How to talk about sex in a way turns a woman on?

MarcoBrolio · 2025-01-11T23:50:18+00:00

Unc is a wild man

Competitive-Pop6530 · 2025-01-11T23:31:28+00:00

Use your best Mickey Mouse voice.

offbeat_glass · 2025-01-11T21:11:02+00:00

Don’t ever ask a girl what she does when they’re horny, that’s just going to gross them out. Also don’t ask to hold her hand if you’re just trying to fuck. That’s going to lead her on. Different girls like different approaches. Some girls you can ask about sexual experiences, some girls hate that. You could share a fantasy or ask the craziest place she’s had sex. Usually my approach is to just have fun with her. Get her laughing and feeling open and all of that. Get her to feel comfortable around you. Ask her if she’s wants to have a couple drinks. I think more importantly though is to be a bit up front about your intentions. Let her know you don’t want a girlfriend right now but you are interested in having fun.

outplay-nation · 2025-01-11T21:27:46+00:00

once you start making out and you are in private environemment it should be pretty easy to escalate

ingenjor · 2025-01-11T22:29:14+00:00

Some girls hide their responses really well. The other night I tried the ol' arm on the couch behind her, sitting close, trying to get closer physically. But zero feedback. But since she had invited me to her apartment for the first time before even meeting outside I knew what was up. So after initially talking for an hour or so I just asked her "Can I kiss you?" and she said yes, and then it was off to the races.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-01-11T21:26:09+00:00

Let's be mature about this. You're 25 now. Act like it. Don't be hiding your intentions.

First you need to set her expectations that you don't want a relationship. Say you just like to keep dating casually, so she knows what's up and what to expect.

Then she will make a choice. Either she will stop seeing you because she only wants something serious. Or she will be like "oh, this is just casual, okay I'm down with that because he's hot as fuck and i like him that much I can't pass that up even if he doesn't want something serious right now".

The reason things ain't happening is most likely because it's not clear what is actually happening between you - because you haven't been clear. It's probably not an issue with "turning her on". It's likely an issue with setting expectations.

As for turning her on, asking her what kind of sex she likes is a good place to start. Again, take the mature path.

KoleSekor · 2025-01-12T13:52:00+00:00

As far as saying things, I found sexual innuendos were effective.

But what really makes a girl horny is how well you make out with her... Great kissing is what leads to sex more than any words ever would.

Mayer_Priapus · 2025-01-12T00:28:19+00:00

I can't imagine a more mediocre vagina dryer than talking about sex, it's pure poverty. You move forward slowly without talking about the subject. It's impossible not to feel sorry for someone giving indirect messages about sex.

It's like a hungry guy saying, "It would be so nice if I could have lunch here."

Talking about sex is like stamping the title of miserable on your own forehead.

There's no need to talk about it, just make the advance in a subtle and respectful way.

tonywinterfell · 2025-01-11T21:33:47+00:00

Look at what Craig Ferguson does, now. He is incredible at making them feel comfortable and safe being sexual, and he does it by being funny, confident, and he opens the door for them to be playfully sexual as well by introducing the topic in a joking way, but never about sex between him and his guest, just more generalities. It shows you’re comfortable with the topic and don’t have many hangups about it. It shows confidence while also not being needy since you don’t frame it as something that might happened between the two of you. And for the love of god don’t hold hands and really, really don’t do what your uncle said. The playfulness part is good, all the specific examples are bad.

offabenz · 2025-01-12T02:10:23+00:00

Yo tell yo unc to up his game, we in 2025 now

wervil · 2025-01-11T23:05:52+00:00

You need to stop pursuing this girl. Obviously your intentions and hers are on two different pages. Stop being a sex pest fuccboi. The girl wants a relationship so let her go so she can be with a real man.

Mister_Gamble · 2025-01-12T13:35:55+00:00

You ever watch that video that's constantly breaking your expectation of what's about to be said based on assumptions and rhymes? Well it's kind of like that. You don't need to be talking directly about sex at first, but if you spin your words just right, you'll have her mind running wild without ever actually making any sexual remarks directly. Use misdirection to let her make her dirty little conclusions before you play it off safely. It's a fun way of teasing, and if she mentions anything of it, you can neg her about her horribly dirty mind. As the night progresses you can get naughtier and naughtier with it. You may even transition into talking about sex just with innuendos instead of saying anything directly.

A personal favorite I've used a few times now, when you've had the EOIs, and your conversation has started down that innuendo path, is to compliment her lips. "You have really amazing lips.." then lift your hand or hands up infront of your mouth, basically insinuating oral sex, and continue with "I bet you're great at.. singing." If done right it'll almost always get a laugh. Watch closely and you'll even see the little rollercoaster of emotions going on inside their head as they think "Is this guy really about to say I've got good BJ lips!?"

Found the video if you weren't sure of the one I was referencing:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TywmpMQYojs

amazing_spyman · 2025-01-12T13:39:40+00:00

I have nothing OP but that horny line is a no no

Mighty_Meatball · 2025-01-11T22:23:30+00:00

You need to make it clear to her that you're not looking for a relationship and just trying to have fun.

