How did you guys improve your dating life, get better at it?

unevendopamine2 · 2024-10-23T19:15:10+00:00

Bro. At 17 trust me…

FOCUS ON YOURSELF, FOCUS ON YOURSELF, FOCUS ON YOURSELF, FOCUS ON YOURSELF, FOCUS ON YOUR DAMN SELF

Girls come and go. The girl you care about how you won’t even remember when you’re 25

And the girls who don’t want you now, will suck your dick from the back when you’re 25 IF…. You FOCUS ON YOURSELF NOW

Wean1eHu11 · 2024-10-23T18:30:06+00:00

I got better by reading a couple of dating books and actually putting the content into practice, that’s the important part. You need to take an honest look at yourself and figure out what you are doing wrong and then put in the work to fix it.

It’s not too late for you at all. Many people who get into learning about game, including myself, were late to the party on sex and relationships. 17 is perfect

Looks aren’t as important as people might say but you should still try to look as best as you can with the parts you can control, eg fitness, fashion, grooming, skincare

TwoTinders · 2024-10-23T23:31:48+00:00

Folks here might call me blue pill, but build up your friendships with women, so you're comfortable interacting with them as just humans. And you can be a little flirtatious even with your friends, so you're comfortable with that energy. (Be careful not to cross any lines with friends who are in relationships, or you can lose the friend.) Then just get out there and meet new people--there's so much less pressure when you're OK with a girl just being friendly rather than trying to turn everything romantic/sexual.

321sleep · 2024-10-23T19:31:30+00:00

Study and practice. I read some books, went to a boot camp, and practiced a lot. Took a year to get consistent results. After 3 years it’s effortless and I am waaaaay more picky about who I share my energy with.

Ur_X · 2024-10-23T18:17:14+00:00

I keep going back to what a mentor once told me - when you were trying to walk you failed over and over again… and you have to approach your dating life the same way. You’re never gonna be a star player from the get go, sure some other ppl got the genetics (and you can help yourself through gym and fashion) but what will help you the most is just keep shooting, calibrating, and you’ll start to gravitate towards the interactions that will lead to your success

KoleSekor · 2024-10-23T17:41:25+00:00

You can stand out at your age by having masculine qualities - especially maturity.

Practice talking to girls that make you feel a little intimidation.

Learn how to recognize the nervous/anxious feeling you get and manage it. Women feel your bodily feelings, so you need to feel very comfortable if you want them to feel comfortable.

Don't brag and boast about yourself, get them to talk about themselves and listen. Bring playful, curiosity to your interactions.

Good for you for starting early

Worried-One2399 · 2024-10-23T18:50:02+00:00

Hit the gym, ur testosterone is PEAKING… and will stay like that until ur 30’s.

So take advantage!! Also, face your fears. This used to be my BIGGEST downfall! I never faced my own fears.

I always was “SIMPING”, now I’m in my early 30’s. My last relationship was terrible & I’ve managed to stay single for damn near 11 years.

Lmfao… crazy when u think about it like that. But that’s the truth, I used to be SUPER insecure, had body dysmorphia, my self-esteem was absolutely TRASH.

But the fact that ur posting this @ a young age. Ur getting WAYYY ahead of other people.

Reddit wasn’t even in existence when I was in high school. Lmao.

HERE IT GOES:

Step 1: find a friend, a male who is in the same situation as u r

Step 2: Ask him if he wants to go out & approach women, since ur under 21. I would suggest malls, or the grocery store. (Or anywhere as a matter of fact)

Step 3: Approach said woman, from the FRONT and just blurt out. Hey ur style!! Does ur personality match it?

Step 4: u or ur friend simply say. (Looking @ ur phone or watch) “hey I g2g, but it was REALLY nice talking 2 u. Can I get ur # by any chance so we can maybe meet back up over coffee or something”

Step 5: input phone #. And walk off

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-10-23T17:45:19+00:00

Looks are important but you need to have communication skills too. I suggest mostly focusing on social circle but doing a bit of cold approach as well. Also have some ambitions for your life and work toward your career path while meeting people at school.

vladiVP · 2024-10-23T21:09:23+00:00

Dm me

aFalseSlimShady · 2024-10-23T21:11:36+00:00

I learned dating profile optimization. And just let those fishing lines sit in the water

Squali_squal · 2024-10-23T22:47:28+00:00

17 is perfect. If you start practicing how you'll be a beast in your 20s.

Sherman140824 · 2024-10-24T01:48:25+00:00

I'm 44. You have time. Enjoy it.

assukkar · 2024-10-24T03:59:11+00:00

Maaaan....

Go to house parties but don't fall in love with any girl. Go out, hang out but zero relationships!

Same in college. And always wrap your tool. Safe sex always. Don't go down on or make out with every girl you meet. You never know where they've been.

However, the important thing is to just talk and be yourself and try to be funny.

MentalCelOmega · 2024-10-24T04:34:10+00:00

Yeah, 17 is pretty late for a male to get a girlfriend. To answer your question, looks are everything when it comes to dating. Face, muscles, money, and genes is what matters.

HomelessMilkman · 2024-10-24T07:23:04+00:00

It's simple, imagine you have some insane news to share; "WE'VE WON THE LOTTERY!". Now, take how you'd say that and say everything like that.

If you do that, people think you're fun to listen to, exciting to listen to, you sell what you're saying like it's gold. If someone asks you a question, like 'what do you do'; you don't get any 'bonus points' for saying CEO over janitor, you get points for saying 'I'm a pirate, arrrrr' with some enthutiasm.

