Want to know one of the best ways to get a good woman (and keep her)? Respect her boundaries! :)

Imperator_Pyra · 2020-10-06T09:16:55+00:00

Yeah, cool, but:

This is relationship advice rather than seduction advice.
Seems like you came here to moralise more than anything.
This is breaking rule 2 of this subreddit.

Returning_Video_Tape · 2020-10-06T08:32:08+00:00

Half the women I've dated would have broken up with me sooner if I had listened to this advice.

Captain_w00t · 2020-10-06T08:26:07+00:00

Honestly in a committed relationship I really don't like keeping formal boundaries like this.... Its seems very stoic.. It should be playful..

halil100 · 2020-10-06T08:15:52+00:00

Bullshit

tobeswhite · 2020-10-06T09:08:12+00:00

I get the message and support what they're trying to get across but the last line where the kid tells the dad what game he has just makes me think about that one mom who tries to be "cool" by rocking up to her kids school wearing baggy clothes and having a bunch of gold painted plastic bling while blasting some 80s hip hop XD

daintyxwitch · 2020-10-06T10:34:39+00:00

If "respecting her boundaries" as this post suggests worked. The 80% of men who have followed this advice their whole life wouldn't struggle so much with women. The number of men who act exactly as this post claims they should, and still can't get laid more than once per year if that, is proof in of itself that this is not what women are attracted to.

No, it's the 20% who push the boundaries and respect their own needs who end up "getting all the girls".

You have ego invested this notion that women just want to be "respected" your whole life, so of course that's the sort of belief you want to believe. But that's not what reality has demonstrated. Reality shows that women want a man who can be in charge. Take the lead.

I'm not saying just ignore her wishes and do whatever you want whenever. I'm saying that if you want to sexually arouse a woman, you need to take charge in the relationship. Not force her to take charge. That's not what she wants out of a man.

This isn't my own opinions either. This is what the PUA community has spent decades discovering

Galad_Damodred · 2020-10-06T08:43:01+00:00

That's some bullshit. If you cannot even bear to get hugged by your so then maybe you are not for each other. Boundaries exist even in relationships yes. But hugging? I don't see how this kind of behavior could be considered healthy. And frankly I felt sorry for the man here.

thebalancedon · 2020-10-06T09:26:21+00:00

I agree with the theme of the comic and respecting boundaries.

What seems unrealistic is the situation. I've dated and been married, and I've never announced a hug nor had a hug announced to me. I've also never seen an interaction like this among friends, family, pretty much any couple I've experienced. I think the message is getting lost in the improbable situation.

arjungmenon · 2020-10-06T09:10:55+00:00

This is some of the dumbest shit I’ve seen in a while. It’s a high probability that whoever drew this drew it as a joke. Following this advise is a sure-fire way to become a “nice” guy and a hopeless (trampled-upon) loser.

Starburst9507 · 2020-10-06T09:14:53+00:00

I’ve did this for 20 years and haven’t seen any results.

Sunlitstream264 · 2020-10-06T09:07:15+00:00

I can’t tell if this is sarcastic...

Hister333 · 2020-10-06T09:08:39+00:00

She's cheating on him.

bonadzz · 2020-10-06T09:38:26+00:00

Gtfo. This is the brainwashing bullshit that feminism has been shoving down boys and young men's throats for years. One of the very reasons this sub exists is because this nice guy shit we've been taught our whole lives doesn't Fucking work.

Absolutely terrible advice.

2020-10-06T09:15:29+00:00

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-Asher- · 2020-10-06T11:01:44+00:00

This is propaganda lmao

Pringles__ · 2020-10-06T09:10:02+00:00

Bullshit.

Respect your boundaries before hers. Have respect for yourself, and you'll find someone who respects you.

If you don't want to get with someone who isn't always "in the mood to be touched", next her.

dkod066 · 2020-10-06T08:40:59+00:00

What a crock of shit hahahaha

gambhirmamla · 2020-10-06T10:27:56+00:00

Simp

Augustan-Isidoro · 2020-10-06T11:46:57+00:00

You can't be serious right? This guy is without a doubt in a sexless marriage.

M4ddChristian · 2020-10-06T09:46:09+00:00

SIMP detected!

2020-10-06T10:20:10+00:00

Lol what a simp. What better way to keep a good woman then being a beta cuck, am I right?

