Social media isn't indicative of real life,but I do understand how it shapes opinion on a micro level even though it isn't true on the macro level. Let's talk about, and how discern the difference betwixt the twain.

I was scrolling tiktok, and saw 2 of them that struck nerves. The first was one of a wife that decided to make a tiktok about how she was going to ask her husband to redo a railing that was almost completely done because she didn't like the spacing on the bottom. For context it was an elevated deck, and the bottom wire railing had smaller spacing to prevent small animals, and children from falling. She preferred larger spacing for aesthetic, the lives of pets and children be damned. Obviously she got dragged in the comments. Lots of guys were triggered by her post, rightfully so, as aesthetic doesn't Trump safety. She also waited until the project was almost done, instead of saying something earlier. Men seeing this could easily be influenced into thinking that most wives are like this, when they clearly are not

The 2nd was of a female realtor talking about an embarrassing moment with a male client. She gave him a tour, after which his body language changed. Back in her office after printing docs, and getting the paperwork, he politely, but abruptly left. It wasn't until she went to the bathroom that she saw that her pants had split down the middle all the way. So her entire crotch to ass had been on display the whole time. The comment section was full of guys replying "I need a house, I'm on the market" and "I would've bought it immediately " " Can't believe he didn't buy from someone as pretty as you" I can easily see why a woman reading those comments would think that most men are creeps. When in reality, most men would've just done the same as the potential buyer. Left without trying to creep on the realtor, and understand how embarrassing that situation could be, and not try to turn into some 1990s cheesy porn film plot.

These 2 SM scenarios illustrate divergent conceptual philosophies, but spring forth from the same concept. The over reliance on algorithm curated social media. How should we as a society approach this issue? Most people seem to understand the difference, but how can we reach those that don't, particularly the ones that are struggling in the relationship market?