We had our first child a year ago. We fought some before that, but I thought things were moving in the right direction (hence the child). However, the last year has been a true nightmare. We've had some of the most bitter, angry fights of our marriage and it simply doesn't seem to have an end. The thought of baby getting a little older and understanding how awful these fights are absolutely breaks my heart. I don't want him to see this. We've been to marriage counseling and individual therapists but the fights continue.

What's pushing me over the edge was today, on baby's first birthday, my wife had a complete breakdown when I wasn't happy enough for pictures. She told me I ruined the entire birthday and went to the bedroom to cry. I pled with her to be a mother and try and make our son's birthday happy but she just kept telling me I ruined already. In the end I broke down too and told her I couldn't tolerate this behavior and that we've traumatized our child. I really believe if he was a bit older a memory like this would haunt him his entire life.

I don't know what to do. Looking for advice. I don't want my child to grow up in a broken home, but it feels broken either way.