What is a "nice guy" ?

MadDannyBear · 2017-06-07T10:34:18+00:00

A guy who puts girls' needs above his own, he worships women as though they were fragile goddesses who can do no wrong and need to be protected from any inconvenience of living life. In the nice guy's mind he is a knight in shining armor, chivalrous and willing to give his life over for any woman. That is until he gets nothing in return. After all society has taught him that "nice guys finish last" and to respect women not because they're just other humans with dignity but because they're women, he thought doing everything for these girls would get him laid but now he just feels like made all that "effort" only for the women to just keep going back to "those assholes" who don't know how to treat a lady. Now the nice guy doesn't feel so nice anymore, next time "the girl who doesn't know what's good for her" asks him for something, he snaps, usually with harsh language and personal attacks. "Maybe the next girl I do every little thing for and lavish with expensive gifts will appreciate me, and not think of me as a talking wallet/servant," he thinks. TL;DR Nice Guys™ aren't actually nice, they just have the wrong ideas about what women want and then they blame women for their own ineptitude. Attraction isn't transactional, its biological.

Woujo · 2017-06-07T12:01:41+00:00

A "nice guy" is a guy who is nice not because he is a good person, but because he wants something from a girl (usually sex). He does little stupid token favors for a girl, and then gets really mad when the girl doesn't want to fuck him. He's basically a failed prostitution client. Worst of all, he doesn't realize what he's doing - he thinks he is really being nice.

A "nice guy" also does things that the girl doesn't deserve and that the girl wouldn't do for him back.

UndidIridium · 2017-06-07T13:42:09+00:00

A "nice guy" is an insecure, needy guy who does nice things for women expecting reciprocation. Essentially, extremely "outcome dependent." It's just too bad that the term "nice guy" became that, since women generally like nice guys, as what the word "nice" really means; a guy who is genuinely kind, courteous, etc. essentially gentlemanly to the core.

"So, be nice... until it is time... to not be nice." [ref. Road House (1989 movie)]

Jack__Knife · 2017-06-07T14:28:42+00:00

nice guy

A young male who will give up countless hours of his time listening to the problems of his very attractive female friends because they need someone to talk to about their apathetic, Baywatch jock of a boyfriend because no one else will listen or genuinely care. Although always surrounded by beautiful girls the nice guy can’t get a girlfriend or even facilitate the alleviation of certain “drives” because his “ordinary” physical appearance will forever be compared to the Baywatch beach bum’s. The nice guy would never capitalize on a vulnerable girl, objectify or cheat on a girl, he will go out of his way and bend over backwards to help his “friends” and will never ask for anything in return but no matter how intelligent, understanding, humorous, compassionate, trusting or loyal the nice guy is the female cohort will always pass him up and endure any length of abuse, objectification, apathy and cold-heartedness from a man if he has physical attractiveness, fashion, big muscles and chiseled facial features.

The nice guy will eventually realize that his dependability and empathy will never be appreciated and all his friendships with females are all one-sided. This coupled with years of watching girls go for tanned, muscular jerk-offs with nice cars while he desperately hopes someone will realize that how viable he actually is will spawn and incubate the nice guy’s insecurities and he will eventually abandon his views, dumb-down his speech, take-up weight-lifting and switch majors from cancer research with a minor in theoretical physics to playground management so he can devote his time to emulating Baywatch characters and football players so that he will one day be viewed as more than a “nice guy.”

The nice guy will eventually work up the courage to ask out his attractive female friend but will invariably be turned down because she’s so self-centered that she’d never actually had a smidgeon of compassion for the nice guy’s feelings or even realized that he’s interested in girls. After rejecting the nice guy, the girl will downplay the supposed friendship to the point where they never speak again, which in turn will make the nice guy depressed (ironically, he won’t have anyone to talk to) because he’s devoted so much time and energy and has become so warped from being exposed to these kinds of people that he will either live the rest of his life alone in a tiny apartment, jerking off to old Saved by the Bell episodes or get drunk one night and impregnate a 300-pound, cross-eyed derelict who works at Wendy’s and spend the rest of his life being treated like shit.

The whole ‘nice guy’ phenomenon really supports the idea that people primarily care about physical appearances and that shrewdness, selfishness and narcissism will always triumph over compassion, rapport and “inner beauty.” "Jeez Patrick, I hope I can find a nice guy like you someday."

"Well, if you need me I'll be at home, crying myself to sleep while masturbating to the sound of my 70-year-old neighbors having sex...I might also play some ps2." -UD

wahhagoogoo · 2017-06-07T09:36:51+00:00

/r/niceguys

Jarn_Tybalt · 2017-06-07T17:55:16+00:00

95% of reddit.

Basically what most people consider the "nice guy" persona that you wanna avoid, is to only be seen as the friend.

So a guy, likes a girl, too afraid to ask her out. Becomes good friends, hoping that she will eventually see how awesome he is. But she becomes his bestie, he hears all about the sex she is having, get's super jealous. then he pouts, wonders why she just "uses" him and gets all mad.

Mostly comes from a chick fucking some hot douchebag guy, who fucks her and dumps her, then saying to her male best friend, "why can't I just find a nice guy?"

