How do you overcome feeling weird?

dking168 · 2012-09-16T23:01:10+00:00

The less fucks you give. The more fucks you get.

Hitsu17 · 2012-09-16T20:47:19+00:00

Just don't give a fuck. Anyone you talk to is lucky that you're spending time with them. You're a valuable motherfucker, and don't you forget it.

AHill134 · 2012-09-16T21:20:55+00:00

Everyone is weird. Own that shit.

Tortheldrin · 2012-09-16T23:46:40+00:00

I know what you're talking about. You want to be like the dude next to you, but you feel like everyone KNOWS this, and you feel awkward because you think everyone else thinks you're trying too hard and it's obvious or something.

I've had this before and I can EASILY see how this can mess with you hardcore. How do I get by it?

Take a deep breath. Don't be like the dude to your right nor left. Relax. Rub your face, get some air, put some water on your face, lay your head down, do whatever can get you calm right away.

Start over. Don't be like the dude on your right. Don't be like the dude on your left. Ignore the absolute FUCK out of them. They don't exist. Get into a position you're comfortable sitting in (assuming this is at school or at work) and just start being yourself.

Be comfortable with yourself. Doesn't matter if you're comfortable being weird or normal, just be comfortable.

Chances are you aren't abnormal or creepy in ANY way. You just THINK you are.

If everything I said doesn't relate to you, ignore it. ._.

dablac · 2012-09-17T03:22:37+00:00

I get this sometimes. Since I've started lurking seddit it's gone away though. I stop it by saying this to myself:

I'm just being friendly, trying to get to know people. I'd love it if someone came up to me and was genuinely interested in what I had to say!

forgetitok · 2012-09-16T21:42:43+00:00

Lie to yourself? Just fake feeling not creepy. And I mean really fake it. Fake being hot and smooth as fuck until you actually believe it and comes naturally. Sometimes with people that aren't naturally charismatic/too sociable/outgoing/outspoken it usually feels like even if you are it's just ...weird. Cos you're not used to it. So you have to MAKE yourself get used to it.

You also have to accept being a bit awkward from time to time. Accept that sometimes you'll be off your game. But always remember that you're still awesome.

That's how I did it anyway.

30vanquish · 2012-09-16T21:17:15+00:00

As long as you understand to give the girl space and see her comfortable to start the interaction then talk like the confident (or aspiring confident) male you are, then there is no creeper

2012-09-16T22:12:46+00:00

Do you mean seeming creeping when you approach or just in general?

If it's when you approach then you'll come across as creepy if you're doubting yourself. Girls pick up on it when guys aren't being confident so don't doubt what you're saying and doing, just do what you want, because you want to. Working getting out of your head, relax, stop thinking as much and just enjoy yourself.

Humble_harpdarp · 2012-09-17T00:05:14+00:00

I know what you mean by that "numbing feeling", I get it multiple times a day, and one mess up can have me feeling like that for hours. Do more physical activity and you'll find that this goes away. Trust me, it works.

Ragas · 2012-09-17T01:02:06+00:00

Hmm Actually I like feeling weird, it's this kind of insecure feeling that promises you that whatever is going to happen will be memorable.

blackfox026 · 2012-09-17T01:46:16+00:00

Meditate. You'll learn to take the techniques with you into your daily life, and you'll start to find you can easily discard these self-conscious thoughts when they arise.

rotating_pencil · 2012-09-17T02:45:41+00:00

If they laugh at your jokes, they have SOME level of interest. Once you get that in your head, continuing will feel more natural and less "creepy". If they're interested too, what's stopping you?

joe_canadian · 2012-09-17T03:33:38+00:00

To kinda paraphrase everyone else here, fake it till you make it. The more you stop worrying about it, even if only acting like it, the more you'll begin to believe you're not a creep. The less you worry about it, the more self-confident you'll become and less it'll affect your state.

paulgualtieri · 2012-09-17T04:34:38+00:00

Just realize no one's looking at you or thinking about you. No one cares about you. They're too wrapped up in themselves. So, they're not thinking "ugh, look at that weirdo" or anything.

