So I work as a confidence/dating coach and one thing guys always complain about is running out of things to say. It’s a massive pain point which affects loads of people so if you can relate to that then I feel you bro. I feel you. And I got you too. I both got and feel you! So this is what I’m gonna do. Here I’m gonna address some techniques you can use to make sure that you’re never lost for words ever again and can flow effortlessly through your future conversations.

You ready? Here come the pain.

First things first, (I Poppa freaks all da honeyz) you need to realise that when you’re tongue tied in front of that smoking hot 10 at the bar, you haven’t run out of things to say. You’ve run out of things to say that you think are good enough.

The truth is that there are any number of things for you to talk about. Millions and billions of things. Trillions and gazillions of things. Jillions and quintillions of things! You could talk about your love of architecture, about Drizzy, whether or not she checks out girls’ legs or asses in public, about Spider-Man, Ethiopian coffee beans, or anything else your brain can come up with.

You just need to think of something interesting and then voice it to the other person.

But that’s not what you do, is it? What you do is judge yourself.

What you do is tell yourself that whatever you have to say simply isn’t good enough for the stunner you want to say it too.

What you do is put a ridiculous amount of pressure on yourself by thinking that your ideas are crap while simultaneously raising this person to godlike status in your brain.

And guess what? This pressure causes your brain to short circuit and render you as witty and engaging as a Timmy from South Park.

TIMMY!

The first key to never running out of things to say is to have faith in the things you want to talk about

TIMMY!

Assume that whatever it is that you would want to discuss if you weren’t so fucking nervous is fucking cool and fucking worth talking about. Assume that the person you’re talking to wants to fucking hear whatever you have to fucking say and then act like that’s the case.

Fucking simple

TIMMY!

Something that you might want to know about us here people we’re kinda like apes or sheep (sheepapes?). If someone starts acting in a confident way around us then regardless of whatever the freak they might be talking about, the VAST majority of us will assume that they’re a leader and get to following pronto.

Use that to your advantage! If you act like the things you have to say are awesome and worth hearing then people will get sucked into your world and happily talk to you about whatever the hell you’re into. It really is that simple. Just act like what you have to say has value and people will assume it does.

The second thing to remember when talking to people is that you can’t be stuck inside your own head.

Being stuck inside your own head is the poison of free-flowing conversation.

So be in the moment. Be present. Get the energy flowing through your body. Listen to the music and nod your head to it. Hear the wind, look at the person you’re talking to and what they’re wearing. Are they preppy or gothic? Do they look like they’ve been on holiday? Do they look like they’ve been killing it in the gym? Do they have an accent? Does it sound German or Spanish? Why don’t you guess and then ask them if you’re right?

There’s any number of things you could be talking about and there’s no reason for you to ever run out of shit to say in a conversation.

Follow these quick tips and you’ll notice an immediate improvement in your conversations with both guys and girls.

TIMMY!

btw I’m always looking to connect with guys who are interested in self improvement so if you’re on a mission to become the best version of yourself then hit me up with a DM