I recently had a girl more or less fall into my lap. I work at a restaurant as a waiter. She came in on a slow night, we really hit it off, and she left her number on the receipt without me even asking.

I’ve gotten numbers unprompted from tables before, but never from someone as attractive as her. I texted her the next morning, and we hit it off and we set up a date for that weekend.

We went hiking at a nearby spot, and had great conversation. As we got to the end of the hike, I noticed a hole on her lip where a lip piercing used to be. I touched it, looked into her eyes to tell her how beautiful she was, and then… didn’t kiss her. I awkwardly stumbled around in conversation, until we stood up. She even made a comment about how “excited her body was for something to happen” and how disappointed she was it didn’t.

I shrugged it off, and kept having fun. We hiked back, and she said we should probably inspect each others bodies for ticks. I knew this was another sign she was ready to escalate, but for some reason I again chose not to. Anyways, after this we got food and drinks and hung out the rest of the night, but at no point did I kiss her or physically escalate other than hand on her thighs and shit.

I really messed up, she was a cute girl who was super into me, but now she’s gone ghost and I can’t really blame her. I’m trying not to beat myself up over this, I’m coming out of a 5 year relationship that lasted from 16-21, so I only have experience with one woman. I know I’m attractive, even attractive enough women will approach me. There will almost certainly be another girl by this time next week.

But I can’t believe I fucked up so bad with a girl who was so into me.