"Girls are not dragons." Fantastic post to a 17 year old by /u/SirEDCaLot (He's a good person.)(x-post from /r/askreddit)

ajmmin · 2013-07-24T17:36:20+00:00

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frogma · 2013-07-24T16:04:00+00:00

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ContemplativeOctopus · 2013-07-24T18:46:32+00:00

Let the jocks and gangsters have them, they're doing you a favor by screening out the dumb ones.

ohmygodyes, this is why so many people cross the line between confident and douche.

typtyphus · 2013-07-24T15:48:47+00:00

I only need to stop sabotaging myself

superyay · 2013-07-24T20:14:54+00:00

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haleyjaye · 2013-07-24T19:17:37+00:00

Thanks for the x-post, would have never seen this otherwise! 10/10

JonnyAtlas · 2013-07-24T20:23:57+00:00

From my experience, girls don't make approaching them easy. They find reasons to fault you and are always looking out for the 'next hot guy' (which I'm not.)

If girls were nice to guys then they wouldn't fear rejection. The fact is girls start out in rejection mode as a default attitude and have trained guys to lose their vulnerable personalities in trade for being hardened and internally callous.

Thanks for making us this way girls instead of being nice.

DtownMaverick · 2013-07-24T19:36:28+00:00

Mostly bullshit with a few good points sprinkled in.

First sign of bullshit:

The friend zone is not to be feared, it is a good place to be.

Yeah, hokay. Its a good thing to be used by a girl and get nothing in return. Remember, emotional support is to girls as what sex is to guys. How do you think a girl would feel being your slut - you use her for sex and then kick her out of your place after you are done? Chances are, she won't like that. So why would you freely give emotional support without expecting anything in return? Beta^2. And the whole, "oh she is my friend and will help me get chicks" NEVER works. She will set you up with her orbiter girl friends that are socially backwards and cannot attract any guys.

This guide is only slightly good for what to talk about if you are having a conversation. The key points are to be confident (in statue, conversation, your body, and your mind), and keep the conversation interesting.

Everything else is too much effort that will get you nowhere.

The thing is, any good looking girl is constantly approached by guys trying to do this exact thing. They know that no guy is genuinely going to approach a girl just to get to know her. The guy expects sex, and the girl knows this.

But you may ask, isn't that how LTRs start? Very rarely. Usually, good LTR's start mutually, where both parties are interested in each other. If you have ever known couples how they just click it off, its usually not by the guy pulling massive game to get the girl, its very often a very small effort on the guys part that gets received very well by the girl because she is already into him because of his unique personality, not his game. This is why you find that the people in good long lasting marriages are not really grade A people material. Coming from an engineering education in college, I know plenty of people who are happily married, where the guy is a total nerd, and the girl is sorta fat, but that doesn't really matter to them. LTR's are very far from what pickup game is. This is why I also say that the girl that will make you happy in the long term is usually right under your nose, instead of that 7-8 chick from that place that you know.

Hot, attractive girls know they can get an LTR going with any beta guy. They know that they can get guys to swoon over them, do shit for them, buy them drinks, all while wanting sex, but not getting it. They get this way because they hang out with other hot girls who all do this, and its an endless cycle that gets perpetuated. Any time you approach a girl, she automatically knows that she is going to get hit on, and as a result she will start her concious/subconcious filtering on whether or not you are hot enough or have a good social value to get into her pants. She has plenty of experience in this, she can lead the conversation in a way that you will end up paying for her drinks all night while getting a good conversation, and a good bye at the end without any follow up. I don't think you want that.

The whole attitude of what you say to her should be "Hey, Im the shit, and I can get any girl that I want here, but I'm interested in you, prove to me that I should stick with you and not loose interest".

This works because these girls are absolutely not used to being rejected. This is why being the asshole often works in your favor. Its sets a subconscious trigger in her that she must be doing something wrong because a guy is not swooning over her. Because of this, she is going to try extra hard to get you to pay full attention to her, and any success is going to generate a positive feeling towards you.

How you do that? Act interested, but aloof at the same time. One of the main questions that gets asked, "What do you do?" 99% of the guys will go on boasting about the career. Again, your talk of what you do is not going to prove your social value to her. Your posture and confidence will. If you are in there, freely interacting with women without a single ounce of doubt, this screams that you are successful in life, no matter what your profession is. If this was not true, every dude with a good salary would be getting pussy 24-7.

In answering that question, you simply have to say "It doesn't matter" or make joke "my occupation is picking up cute girls at the bars". Never be afraid to leave the table first. Remember, you can get any girl you want there, its her loss that she is not interested.

E.t.c and so on.

yokhai · 2013-07-24T14:21:37+00:00

YO BITCHES BE DRAGONS. They light you on fire if you don't pass enough shit tests or neg correctly.

I mean ah...yeah I'm sorry i haven't had coffee yet.

Title	"Girls are not dragons." Fantastic post to a 17 year old by /u/SirEDCaLot (He's a good person.)(x-post from /r/askreddit)
Author	ajmmin
Upvotes	409
Comments	99
Date	July 24, 2013 1:32 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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