Why do in-shape guys I see at the gym have ugly or fat girlfriends?

pinstrap · 2015-07-24T15:00:51+00:00

Because 99% of guys, no matter how rich or ripped they are, have no game.

BinglesTRP · 2015-07-24T15:05:05+00:00

There's always the chance that they have been with these women before getting in shape, and their little beta hearts can't throw away "All that time invested".

It's why we talk about sunk cost fallacy here. Don't ever be afraid to walk.

David35207 · 2015-07-24T15:14:42+00:00

They're so focused on lifting and getting big that they don't see the gains that their girlfriends are making as well

GayLubeOil · 2015-07-24T18:30:23+00:00

Because their girlfriends eat as much as them

yaardi · 2015-07-24T15:38:08+00:00

They're bulking.

v1000 · 2015-07-24T16:10:10+00:00

High test girls

TheRealMewt · 2015-07-24T17:02:49+00:00

In some manner, they're simply not equipped to date women of higher SMV. Fortunately for you or I, we don't have to live like those guys do.

stillnoturday · 2015-07-24T15:50:47+00:00

I dunno about date.

I'm in better shape than most in the world 6' 227 12%ish bf, and I've always gone for thicker girls. Not grossly fat but a girl that has an ass.

So I dunno if I'm what you are talking about but I can tell you one thing. Try it.

The_Americano · 2015-07-24T15:28:11+00:00

I know a lot of gym bros that like "thick" girls.

Anon_Dutch · 2015-07-24T18:03:50+00:00

It's anecdotal evidence, your few obseevations do not constitute a trend that requires explanation. There are couples with an ugly guy and a hot girl, a hot guy and an ugly girl, an ugly guy and girl, or a hot guy and girl. Aside from lacking statistical significance, your observations are limited to their appearance, you do not know how they treat each other. Those "uggos" may give the best blowjob the guy has ever had and may do so every single night after brining the guy a beer and massaging his feet. Conversely, the ugly guy with the hot girl may look like the man in public, but probably suffers from a dead bedroom. TL:DR don't jump to conclusions or seek explanations for phenomena which may not even be statistically significant.

thor_away92 · 2015-07-24T15:54:24+00:00

Actually dude, once you have that much muscle mass, pounding skinny bitches is straight up painful on the hips. I like em thick cause my grip damn near needs the extra ass. Plus I get more workout in throwing the thick ones around the room.

More cushion for the pushin is real in this case.

BrunoOh · 2015-07-24T16:30:06+00:00

Because in the end it's all a head game.

It's advised to lift because of the confidence boost, better posture and feeling better. These all do more than the muscles ever will.

midnightbean · 2015-07-24T17:10:56+00:00

I end up dating a lot of short smaller girls, but the times I've had sex with taller girls or thicker girls it's been the best.

I banged an Amazon type one night with large hips and it was hands down the best lay. I wish I understood it but small girls, no matter how great the figure just get boring for me during sex. More that you're really fucking something instead of it fucking you.

AnalLeak · 2015-07-24T19:04:00+00:00

I actually see the complete opposite. Never once seen a fit dude with a fat chick.

NiceTryDisaster · 2015-07-24T22:58:24+00:00

What a bullshit generalized question with a bunch of stupid answers

StarDestinyGuy · 2015-07-24T17:36:37+00:00

Well, if their SMV keeps rising and their GFs goes down, then their GF will put even more effort into their relationship right?

That could be enjoyable, to an extent of course.

[deleted] · 2015-07-24T18:45:31+00:00

I've noticed this too. One of my good friends just impregnated a post-wall 5. He's in excellent shape and had a bright future. He was BP though and I was unable to turn him.

THE_Masters · 2015-07-24T20:58:47+00:00

Just cause they have muscles doesn't mean they have the face to go with it lulz

KimJongSkill101 · 2015-07-24T21:00:41+00:00

I married fat woman for her money and work ethic.

I don't go to the gym. I lift bags with rocks to save money.

I also don't mind the fluff, and she lifts rocks with me now so she isn't as fat anymore. She lost a good 60 pounds and gained a lot of muscle.

Some men aren't as visual as others. I'd say I'm among the minority of men though.

BlackHeart89 · 2015-07-24T21:13:30+00:00

Are you sure its their girlfriend? I've brought in a fat chick who I was strictly friends with. I tried to help her fat ass out. But it was a waste of time. Never brought her again.

mikkiebobbie · 2015-07-24T21:17:05+00:00

So which is more important ; the looks or the game ?

DanielHo1992 · 2015-07-24T23:16:14+00:00

Maybe they like to leverage their higher relative SMV to make their relationship partners work like dogs/slaves for them.

In the meantime, they plate more attractive women on the side (more attractive women who have to do far less to get their attention). The low SMV fugly girl is only the 'official girlfriend' because she makes too much noise if they cut her off from that role while the rest of their plates are content to fellate in the dark.

I've seen higher SMV women do it to men, there's no reason why higher SMV men can't do the same to women.

Glocks10mike · 2015-07-24T23:34:34+00:00

Many of them were probably very beta and not able to get any pussy at all, and once they gained confidence in the gym they took the first pussy they were able to get, which to them was an upgrade from nothing.

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-07-25T01:43:24+00:00

No gag reflex. Sex on demand without having to work for it.

If you're in a relationship primarily for the regular sex, and she never EVER says no, it's hard to go looking elsewhere.

throwaway-aa2 · 2015-07-25T03:14:00+00:00

Because some of those same guys couldn't get a girlfriend before they lifted. They started lifting and picked up a girl from lifting, while still having zero game. So they're stuck.

anonymau5 · 2015-07-25T03:38:48+00:00

How about the fat slothy shits you see with beautiful petite girlfriends? It's an epidemic here in Florida

[deleted] · 2015-07-25T04:09:53+00:00

Sounds like /fit/ in a nutshell.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2015-07-25T04:52:04+00:00

Is there a military base near you? A lot of men in the military have big fat wives. Because he's got a requirement to stay in good shape, or he will get in trouble. But she can do whatever.

Sepean · 2015-07-25T05:56:12+00:00

Looking fit doesn't do that much. It can't undo lack of game.

[deleted] · 2015-07-25T08:15:07+00:00

Because tren will make you fuck anything.

allfunkedout · 2015-07-25T14:03:38+00:00

They may be in the process of kicking some of them to the curb.

[deleted] · 2015-07-24T15:34:42+00:00

How do you know they're dating? Maybe he's a personal trainer or maybe she's a friend of a friend and he somehow got suckered in.

[deleted] · 2015-07-24T16:38:45+00:00

You have to understand that most people start lifting and stay committed to it, because they were first initially insecure about their body-image. Lifting CAN help with your confidence, but just because you are jacked does not mean you are immune to still being a lame-ass.

Also like /u/Modern_Drummer said, 99% of guys have no game.

solbrothers · 2015-07-24T15:01:40+00:00

Beauty is in the eyes on the beholder

Maybe they're just not your type

Or maybe you're just shallow

prodigy2throw · 2015-07-24T18:16:14+00:00

Don't get it confused. Being jacked does not equal alpha.

Still plugged in. I see a lot of guys out here don't realize how much better they could be doing. They just don't see their potential

Title	Why do in-shape guys I see at the gym have ugly or fat girlfriends?
Author	HellhoundsOnMyTrail
Upvotes	35
Comments	102
Date	July 24, 2015 2:54 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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