Nightclub. Girl flips the bird for absolutely no reason.

jackzander · 2025-08-28T03:27:16+00:00

she is like no but not a hard no at all (I know the fucking difference)

Cognitive dissonance, friend. You're only confused because you're resisting the available lesson.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-08-28T04:09:50+00:00

I went to night clubs several times a week for about ten years and I have never, ever been treated like that by literally anyone. The fact that it constantly happens to you makes me think the problem might be you.

Velvettouch89 · 2025-08-28T05:02:58+00:00

You're weird dude, and your whole post is weird. You do not learn lessons very well

agentbloob · 2025-08-28T03:42:16+00:00

"I approached gently, super confident" - thats not called confidence, thats call pestering some whos already given you a "like no but not a hard no at all" No means no, whether its a hard no or not.
You call yourself " totally respectful, cultured, fun, positive approach", and jump on reddit ranting, saying "what the fuck" shows an immatue attitude.

Respectul means accepting rejection, polite or rude, moving on without throwing a tantrum. You saying that you did not think of it more then letting it get to you later shows that you are just putting on a show, its not real.

How she dresses, whether drunk or not, has nothing to do with how polite she has to be to reject you, this idea is just not it. How a woman dresses and whether drunk or sober has zero bearing on how nice she has to be when telling you to fk off. A women in sweatpants can tell you to fuck off, a drunk girl in a mini dress can reject you politely.

DRenaissanceMan · 2025-08-28T03:39:38+00:00

"she is like no but not a hard no at all (I know the fucking difference)"

You say you know the difference but your actions as seen in this post don't back up this claim.
I'd start with this - no means no.

"My question is, what the fuck is wrong with these girls?"

If it is happening with multiple people, then logically speaking, the one common denominator is ... you.

And also, if she's so pissed off like yelling in your face, then "I love you" joking or otherwise is an extremely poorly calibrated response.

TMGP19 · 2025-08-28T04:36:11+00:00

You need to learn to embrace rejection, lurking around and trying again after an hour after a soft no will get you responses from women like that. The unfortunate truth is that their emotions are volatile in that kind of environment especially with alcohol present and an unknown history with men... your best shot at approaching women is as soon as you make eye contact or as soon as you spot them since waiting only builds bad anticipation and overthinking.

Accomplished-Tip7086 · 2025-08-28T03:38:21+00:00

bro she rejected you. if they say no take them for their word.

trust me,

as someone who 'won' the girl after they kissed someone else instead, it is not worth it, at all.

if they say 'no'. the best move is to approach someone else in front of them and if they see other girls feeling you then they may warm up to you and realise what they missed.

ImpossibleBritches · 2025-08-28T05:12:41+00:00

Self defense mechanism.

This is 101 material.

The average woman has had awful dudes approach her awfully.

She has a bank of reference experiences that she pattern-matches you against

Nothing really wrong with her. There's something wrong with the zillion guys who approached her before you.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-08-28T04:09:01+00:00

People in clubs act pretty trashy on average, both men and women. I quit going to them around age 25 and it was for the best. You'll encounter these types of people if you go with any regularity. And while she may not have been drunk, many others likely were. It's not the kind of atmosphere I'd care to be.

tajbinjohn · 2025-08-28T04:01:57+00:00

I don't think you did anything wrong from how you describe it, but in nightclubs and in nightlife, women get BOMBARDED with shit behavior from dudes. If she was chill at 11pm and then pissed an hour later she could have simply reached her limit or maybe had a bit much to drink.

When it comes to the later parts of the night, a lot of people are more prone to being tired and aggravated, I wouldn't look too into it

kreddit007 · 2025-08-28T05:37:53+00:00

You probably annoyed her mate.

You were probably the 20th guy to approach her that week.

She was probably having a bad night.

Who knows? Let it go.

Plenty of fish...

Matter_Still · 2025-08-28T07:00:25+00:00

"I know the fucking difference."

Since this wasn't the first time this has happened to you, apparently, you don't know the difference.

epimpstyle · 2025-08-28T12:09:33+00:00

a totally respectful, cultured, fun, positive approach and just throw shit at a guy like this

You don't know what happened to her a few minutes ago, so don't judge her. When something like what you described happens, just walk away without saying anything, because if you do, it might only make things worse.

You know the ratio of that to this middle finger situation?

If they're tipsy, it happens quite often, otherwise, it's very rare. In my case, it hasn't happened once in the past 6 years since I started doing this.

Grapefruit-Smooth · 2025-08-28T18:23:39+00:00

move on & avoid re approaching forget the concept of a soft no when you approach.

she felt threatened the 2nd time you approached because you thought you knew difference between a no and a soft no and clearly you didn’t because you wouldn’t have gotten that reaction if you did.

no more soft no’s in 2025, no means no, approach the next girl & move on

Zackamite496 · 2025-08-28T03:52:23+00:00

Some girls are going to do that even if it’s a respectful approach, that’s just the name of the game. Some girls might have had multiple creeps approach them by the time you’re approaching them, some are going to have a nasty attitude at that point no matter what. Just don’t waste your time thinking about it and go on to the next one, it sucks but you just have to push past it. Women are way more likely to be rude in clubs, one of the reasons why I don’t like them too much

extreme_fluffiness · 2025-08-28T05:38:01+00:00

Total creep

Alienkid · 2025-08-28T05:45:18+00:00

What was wrong with her? Nothing. What you did wrong was think that "no" is a spectrum and you took that as try again later. What were you expecting to happen when she told you she wasn't interested the first time?

Think about it from her perspective. How many times did she need to tell you no politely before you got the hint?

nympheos · 2025-08-28T05:52:42+00:00

Yes sure, “ for no reason”

Title	Nightclub. Girl flips the bird for absolutely no reason.
Author	Complete-Ad6039
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Date	August 28, 2025 3:22 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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