Sleeping at night

Affectionate-Egg1686 · 2024-06-04T18:44:17+00:00

Exercise during the day and abstaining from alcohol

sincere_fool · 2024-06-04T02:38:20+00:00

I understand what you're going through. It's awful. This helps and is safe: 400 mg Magnesium + 10mg Melatonin= sleep. When I take together I fall asleep fast and stay asleep through the night. Maybe also buy a heat pad and lay on it to fall asleep. It's very soothing and I find quite helpful. Well wishes.🤞💤 😴

Both_Kick8629 · 2024-06-03T15:00:01+00:00

Being able to sleep alone is the best feeling ever man, make it your space and make it as comfortable as you wish ! I understand it's difficult at the beginning, but you get used to it and then you start loving it 😬 good luck

SuperConfused40 · 2024-06-02T16:35:30+00:00

Journaling - Write out all those intrusive thoughts. After enough word vomit, you either feel like you let it out, or can read through it to help you process your emotions.

Ultimately, time is what you need.

Good luck. We know the struggle.

Movieman_Steve · 2024-06-02T05:23:48+00:00

I suggest exercise also. My wife (no kids between us) moved out 2 weeks ago, so I have an idea of what you're going thru. I suggest also talking with people who know what's currently going on in your life- friends, family, etc. Maybe even look into talking to someone professionally.

Jake_Barnes_ · 2024-06-01T02:52:03+00:00

You’ll get used to it quick

jalapeno-grill · 2024-06-01T01:35:12+00:00

Workout at the gym daily - hard but not within a few hours of bed time. Pop an advil PM an hour before bed. Listen to meditation tracks on headspace. It got me through the hardest of the few weeks.

captainchippsixx · 2024-05-31T23:14:08+00:00

Haven’t tried it but magnesium foot rub.
Or you could see your doctor for some help.

danneedsahobby · 2024-05-31T23:00:41+00:00

Exercise. If your body is tired enough, you will sleep.

krazykanuck · 2024-05-31T21:10:58+00:00

Dr huberman did a series on sleep on his podcast. Very good

DazzlingEcho6475 · 2024-05-31T19:54:49+00:00

I didn't take anything. For about a month, I'd keep waking up in the early morning because that's when she was forced to get up and take a shower ro do her sneaking around. I still occasionally wake up early, after 3 months, but it's not that frequent anymore. The bad days aren't as frequent either. I'm just waiting for everything to be over so I can fully get her out of the damn house...that will put me in a much better place

Not much help other than you just have to endure the body's process. It's so different for everyone. Stay strong!

MonarchistExtreme · 2024-05-31T17:16:51+00:00

I don't recommend what I did...I drank myself to sleep for a year. Looking back I think I could have quit sooner than I did. I was afraid of the night thoughts, mind movies, and all the negative emotion that would create a feedback loop and keep me up all night.

When I finally tried to sleep sober again, I did it without any problems.

Not gonna lie to you, the only cure for what you're going thru is time. For me, it took about 6 months to feel like I could breathe freely again. A year before I could go 10 minutes without thinking about it. A year and a half out I could think about it without it hurting. Now at 5 years since the world went to shit I can reflect on it with wry amusement. The only person I'm still upset with at this point is myself for allowing the bs that I did just to try and keep our family together.

Basic_Advance7627 · 2024-05-31T16:59:14+00:00

Podcasts, working until I absolutely exhausted myself.

Feisty_Elderberry_96 · 2024-05-31T15:52:49+00:00

Zzzquil works better for me than melatonin gummies. I still take it when I have my son, as sometimes I have a hard time settling down when he's with me. Benadryl also works well- and helps with allergies too!

Also try to set a consistent bedtime schedule. Read and try to stay off your phone for an hour before bed. My phone goes to black and white mode around 930pm. Sure ppl have fun of me for that. But in all honesty - Getting a consistent nights sleep was and still is one of the hardest things for me post divorce.

LiarTrail · 2024-05-31T14:59:25+00:00

Zzquil wasy jam.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-05-31T14:35:14+00:00

I know the feeling. NyQuil and a novel helped - not medical advice.

It does get better, pretty sure I had insomnia for about 6 weeks.

EmotionSix · 2024-05-31T14:32:06+00:00

Ambien or Ativan. Get them from a doctor. CBD gummies if available in your state. The store can advise on best quality for sleep. Don’t drink alcohol. It disrupts sleep. Vigorous exercise for 1 hour. Will make you exhausted. Take naps during the day if you’re not sleeping well at night. 30 minutes maximum for a nap. Jerking off before bed or at night will make you sleepy again. A doctor even once told me this!

Wicksford85 · 2024-05-31T14:07:55+00:00

Before my divorce my ex became a nurse and decided to take the night shift because “the money was better” even though we weren’t hurting. For 6 months, and to now, I slept alone and it was very difficult for the first few weeks. Zzzquil became my friend but I didn’t want to become dependent on it.

Honestly time is the only thing that helps. I’ve been divorced for a little over a month and there are times I miss my partner but I’ve just gotten used to being alone at night.

Title	Sleeping at night
Author	FiredrakeHots
Upvotes	11
Comments	25
Date	May 31, 2024 2:00 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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