I see a lot of people posting about introversion and I wanted to give a few pointers on what I've learned since diagnosing myself as an introvert.

Background

Some signs you might be an introvert:

  • Long social events can be exhausting

  • You need quiet time to recharge

  • You don't like small talk and prefer more meaningful conversations. People might criticize you for being too serious.

Some misconceptions about introverts:

  • Introverts have poor social skills

  • All introverts are shy

Obviously, there are entire personality surveys dedicated to determining whether or not you're introverted, I just picked a few points I saw as relevant to seduction. If you want to learn more about introversion, I highly recommend Quiet by Susan Cain. This book helped me realize what my strengths were and allowed me to be confident expressing myself for who I am. Like I said, introverts get a bad rep and I hear people mention it on reddit like it's some sort of condition. America is a majority extroverted culture, but many Asian cultures are majority introverted. It's just a different way of interacting.

Tips

  • Get out early! If you're going to bars on a Friday or Saturday, don't wait until everyone is drunk and rowdy. Coming into that environment can be overwhelming and your AA will be much stronger. If you get out early, it will feel like people are coming to you. You'll have time to adjust to the vibe and you'll feel more confident approaching.

  • Make your approaches count. This can be applied to introverts or extroverts, but I think it's vital for introverts. If I'm not clicking with a girl, I eject before I expend too much energy. Small talk is exhausting and if I waste my time forcing it, I'll be too drained to approach anyone else.

  • Learn how to fake extroversion. This doesn't mean faking who you are, it just means modifying how you interact with people. Introverts will often just smile and nod when listening (which can come off a little creepy if a person doesn't know you). Sometimes to get more engaged, I force myself to verbally agree and maybe even just repeat part of what the person is saying. Small talk drives me nuts, but you need to do it until she's comfortable taking the conversation a little deeper.

  • Find a chatty friend. Obviously, a good wing man is helpful in any situation but I realized that my friends talk way more than I do. They keep the ball rolling on small talk and I'll only speak when I can say something with conviction. I can change the focus of a conversation with a few words and it generates a lot of attraction.

  • Be aware of the noise level. I have decent club game because I love to dance but I'd never try having an extended conversation because my voice is pretty quiet. I rely almost entirely on body language. I avoid bars that play loud music because if I'm at a bar, I'd prefer to be somewhere I can have a conversation without yelling -- it kills any sort of chemistry if she's constantly asking, "WHAT?". If a bar is playing music, stay away from the speakers. Quiet mentions that introverts tend to have softer voices.

Hope this was helpful!

Edit: Added tip about noise levels.