After losing weight, some girls have been asking if I’m gay.

2024-02-12T01:12:06+00:00

Sometimes it’s about caring for your appearance. Self-care is feminine in their minds. Don’t worry bro you’re doing great.

hysterx · 2024-02-12T03:13:00+00:00

people think im gay but im just autistic

meltboro · 2024-02-12T05:02:30+00:00

This is many womens coping mechanism these days when theyre not hit on by men they find attractive. “If they dont hit on me they must be gay” its a compliment for you and red flag for her, move on

SituationOk6836 · 2024-02-12T01:45:43+00:00

You can tell "I can show you how straight I am"

JayyySkywalker · 2024-02-12T00:53:12+00:00

Mannerisms

bennettca3 · 2024-02-11T23:30:21+00:00

Happened to me. But they just feel comfortable and like how u care about your appearance.

evilx23_ · 2024-02-12T07:19:35+00:00

A pseudo thought of being out of league. Great job king! When girls think you look way out of there league, they comfort themselves thinking you're gay.

ryux999 · 2024-02-12T00:56:52+00:00

ya its probably mannerisms

SecretComments · 2024-02-12T16:54:52+00:00

Girls asking if you are gay is actually a really really damn good thing. Trust me. It means they want you but they're thinking, to some degree, "A man this good looking who actually takes care of himself, has good skin, etc. surely isn't straight" because the stereotype is that straight men are either slobby gangly messes or ridiculous beefy muscle heads. It's not true but it's common enough that a smartly dressed, clean, well-kempt, thin, professional looking man (that they actually want and like!!).

I mean, if Neil Patrick Harris wasn't actually gay, he wouldn't be starved for attention from women, even if he wasn't a celebrity. At the same time, if Pedro Pascal was gay then a lot of women would be terribly disappointed. Giving off that impression and then showing that it's untrue can show that you're highly desirable.

This was my experience when I was on the market.

pm_me_w_nudes · 2024-02-12T03:32:47+00:00

Say yes and get invited for the next sleepover

SteveJabbaUK · 2024-02-12T05:44:36+00:00

Not to be insulting but perhaps you have more feminine mannerisms? Being in shape with a decent face does not mean you'll get asked if you're gay.

Stereotypically Associated Gay Mannerisms

Expressive Gestures: Using more animated and expressive hand movements when talking.

Vocal Modulation: A speaking style that might vary in pitch, perceived as more melodious or expressive.

Fashion Interest: A heightened interest in fashion and grooming.

Affectionate with Same Gender: Being more openly affectionate or tactile with friends of the same gender, in cultures where this is not the norm.

Stereotypically Associated Masculine Mannerisms

Reserved Body Language: Less expressive with gestures and facial expressions; may maintain more personal space.

Lower Vocal Pitch: Speaking in a deeper voice, often associated with traditional perceptions of masculinity.

Physical Assertiveness: Displaying confidence through posture, possibly taking up more space.

Interest in "Masculine" Activities: Engaging in activities or hobbies that are culturally or traditionally viewed as masculine (e.g., certain sports, mechanical work).

Sooo...do less of the former and more of the latter. And hey, at least you're hooking up with them.

chomblebrown · 2024-02-12T09:44:22+00:00

Shit test

burncushlikewood · 2024-02-12T04:59:52+00:00

Haha this is a new one...I think maybe you look effeminate or exude a feminine vibe, try changing your wardrobe and clothes. Anyway you can easily show them how straight you are by having sex with them! Are you having success with women? Or are you being frequently rejected, it may be a positive that they keep asking if your gay, maybe they think of you as a sexual candidate so they want to ask your orientation, this could be your secret weapon

l8weenie · 2024-02-12T01:46:46+00:00

Even if it’s not mannerism, you can blame toxic masculinity for how well groomed appearances get viewed. Theres a reason the “11 in 1” body wash jokes exist for men or that some men don’t wash their ass.

2024-02-12T06:23:40+00:00

People are saying your mannerism.

But I honestly think it’s more likely your style comflicting with your new body type. For starters, well dressed and put together in shape man is for some reasons a homosexual stereotype. So maybe it didn’t give gay vibes when you were a little fatter, but now that you’ve lost weight and are put together, it no longer has a masculine aura to it. Like some dudes can wear a nose ring and paint their nails and still look straight. And some don’t. You kinda gotta do what matches you, depending on what vibe you’re trying to give off.

So my guess is that you’ve lost weight, and probably started really caring about how you look for the first time and got a whole new wardrobe. And now you just look like the in shape well dressed gay stereotype. Might have to play with your style to fix it or just keep doing you.

Entrepreneurialcat · 2024-02-12T08:51:11+00:00

Happens to me a lot in my university .. apparently dressing fresh, having a cool hair cut and being in shape makes people think that you’re gay for some reason.. in my university guys don’t really put effort into their hair, style or over all appearance but I’ve been like this since HS

GoldCoast92 · 2024-02-12T10:59:28+00:00

This happened to me too. It means you're heading in the right direction. You're becoming good looking.

