20 Ways to Be More Assertive and Get What You Want

stucknmove · 2012-10-25T18:45:54+00:00

TLDR: Don't let people walk all over you.

ViceSSD · 2012-10-25T18:23:24+00:00

[Invite a girl on a date] to do something that interests you.

I like this one- While taking an anti-gun protester to a firing range is pushing it, picking out an activity that greatly interests you will help tremendously. The vibes you give off and the passion you show if channelled right will build up attraction. Yes, she loves swimming, but if you're counting down the seconds to when you can get yourself out of that putrid liquid you're going to have a harder time building whatever relationship you're going for.

NickTDS · 2012-10-25T19:26:14+00:00

I like number 3: "Make a decision and choose where you want to take your date/girlfriend". I kept asking my date tonight where she wants me to take her, and we were going back and forth. She finally replied "I want to worry about the shoes I am going to wear, the earings...etc, you decide the rest... deal?"

pk_atheist · 2012-10-25T16:44:12+00:00

End a friendship with a girl that you don’t want to be “just friends” with. This sounds harsh but hear me out. This is for when you’ve already shown your intentions and she’s not feeling it. Rather than stick around hoping she’ll change her mind…

Take it one step further. Be ready to do my way or the highway on anything (within reason). If she wants a relationship on her terms (say for instance holding out on sex), walk away.

This is always easier if you've got other plates spinning.

TrippAdvice1 · 2012-10-25T17:01:43+00:00

14 - share a traditionally "unattractive hobby" with a girl. Good stuff. My friend was a big D&D (dungeons and dragons) player. While that game was sort of intense he also was a big fan of munchkin (not the "coolest" game in the world). He started playing it with her and she got obsessed. She didn't start playing D&D after that, but now realized his obsession with it. For those of you who don't know, Munchkin is a dumbed down version of D&D.

recurecur · 2012-10-26T01:25:05+00:00

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RedNeck_SandNaager · 2012-10-25T20:22:47+00:00

Opened the link; ended up reading his whole blog haha he's good

itsiceyo · 2012-10-25T21:44:12+00:00

off topic but - Archer is the man!

ExpertOnNicheThings · 2012-10-25T22:38:16+00:00

Good article, cheers

2012-10-26T10:39:28+00:00

TIL I'm assertive as fuck.

ingenioutor · 2012-10-26T05:38:45+00:00

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ahoymatey59 · 2012-10-25T19:44:49+00:00

Great list sir, I think these are all great real life examples of inner game. Saved.

HilltopHood · 2012-10-26T05:17:10+00:00

This stuff creates some kind of self-esteem loop for me. On days when I'm more assertive I feel WAY better about myself and it positively effects my thoughts, emotions, and behavior the rest of the day.

mutze · 2012-10-26T07:46:06+00:00

reigorius · 2012-10-26T11:06:26+00:00

Can somebody explain point 18 to me? I never quite understood passive aggressiveness.

Hashtag_JustHadSex · 2012-10-27T02:29:01+00:00

A golden line I found on his website: “You’re too nice, I would corrupt you.”

redditor3000 · 2012-10-25T19:45:27+00:00

All seems good. Except...

State your opposing opinion to someone without being confrontational. Hold your ground. “No way, there are plenty of metal songs with good lyrics.” “I disagree, the war on drugs has been a complete failure.”

I think it's good to be sure of your opinion. But I find disagreeing with people often provokes a negative reaction if they are attached to their belief. Often if people state a political belief I don't believe in I'll just ignore it rather than provoke a conflict.

gabriot · 2012-10-25T19:05:57+00:00

Good stuff although I have to strongly disagree on the linked article in that article about sexual escalation - specifically the point where it said that you'd be surprised at how hard it is to be "too sexual" with a woman.

I don't know where you guys are finding girls like this, but where I come from (seattle) I guess it's the land of the ice queens because almost every girl that you start talking even slightly sexual with will get severely offended and bite your head off.

zach84 · 2012-10-26T02:50:32+00:00

Nick, I don't know about anyone else, but I find it sort of hard to reach your articles. Well, that isn't exactly what i mean, so let me elaborate

I will read your articles, then see your links to other articles, then read those, then oh look, more links. I don't really know how to go about this and it kind of seems over whelming. There is this constant feeling of information left out, at least for me. What can be done about this?

You definitely have good stuff.

NickTDS · 2012-10-26T04:05:26+00:00

Let a friend or date that cancelled (last minute or more than once) know that behavior is unacceptable.

This is questionable. In some cases you can tell a girl off for flaking and it will ruin your chances. Other times if you play cool and just say "nah it's cool, it's alright" it will show you are grounded in your own reality. You aren't needy or fully invested in a situation.

Either or, it's your choice which one to use. Neither is wrong.

chechakintaro · 2012-10-25T21:11:59+00:00

Its looks to young to give advice this guy.

daileyjd · 2012-10-25T22:48:00+00:00

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Title	20 Ways to Be More Assertive and Get What You Want
Author	NickTDS
Upvotes	557
Comments	83
Date	October 25, 2012 4:16 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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