, just to get used to them. Make friends with the staff and the regulars regardless of gender, mix with the crowd, etc..., just enjoy yourself.

KidStrangelove · 2011-03-16T21:23:15+00:00

Find a bar, for comfort make it somewhere not near your campus.

Come up to a girl and try to intentionally get rejected

tmp_acct9 · 2011-03-16T17:34:55+00:00

"whats your name?"

seriously...

WhiteTiger10 · 2011-03-16T15:27:51+00:00

Quit it with the self-pity routine, redirect your energy into making things happen instead of self-deprecation. No body gives a damn about how sorry your life is, just relax and have fun.

Title	I'm Sick & Fucking Tired Of Not Being Able To Approach Women. Give Me A Task, Anything, To Get Me Moving In The Right Direction. And I Will Do It Tomorrow. I Promise.
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Date	March 16, 2011 8:18 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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