Obvious_Marsupial203 · 2024-02-13T21:00:00+00:00

Until a few years ago, everyone thought I was gay. Until nowadays now and then it happens. It is just something that happens sometimes.

blue_barracuda · 2024-02-13T21:06:13+00:00

This happens, and its NBD. General speaking, gay men are well put together - in shape, wear nice clothes, good hair, look successful, etc. So it is a bit of a compliment,

The way to counteract this is to be more masculine in your mannerisms. So talk in a loud deep voice, relaxed confident body language, sexy eye contact, etc.

andy_towers_dm · 2024-02-14T06:42:45+00:00

"I'm super gay, actually I'm only talking to you to see if you can turn me. Up for the challenge?" with a cheeky smile

COMFORT-ARLINGTON · 2024-02-15T17:03:53+00:00

lol hey be glad men are not asking

Sudden-Conference-65 · 2024-02-12T08:12:09+00:00

Tell them yes, I like to give it to guys in the bum but (touch her skin) your skin is softer so can I do you instead 😉

MyLilPonyFan · 2024-02-12T17:06:40+00:00

Look at how females act, and do not do that

CheeseDanishSoup · 2024-02-13T05:31:38+00:00

Jesus fucking christ i hate this place if women (or anyone) THINKS YOURE GAY FROM LOSING WEIGHT

Fuck this gay earth

Legitimate_Law97 · 2024-02-12T09:07:22+00:00

I am glad op asked. I am really cute korean face no beard no jaw . But attractive since androgyne.
Every girl will basically ask if I am gay. They scare to ask me if i am gay. Scared I react upset. But when I react cool they love it. ❤️

I want to play on this since it's opener + sign of interest. What to answer?

please pua help I will apply tonight.

My advice of beginner for what its worth : answer with deep and sensual voice for break the image. " noooo I love curve on a woman. ❤️, ummm I love boobs/ hips too much to be gay"

React cool funny and smiling thats a pure shit test.

But I am sure they re is better to exploit.

noiceonebro · 2024-02-12T09:30:05+00:00

Your face looks ambiguous sexually, that’s all. This might mean that your face looks more feminine. Personally I think it could be a strength. I’ve noticed that men with rugged face acting manly might swoon certain women, however for most, effeminate faces with masculine behaviours are more effective.

snmstyle · 2024-02-12T09:46:13+00:00

When I was in real good shape I got hit on by gays and hot females. I’m talking 10s. Take it as a compliment.

nascash098 · 2024-02-12T12:00:37+00:00

If they ask u if ur gay say "would u like to find out if that is true"

VaginaNarritives · 2024-02-12T13:41:04+00:00

Have you started grooming your eyebrows?

mynewd8nglife · 2024-02-12T15:45:32+00:00

Sexual ambiguity can actually increase attraction. This is part of the reason some PUA's will wear eye liner, feather boas, and say things like "if I weren't gay..." It can trigger a woman's desire to seduce and chase if the message about whether or not she can have you gets dysregulated. Kind of falls in line with the analogy of a cat playing with a string. If they catch it every time, they lose interest.

Theboynextdoor09 · 2024-02-12T16:29:31+00:00

It's cause your taking care of yourself to a level most gay men do. The appearance etc plus the women already like you. Just joke about it and keep doing your thing

Also congrats and loosing all that weight

RedFox457 · 2024-02-12T17:45:41+00:00

Do you live somewhere where gay is a bad thing? I live in NYC and a lot of people wash their asses and are open with their sexuality.

I dress better than a tshirt and cargo shorts, I take care of my hair and sing along to Shania Twain

CarabaoBAC · 2024-02-12T20:22:30+00:00

If girls ask me if I'm gay, I just ask if they want to fuck around and find out.

Atriev · 2024-02-13T03:19:41+00:00

Are you wearing tighter fitting clothing?

chrissolo_ · 2024-02-13T08:59:55+00:00

I’ve been hearing this a lot recently too. It’s just a projection on your style or something. It’s like a compliment if you think about it.

zuperfly · 2024-02-13T10:12:22+00:00

ignore

bhutams · 2024-02-13T12:48:39+00:00

I’ll comment about something that others haven’t said yet. It may be mannerisms, but in my experience it’s due to keeping the conversation too platonic. If a girl is trying to sexualize the conversation and I don’t follow along, she’ll ask if I’m gay. Or if I reject her, she’ll say I’m gay.

If you find these women attractive you should start taking risks in the conversation.

iknowrealtv · 2024-02-14T05:03:03+00:00

Mannerisms is a real thing especially if you grew up in a single parent home with your mom and not your dad. I have a friend like this I know he's not gay but people ask him if he's gay all the time and say he's sassy. He has so many things he does subconsciously I had to point out so many things to him. But he was really not aware how it looks objectively.

Puzzleheaded-Cook116 · 2024-02-16T07:30:56+00:00

Rare experience for me but a time that did happen, it was when I was being very non chalant at a club/bar. Girls dancing and shaking ass everywhere. Because I wasn’t making moves a girl came up and said “are you gay?”. I kinda laughed cause I already guessed why she was asking that. I said “wanna see if Im gay?”. Instant makeout, I wish more girls would ask lol.

Title	After losing weight, some girls have been asking if I’m gay.
Author	TodayOrTmrw
Upvotes	145
Comments	73
Date	February 11, 2024 11:19 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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