And if they are, who cares?

dilli23 · 2012-09-17T04:51:09+00:00

Just be yourself, and if you're still creeping people out, then you're fucked.

prodikl · 2012-09-17T06:32:49+00:00

Get into the mindset that you're there to "make friends" or "meet people." Be generally positive, and don't be afraid to chat up a dude here and there. If you go into it everytime as "game on," you might stress yourself out, set the bar too high, experience too much dissapointment, etc. Instead mix it into your normal social life and pull it out when you feel like it

ikkake · 2012-09-17T08:34:18+00:00

To be fair I have a similiar problem - for some reason I suck at second impressions. I got AA over with, I open, and then I do something wrong somewhere and I loose women, and it's the same online of offline - can't figure the shit out at all. Only advice I got from online hookup was that my messages are to long, and it's intimidating.

So cutting down on that, but come on it's suposed to be a message - like a letter. If what I got to say is intimidating you pretty much saying what I want to say is scary because you have to read more. And since I got unlimited time to write it why the fuck should I limit myself.... Please correct me if I'm in the wrong here.

In the live encounters though I alwasy try to weave the conversation. So listen, add something from myself, ask following questions - and again I'm doing something really wrong here, no fucking clue what - how do I figure it out? It really starts to fuck with my confidence, and I'm starting to think, I'm I fucking creepy or weird? I got it under control so far, but come on!

Idontlikekarmawhores · 2012-09-17T08:38:39+00:00

I have the exact sample problem as OP, i dont want to feel like a creep or creep someone out so i opt for not talking to anyone :/ Its a mindset i know and i also know that i can change that. There is hope for us OP! Just hang in there!

dablac · 2012-09-17T13:47:20+00:00

Stop thinking.

Rickles360 · 2012-09-17T15:19:35+00:00

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dking168 · 2012-09-18T02:55:46+00:00

Giving less fucks is one of the hardest things but it can only be done with experience.

You need to get rejected enough times during your lifetime that you come to the realization that is a numbers game and only 1% of the woman population actually wants to sleep with you or even be near you. If you still give a fuck after 1000 rejections, you haven't been rejected enough. Go out and get rejected another 1000 times more.

The shortcut on how to get rejected is to to go out, say ridiculous shit to women and get rejected (More on that here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ztm4q/how_to_quickly_gain_god_mode_and_overcoming_aa/). You will come to a point where you are just like "I don't fucking care anymore". I have so many times said and have done things that society looks down upon, however you come to a point that if she slaps you in the face or calls her roided up boyfriend who she is blowing in the bathroom after you stroke her ego with a compliment, you will end up laughing because you don't care what the end result is. There is only 2 end results. You fuck her or you walk. Simple as that, you want to find out which result as soon as possible because you want to move onto the next girl. You only have a certain amount of time on this planet. Utilize it.

Most girls will not want to cause harm to you unless you threaten her. If you do something extremely ridiculous and by extremely, I mean something life endangering, she will then do the things I mentioned above. However if you say something ridiculous, the most the girl will do is blow you off or if she is mean, try to humiliate you in front of everyone. So what? Am I going to die? No. Does life go on? Yes. Will it affect my chances with other billions of women who are just as hot or even hotter that are just craving your dick. Maybe, but most likely not.

Even if you go to College or High school, the most that is going to happen to you is rumors spread about you. So what? At least I had the balls to talk to these women instead of asking for a pen and beta orbiting around them for years and she ends up blowing the football quarterback while the line backer fucks her from behind.

It is a numbers game and you are against the clock. The more you pussy foot around everything, the more time you are wasting for yourself. Tell that girl who rejected you to come pick up the fuck you threw on the ground when you approached her as you blatantly approach the even hotter or uglier girl right next to her.

tl;dr- It's a numbers game. Get rejected a thousand times and then a thousand times more. Oh she rejected you? Well go tell her to pick up the fuck you gave when you approached her.

Title	How do you overcome feeling weird?
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Date	September 16, 2012 7:39 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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