Male best friend goes home, cries in mirror and says "but I'm a nice guy. Bitch!"

Also guys who tend to get oneitis pretty bad, and always end up in the friendzone.

How to avoid? Stop being a pussy. Being friends is cool, but consoling her about how she's awesome and not a slut for giving a random guy blowjob in the club, isn't the kinda shit you need to be dealing w her.

Jarn_Tybalt · 2017-06-07T13:26:26+00:00

There's a book "No More Mr Nice Guy" that probably explains it most completely, and especially where to go from there. A guy who expects being nice will be rewarded with a relationship.

LimitedContributor · 2017-06-07T16:40:43+00:00

This thread makes me ashamed of ever being a nice guy. Lesson learned.

To add, nice guys are weird, untrustworthy in a bad way. I can relate to this because a girl dissing me with some care into it is a turn on. All she needs to say is "fuck me" and my sword will activate.

bugxter · 2017-06-07T17:29:46+00:00

A guy that sacrifices his identity for some girl's approval.

MisterBurgerFace · 2017-06-08T03:37:27+00:00

To be completely honest with you, there is no such thing as a nice guy. There is only labels and silly social stigma's. Now, i'm not saying people labelled as nice guys are doing the right thing, because they aren't, but the way people label them and then do the exact same thing is just a bit stupid.

Nice guys are simply people who are bad at manipulating women. 85% of the people on here and TRP modify what a nice guy does essentially in order to get laid and not be labelled nice guys.

2017-06-07T15:05:28+00:00

Go read "No More Mr. Nice Guy".

sergeant_flem · 2017-06-07T14:06:51+00:00

A "nice guy" is a guy who acts nice not because he's genuinely nice, but because he's expecting to be rewarded for it. He thinks of himself as a nice and honest guy when in reality he's probably worse than the so called "jerks" he thinks women prefer. He's nice until he doesn't get what he wants, that's when his real personality comes out.

A real nice guy is nice because its the right thing to do and expects no reward for it. He also knows that his niceness has limits and shouldn't just be given out freely either.

bluedot12 · 2017-06-07T15:50:19+00:00

Nice guy isn't a bad thing. He is generally neutral. He doesn't offend he also doesn't stand out. He puts you over him...to the point where he feels more like a store assistant than a boyfriend with his own goals and desires.

These guys tend to get upset when rejected, as if their being nice demands your attention or sex or time. Then if married they tend to be walked all over and throw their money to please their wife.

Generally these men are just not driven, if this were a story you would be the main character and they would only exist to help you get your goal. .

nobody2000 · 2017-06-07T17:07:13+00:00

Easy.

If, of all the adjectives in the world - "interesting" "smart" "cool" "stupid" "mean" "amazing" ....thousands of them....if the only one that someone can conjure up to describe you is "nice" then you're a boring nice guy. Nice is a good thing to be! But - if that's the only word that someone can come up with to describe you, well, you suck.

That's my operating definition. There's also "Nice" guys, which is much more sinister: The guy that goes out of his way to be a doormat for a girl, acts like he's always there for her, and acts like a total friend/sister, but wants to fuck her, and wonders why she treats him like a brother/friend back. They're dishonest, they're snakes in the grass, and they're bad.

You'll find that most "nice guys" fit both definitions.

Frozen_Existence · 2017-06-07T17:23:36+00:00

Just my 2 cents on this topic: nice guys don't finish last. Just depends on if you're being nice or being a slave. You can distinguish yourself from other guys by being "nice" just so long as you don't put women on a pedestal.

BrettEllisDotNet · 2017-06-07T23:50:51+00:00

*The “nice guy” is a pussy, a softy and a pushover. He tries to get along with everyone and tries to fit in. He will fold his boundaries and let people walk all over him, you know because he is a “nice guy”. He doesn’t want to offend anyone, or incite any negative feelings. He lacks a backbone, a leg to stand on and some goddamn self-worth.

He won’t sexually escalate with a girl and risk being shot down by her because he doesn’t want to make her uncomfortable. Then she throws him into the friend zone and complains to him about all the asshole men that treat her poorly.*

I wrote this: http://www.honestcasanova.com/blog/nice-guys/

A must read for every man is "No More Mr Nice Guy" By Robert Glover.

danielinthebox · 2017-06-08T11:47:27+00:00

I don't even know but sometimes I just genuinely want to be nice and sometimes I don't feel like it, I don't know man this shit is confusing as fuck.

DirkDieGurke · 2017-06-07T15:42:18+00:00

A nice guy is someone that does things for a girl in lieu of having the balls to say he wants to fuck her.

luaudesign · 2017-06-07T17:28:38+00:00

A guy who takes no risks (and gets no rewards).

danielinthebox · 2017-06-07T11:37:35+00:00

I got called a nice guy wtf

danielinthebox · 2017-06-07T11:37:54+00:00

I'm a selfish asshole lol

danielinthebox · 2017-06-07T11:38:31+00:00

Need to be more boring I think

Title	What is a "nice guy" ?
Author	danielinthebox
Upvotes	32
Comments	70
Date	June 7, 2017 9:00 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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