And if she leaves, then that's simply bc you both weren't looking for the same thing. You'll just have to respect that and move on to the next girl.

Lenovo_Driver · 2025-01-11T21:36:09+00:00

The meeting in private is already the mutual understanding..

mastamixa · 2025-01-11T21:33:03+00:00

You just have to make a move and gauge her responses. Maybe she thinks if she lets you smash you’ll be less interested in pursuing a relationship. Like for some girls they feel it’s one of the strongest cards they have to play, and if they play it too quick they lose a guy they actually like. But you can’t expect her to escalate things sexually, you have to do that.

So you have to create the scenario where hooking up would be natural, like you said a movie. Then just do the arm thing. If she moves closer to you, just look at her, and when she looks at you just try to kiss her and go from there. You don’t really need to say anything. And if you just try to escalate from there to boning you’ll find out pretty quick where her head’s at. And if she turns you down, you can stop wasting your time and move on

MilkMaidHil · 2025-01-12T14:26:35+00:00

Uhm. Based on your post & the comments, I don’t think she’s really trying to fuck you.. 💋If she had those as her only intentions—- she wouldn’t bring up meeting your family; she wouldn’t care about meeting your family if you’re just a dick appointment.

That being said. Don’t waste her time. If you made it seem like you’re open to a relationship later on. She might think there’s a long game to play. Be respectful of her feelings. She’s human.

Flat out ask her what she’s looking forward with you. If she says she’s just trying to hook up then start being more sexual in your responses, tease her, bring some effort.

If she says anything along the lines of getting to know you, hanging out, relationship.. then yall are not really compatible are you. Let her go.

AGoodHunterEhehe · 2025-01-12T15:32:03+00:00

Step 1. You dont.

Amy_James_27 · 2025-01-12T16:13:59+00:00

if she was intersting in fucking you, you would know.

Scared_Tap2977 · 2025-01-12T00:14:27+00:00

You’re in the friend zone sir. Abort mission and move on

hug634 · 2025-01-12T01:06:01+00:00

You must be like water. Her walls are up because she sees you only want to fuck. You actually fucked it up on the first date. The fact that yall haven't done the deed and she wants to meet your family is a little weird tho. Follow your gut. My only advice is tone back on the horny be flirty and subtle.

copywhisperer · 2025-01-12T02:05:31+00:00

In the middle of a conversation, just randomly pause for a few seconds and then say, “sorry I was just doing my kegals.”

gold-exp · 2025-01-12T03:59:58+00:00

If you know your goals aren’t aligned and she wants something meaningful drop it. wtf is wrong with you, trying to take advantage of someone like that?

epimpstyle · 2025-01-11T21:57:27+00:00

You are in the SEDUCTION phase of the Mystery's book "How to get beautiful women into bed". Read this chapter and learn how to escalate, I can't copy & paste because it's not nice.

Cronos27 · 2025-01-11T21:03:40+00:00

Well, players, I'm here sitting in the first row waiting for class. Where's the masterclass?

Good_Republic_1239 · 2025-01-11T21:15:39+00:00

so you've tried the arm around her before and it failed??

bankingstud · 2025-01-11T23:09:07+00:00

Say she looks tense and then offer a massage

Smart_Inspector3705 · 2025-01-11T23:16:21+00:00

How did it go man?

confidentguy101 · 2025-01-11T23:59:46+00:00

Man I need update of how it ends up! Good luck bro. Maybe a hint is just get on with it. It’s been a couple of days and just go for it. If it works, it works. And if by now it doesn’t then just leave it. You gotta cut the cord someday, better be sooner than later

Da_Druuskee · 2025-01-12T02:56:42+00:00

Your uncles advise is suicidal. Don’t say that. But one thing I like to say when it feels like there’s no opening for physical touch or escalation is say very tongue in cheek like, “I wonder if your a good kisser”. Say this confidently, put a smile on and smoothly transition the conversation away from that. It should stay on her mind and could give the opening you’re looking for if she’s into you. My 2¢.

ExtensionSmile629 · 2025-01-12T03:27:10+00:00

How’d it go man?

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-01-12T09:16:33+00:00

Your uncle is partially right. Play future hypothetical scenarios but go progressively.

First roleplay the perfect date , have her give you details of what she wants .
Then roleplay the perfect love making session. Have her describe where , when and how. Usually an hypothetical honey moon is a good set up to start with .

After you're done roleplaying she will be turned on. Pull the trigger by kissing her.

Dorkuzan · 2025-01-12T10:26:42+00:00

Damn Unc doesnt fuck around. Why not straight up : Hey. Wanna fuck ? … or We’ll bang ok ?

pm_me_w_nudes · 2025-01-12T11:12:17+00:00

Just say thing like Henry Cavil would say

Dizzy-Bother-2209 · 2025-01-12T12:17:14+00:00

If she’s been over to your place things can’t be that hard bro. 1. Start with a couple drinks. 2. Play some board games and talk about interesting things that you guys like 3. Once you guys are all into it ask her to go watch a movie 4. Remember to take it slow, cuddle with her and slowly make your move. Don’t rush into it you have to turn her on.

