How do you actually improve?

stylerTyler · 2017-12-05T20:11:42+00:00

Quite frankly yes. Reading is great because it prepares you but if you don’t actually go out there and practice then all the reading in the world will not help you.

bugxter · 2017-12-06T00:07:05+00:00

Fail often, and as soon as possible.

OnlyOnceThreetimes · 2017-12-05T23:43:32+00:00

Just the fact you dont think to give any more detail on what you have already been trying and the lazy attitude of your post and reponses says that you arent having any enthusiasm.

That can be the biggest reason you arent improving.

aznology · 2017-12-06T02:19:50+00:00

Literally watch other people and accomplish stuff. Stuff like White Collar, Mad Men and Suits model yourself after those men. Then accomplish goals that you set.

essexaspie · 2017-12-05T21:28:33+00:00

all the stuff i read here i feel like i can’t put these into actual work

Give me some examples

acam36 · 2017-12-05T22:28:24+00:00

Look at your self, what I mean your inner self. Learn from it,. Then go from there, u will fail many times, that is why when you find the one , you will appreciate her/him

Schroef · 2017-12-05T22:32:08+00:00

You need to give examples of what ‘stuff’ you read but can’t put into actual work, you can’t say “hey I’m trying to apply stuff to be a better basketball player but it’s not really working”.

Having said this, you sound like you need to stop and think. Don’t “just keep talking to women”, stop and think and ask yourself: what are you trying to achieve, and more importantly, why? Don’t post it here, answer yourself truthfully.

Are you having trouble talking to girls? Or talking to people in general? Or girls only being interested in you as a friend? How does that make you feel? How do you feel about the rest of your life? Depressed? Frustrated? Apathic? Pretty happy? Are you getting out of life what you want? Etc.

PNRisTheWayToPlay · 2017-12-05T23:02:00+00:00

literally nothing here you read matters. in fact you can go out and talk to women and humiliate yourself and it would be more meaningful than 100% of the advice you see.

PJ_GRE · 2017-12-06T00:52:42+00:00

Be the best version of you that you can be (for you, not for women). Talk to everyone. Touch everyone. Fail often. Learn. Have fun!

Eskeeetiiit · 2017-12-06T03:29:00+00:00

Mental practice. One thing that helped me is imagining those impossible interactions and putting the stuff i read into practice in these impossible situations. This also gives me time to think about how to act, then in the every day interactions I subconsciously apply the rules and improve a lot in my daily interactions.

the1399element · 2017-12-06T03:54:39+00:00

Seddit is level #1, it's very basic

And I know I'm going to get a lot of flak for saying that.

There's SO much more to seduction than what's depicted here.

My advice (and you won't like hearing this) is watch great films, read some classic books and begin to notice the beauty in the world.

Spending a lot of time in nature, observing the animals, watching how they interact and how the world interacts with them taught me more about seduction than probably any book or video but you have to prep yourself to get to this level. Which is why you need to expand your mind and horizons.

EsportsGuy11 · 2017-12-06T08:03:13+00:00

Gotta go out and actually practice what you read about. Evaluate what works, why it didn't, try again. Reading can only get you so far, but mindlessly approaching is the same. You gotta actually try to figure out what works for you, what doesn't, and improve.

Errorterm · 2017-12-08T19:03:07+00:00

There is an ancient Chinese strategy game called Go, sort of like a Chinese version of chess. A proverb to improve your skill at this game is to "lose your first 100 games as quickly as possible."

I'm trying to apply this to women as well, and fail forward through my first few attempts at game. it was said somewhere else on this sub that you are gonna suck at it until you don't. This is the way of most things. If you have ever tried learning a sport or instrument, think back on how you became better. Did you read about how to play the guitar and then master it? Probably not.

Apply what you learn out in the real world. Spoiler: you'll probably experience a fair amount of failure. How is this different from anything else you've tried to improve at? don't let it kill your momentum. practice makes perfect. good luck!

ImJustSo · 2017-12-05T21:41:27+00:00

Do i just have to keep talking to women to actually improve?

Well, fuckin duh? Doesn't every single thing you read here say that?

Title	How do you actually improve?
Author	I_Main_TwistedFate
Upvotes	23
Comments	23
Date	December 5, 2017 7:44 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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