Looks are a joke. The sad fact is that guys can be less engaging than someone just fucking stood there but if you actually 'present', if you 'engage' properly, it's very difficult not to end up with all the attention.

redspikedog · 2024-10-24T08:23:30+00:00

17? girls your age will go for older men and will be until you're the one whos 24 or older.

Focus on yourself, but still get out there and date.

The girls you break up with that you loved like a puppy and wanted to create breeds dont mean shit when your 24.

If dating is something your focusing on, watch YouTube and see how they do it.

_FIRECRACKER_JINX · 2024-10-24T12:17:39+00:00

Well you won't hit your peak attractiveness until the age of 50.

So just wait it out bro

Booster93 · 2024-10-24T13:15:21+00:00

Lift Weights and stay out of trouble. If you lift 3x-4x a week for 4 years

Stay smart and study and get good grades, try to go to a decent lot big college.

Eat healthy

by the time you’re walking into bars/ clubs at , you’ll be clearing girls left and right and you’ll probably be an asshole haha

Please do this , please do this for the ones that missed out and didn’t get it right.

ghostsforglory · 2024-10-24T21:05:12+00:00

I'm 32, 6ft tall and have great muscular physique as lifted weights all my life and make 6 figures. I only like white girls but I'm Asian so get no results from online dating. I don't go to bars and clubs as don't drink. I've been seeing escorts all my life, no idea how will ever have a gf. Seems like my only option is to become a multi millionaire by 40 and then a sugar daddy. Makes me sad as I see inferior men with girls.

floatable_shark · 2024-10-23T20:07:34+00:00

I'm an average looking guy of average height. I'll give you the same advice I gave my younger brother - until you're nearly 30, everything is stacked against you. Girls your age are either not dating, dating a friend, or dating older guys (in their 20s, so mature and stable, right??). When you're in college you shouldn't even date but even if you did, girls your age are dating guys in their older 20s or even 30s/40s (so mature and stable, right??). Finally when you're in your older 20s you're finally in a sweet spot where younger girls want to date you and older women find you appealing too. If you want numbers, and I have always been a bit of a manwhore at heart, when I was 20 I'd slept with 2 women, when I was 24 I'd slept with 8 and when I was 30 I'd slept with 30+. Oh and steady girlfriends did not help those numbers much. Also, asians!

berzerker5000 · 2024-10-23T17:56:25+00:00

When I was 17 i was still a high school Junior. I became an entrepreneur which got me girlfriends. I sold weed. Then I got sent to a co-ed boarding school for misfits, which hardened my successful bad boy persona. Panties kept dropping. No regrets.

postbody · 2024-10-23T17:51:49+00:00

I went out and got rejected thousands of times

Worried-One2399 · 2024-10-23T18:50:19+00:00

Hit the gym, ur testosterone is PEAKING… and will stay like that until ur 30’s.

So take advantage!! Also, face your fears. This used to be my BIGGEST downfall! I never faced my own fears.

I always was “SIMPING”, now I’m in my early 30’s. My last relationship was terrible & I’ve managed to stay single for damn near 11 years.

Lmfao… crazy when u think about it like that. But that’s the truth, I used to be SUPER insecure, had body dysmorphia, my self-esteem was absolutely TRASH.

But the fact that ur posting this @ a young age. Ur getting WAYYY ahead of other people.

Reddit wasn’t even in existence when I was in high school. Lmao.

HERE IT GOES:

Step 1: find a friend, a male who is in the same situation as u r

Step 2: Ask him if he wants to go out & approach women, since ur under 21. I would suggest malls, or the grocery store. (Or anywhere as a matter of fact)

Step 3: Approach said woman, from the FRONT and just blurt out. Hey ur style!! Does ur personality match it?

Step 4: u or ur friend simply say. (Looking @ ur phone or watch) “hey I g2g, but it was REALLY nice talking 2 u. Can I get ur # by any chance so we can maybe meet back up over coffee or something”

Step 5: input phone #. And walk off

Worried-One2399 · 2024-10-23T18:50:34+00:00

Hit the gym, ur testosterone is PEAKING… and will stay like that until ur 30’s.

So take advantage!! Also, face your fears. This used to be my BIGGEST downfall! I never faced my own fears.

I always was “SIMPING”, now I’m in my early 30’s. My last relationship was terrible & I’ve managed to stay single for damn near 11 years.

Lmfao… crazy when u think about it like that. But that’s the truth, I used to be SUPER insecure, had body dysmorphia, my self-esteem was absolutely TRASH.

But the fact that ur posting this @ a young age. Ur getting WAYYY ahead of other people.

Reddit wasn’t even in existence when I was in high school. Lmao.

HERE IT GOES:

Step 1: find a friend, a male who is in the same situation as u r

Step 2: Ask him if he wants to go out & approach women, since ur under 21. I would suggest malls, or the grocery store. (Or anywhere as a matter of fact)

Step 3: Approach said woman, from the FRONT and just blurt out. Hey ur style!! Does ur personality match it?

Step 4: u or ur friend simply say. (Looking @ ur phone or watch) “hey I g2g, but it was REALLY nice talking 2 u. Can I get ur # by any chance so we can maybe meet back up over coffee or something”

Step 5: input phone #. And walk off

Title	How did you guys improve your dating life, get better at it?
Author	Diligent-Yak-1412
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Date	October 23, 2024 5:20 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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