I will say though if this chick wants a relationship and you just want sex be honest with her. Leading her on isn’t cool just to get one off especially if she hasn’t given it up in the first few dates.

deeznutzmatters · 2025-01-12T13:00:01+00:00

do the oldie but goodie……cut a hole in ur popcorn box…….insert………enjoy

Prestigious_Ad_9013 · 2025-01-12T14:52:06+00:00

I don't get the people being spiteful hoes in seduction forum replies. Yes know when to move on. Don't be pressing n inappropriate. This discussion is about the chase not shaming it

Make her work and yearn for your attention. Be playful, make silly observations about her and world around you. Let your sexuality express & radiate in a way that isn't Explicit or dependent on her. Try thinking speaking in 3rd person. Challenge her to step in the way of your vibe

daddyAuGratin · 2025-01-12T15:18:05+00:00

"What do you do to chill?" is the root node question. Preps the situation well for a Depth First Search iykwim

nikibas · 2025-01-12T17:31:41+00:00

You may be interested in ross jefries books techniques.

But other than that, I would just ask her, do u want to kiss me? She could say yes, then kiss No: say, I didnt say you could kiss me, but u were looking at me in a weird way. She says maybe: the say let's find out and kiss her.

After that just foreplay a bit and one thing will lead to another. She may be a bit hesitant to go all the way, if that's the case stop everything and just lead her to the door. 2 things may happen there, 1. She gives you the look and just go back to the room 2. She leaves. Don't call, don't do anything. She'll either call or She is not worth it.

Read ross jeffries for more.

kozman06 · 2025-01-12T20:15:41+00:00

This girl is looking for a relationship... Women can read you and most men like a cheap novel. Especially when your only reason for seeing her is you want to bang her and then probably dump her after two or three go rounds... Again, remember this girl wants a relationship. She's looking for someone that's gonna stick around. You ready for that...??? And as for your uncle he is a Neanderthal and would have difficulty getting laid in a womens prison with a fist full of pardons... In first meeting instances, bars, parties etc. words and attitude can do the job. But when it is someone you actually know and she wants to build a relationship, bedding her could just end up in pregnancy in which she will keep the baby... It's not all strippers and tacos out there son...

Josue1777 · 2025-01-12T22:13:00+00:00

Ive used this a couple times. I'll have a girl come over with the plan of cooking dinner together for a date. (Obviously plan a nice dinner, take her grocery shopping make it fun) Once you get home start cooking, not trying to kiss etc let it build but Do break the touch barrier asap. I'll usually grab their arm and wrap it around mine walking into the store. Idk maybe make a pasta, set the water to boil this is where you change your approach. Set some music, after you throw the pasta into the water grab her arm and pull her into you. Pull her into you slowly avert the kiss and whisper into her ear how good she looks and say something specific too. When I do this I like to put a hand behind their head so I can slowly and smoothly brush it down her back after I let go. Then go back to cooking, this hot and cold approach has worked for me. Eventually yes you'll pull her in for a kiss but read it correctly and be flirty the entire time. This should help you seal the deal. The last time I did this as soon as the pasta was done I ended up picking her up we made out and I just carried her into my room, there was no hesitation and I told her, "today dessert comes first" as she was taking off her shirt.

Another approach I did was with a girl who was playing hard to get, I had her at my house she didn't really want to kiss so I just told her alright I'm tired I'm taking you home and immediately her mood changed, she came onto me and I sealed the deal. I didn't force or try to be pushy, once she saw I lost interest a flip switched in her.

Good luck

DrMeatpie · 2025-01-11T22:46:16+00:00

Idk BUT DO NOT LISTEN TO YOUR UNCLE. you gotta feel her out. Different women have different needs. Start by having a good time with light keno. Recognize that it might not be possible if she isn't a thot.

redd_kokaine · 2025-01-11T21:16:27+00:00

Don't

KingLegend1234 · 2025-01-12T02:36:21+00:00

I like to say “This looks like the Jamba Juice I had sex in before” like it’s nothing. Be able to talk like that

Nikonglass · 2025-01-11T21:02:54+00:00

Ask her if you can hold her hand. Then progress from there.

Mazldik · 2025-01-12T05:49:37+00:00

Op update us when you finally got that p*** and hope it’s worth it

michaelmontana · 2025-01-11T21:32:09+00:00

im 32. i’ve certainly gotten off "so what do you do when ur horny?" the responses were mixed so i think it depends on the type of personality. yours and hers and the whole dynamic. forget what ur uncle said i think the key is to escalate physically. also tell her you think she looks good

Title	How to talk about sex in a way turns a woman on?
Author	Zero_Gravvity
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Date	January 11, 2025 8:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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