VojvodaSrpski · 2020-10-06T09:40:49+00:00

Extra bad advice.

Here’s a much better one: respect YOUR boundaries and make her respect them if she wants to be with you, otherwise you’ll find someone other that will (she needs to know this but never tell it directly).

Pyromanul · 2020-10-06T11:18:26+00:00

Well yes, but actually no! It's good to respect boundaries, but if her boundaries steps over yours, do not respect her boundaries. For example, when my gf said se will break up with me if i kept hanging out with a friend she didn't like, what do you think i did? She didn't break up with me and i was hanging out with him as much as i wanted.

AngelStickman · 2020-10-06T12:27:52+00:00

So the comic forgot to mention communication. It seems this couple has communicated a lot in the past. It also seems like there are know issues that aren’t stated, which have been communicated about.

I would say this is seduction but it is good relationship advice. I have been on both sides of this situation. Respecting boundaries goes a long way towards respect and attraction.

assman37 · 2020-10-06T14:51:53+00:00

Husband has an awful relationship with wife. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where I even had the ability to conceive of asking for permission to hug and then even worse getting a no. I mean it was never even something I could imagine.

Shermarki · 2020-10-06T09:43:45+00:00

Complete nonsense.

wrencl · 2020-10-06T10:38:59+00:00

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kgmullins · 2020-10-06T11:45:09+00:00

I love how OP recommend therapy for anyone who does not agree with him... /s

And I also love how he gets downvoted to the ground.

Starburst9507 · 2020-10-06T09:50:00+00:00

Yeaaa....tried it 3 times doesn’t work when they don’t talk to you

Starburst9507 · 2020-10-06T10:33:40+00:00

This is a beautiful post and you’re fielding questions beautifully. Respect is key. You can’t ask for respect if you won’t give it. You can’t have boundaries you expect someone to respect if you cannot respect the other person’s boundaries.

pantsnake · 2020-10-06T11:12:17+00:00

A 'good' woman? This woman is severely autistic and should not have a family..

Wolverine1850 · 2020-10-06T12:01:21+00:00

This is almost clearly satire. “See son, ladies love it!” And the kid talking about “serious game” is not meant literally in that last frame.

If it’s not meant as satire, it’s horribly written.

Obviously if you are meeting someone and not getting any reciprocal sexual attraction cues, then don’t impose yourself and commit sexual assault. Get some buy-in first. But the key is to keep working to get that buy-in. Keep up the conversation. Make fun of her (playfully). Flirt and banter.

If you just shut yourself down at the first hint of rejection, any woman is going to perceive you as weak and unable to pursue what you want. Not attractive. Women want a man who can inspire desire and show intent.

Fat-Virgin · 2020-10-06T12:05:57+00:00

Why does the dad look like vault boy?

Lowfryder7 · 2020-10-06T12:08:04+00:00

squints What's your game man?

SushiSuki · 2020-10-06T12:23:38+00:00

Shitposting is real today.

assman37 · 2020-10-06T22:14:53+00:00

John Candy provides a better demonstration of how to respect a woman's boundaries in the great outdoors:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PAC3F5dQufQ

Observe how often she says no and tells him to stop. He listens but doesn't take it seriously. Yet they appear to be having a lot more fun than the couple in this comic.

2020-10-06T10:19:48+00:00

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baby-einstein · 2020-10-06T08:31:31+00:00

sometimes boundaries can be a form of control.

Fishua · 2020-10-06T09:33:44+00:00

Love this post in this subreddit, you are fielding all these toxic men beautifully. Much kudos, love and respect x

2020-10-06T12:04:41+00:00

TL:DR: “Just be nice”

What a lot of trash

akashkarvi · 2020-10-06T09:27:40+00:00

I don't get it, I mean I get it but I kinda don't.

Captain_w00t · 2020-10-06T07:12:35+00:00

And listen/read as well.

2020-10-06T11:52:55+00:00

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Starburst9507 · 2020-10-06T10:20:01+00:00

Love it

bumblebritches57 · 2020-10-06T12:13:24+00:00

No wonder this post is so shit, OP is female.

Title	Want to know one of the best ways to get a good woman (and keep her)? Respect her boundaries! :)
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	543
Comments	186
Date	October 6, 2020 7:09 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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