So I think I'm pretty (lol I HOPE I'm not being delulu here). I'm very fit from dancing my whole life and well-groomed and wear a natural but very flattering style of makeup.

I've never had a proper bf, never done anything before really. I don't go out (clubbing / partying etc), I do have hobbies like baking, fashion, dancing, Pilates, pickleball, etc. I moved across the coast after college so I don't have a ton of friends here. Honestly, I'm a bit lonely sometimes but I've recently developed a few core friends and do a couple activities a week outside of work. I'm fortunate to work a high-earning job where I grind a lot but feel very rewarded at.

I've been following this community since I was 16 or 17 and have tried to shape myself into an ideal RPW. And for the most part, I really think I check the boxes (fit, feminine, fun, right?)

But my problem- I just can't get a bf, or even the talking stages leading up to a BF, when it seems that everyone I know here is pairing up one by one. I live in a heavily male-dominated city (so you think this would be easy am i right :0 ). I tried all the dating apps out there following advice from this sub, but I just honestly don't see many guys who meet my criteria (and my initial criteria is honestly pretty low. attractive, similar income level, 21-28, and same or taller height than me. I'm 5'11 smh :(). So I end up not swiping and having like 1-2 matches which fizzle out really soon.

I've tried hanging out at coffee shops and stuff, and I do get hit on (some guy handed me a napkin with his number yesterday lol at an airport), but it's always by guys who I don't feel attraction to. Most of my friends here have paired up quick or are with their college sweethearts. It seems that any guy at work etc who is attractive and confident has a gf already. I genuinely can't tell if my standards are too high, but I can't understand why I'm not able to get a few dates at least.