So, you messaged a girl after (you thought) a great first date and no reply. What now? Just give up?

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IkkoMikki · 2025-10-10T18:00:33+00:00

Yep

If she ghosts, go next. Pretty straightforward. Chasing someone who is being silence just makes you look less attractive. If she was interested she'd show it.

Pocchari_Kevin · 2025-10-10T18:01:33+00:00

I just move on. In today’s dating game everyone is seeing multiple people, trading up, etc. I’m sure there are exceptions but it’s a mileage/numbers game, even if you’re looking for a LTR

ryux999 · 2025-10-10T18:08:05+00:00

Move on buddy loo

Tribestar95 · 2025-10-10T18:30:49+00:00

Brother, I’ve had girls who were as interested as you could imagine during a first date. Initiating, asking a bunch of questions, leaning in, initiating touch, mentioning seeing each other again etc and everything seemingly flows great and even kiss or sex at the end too sometimes. Some of these girls have ghosted me too after dates. Has blown my mind like I’m some kind of alien.

Lesson I’ve learned is just be outcome independent, have fun and be carefree and never emotionally invest. Modern day dating for men is brutal and decent looking girls have 2 million options if they want on dating apps.

andreberaldinoab · 2025-10-10T18:26:44+00:00

...Next!

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2025-10-10T18:48:57+00:00

In my case, I went through the same thing. I didn’t text her right away — I waited a few days or even a week. To my surprise, they actually replied pretty well. I even ended up going out with women who had seemed “cold” after the first date — and sometimes those dates even led to intimacy.

But here’s something important I realized: it’s completely unnecessary to “force” another meetup. If someone really wants to see you, they’ll make it clear. In my case, I wasn’t trying to force anything — it was just casual texting — but after the date, it often felt pointless to have reached out again.

Many times, we get so fixated on someone that we don’t realize what we’re actually seeking is their approval.

No-Manner611 · 2025-10-10T18:08:58+00:00

She's still smashing her ex ....That would be my bet 😂

Physics-Affectionate · 2025-10-10T18:48:44+00:00

It's a blessing rather than feeding you crumbs and trying to make you a simp., just don't go all needy if she wants your attention again

Dangerous_Item_6879 · 2025-10-10T19:59:22+00:00

I send them another text a few days later. Sometimes people forget to respond or some other silly thing. After that I give up.

Creative_Wallaby_439 · 2025-10-10T22:56:25+00:00

Women make it easy for men they like.

She wouldn't do this to her celebrity/athlete crush, move on.

Its not weak to give up on a woman, they have to earn your time & affection

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2025-10-10T18:14:48+00:00

Depends how long since the date, but I wouldn't message again. Just assume they moved on.

DinkyDash · 2025-10-10T20:51:14+00:00

Make her fucking wait.

It's not being a sick. It's not misogynistic.

It's charming, attractive, and sexy. It's the human mating dance. It's game.

Go work on a project for a week and force yourself to be busier to make yourself more attractive AND to do her a major favor by increasing the romantic chase.

Discopotatoz · 2025-10-11T01:17:10+00:00

Zero contact. If it's a test, you pass. If she's deciding between you and some other dudes, you're now the mysterious one who didn't chase, you pass. If she got the ick about something you did that probably wasn't even that bad, you walk away with dignity which may actually intrigue her, you pass. 40% chance she randomly reaches back out within 2-3 months with a "Heyyy". In the meantime, you're gaming other girls and you pass.

just-jake · 2025-10-10T19:30:21+00:00

well hunt her down first and then give her an uppercut. and then take the money from her wallet that corresponds to the price of the meal

this is a joke but if enough people did this there won’t be anymore ghosting

AndrewPodcastHost · 2025-10-10T18:21:08+00:00

you dont give us a time frame when was the date? have you texted her? on the first date did you talk about going on a second? need info man!

Kgb725 · 2025-10-10T18:41:24+00:00

Just message her at least way a day or two because sometimes people really arr busy

AmoebaStill1 · 2025-10-10T18:46:48+00:00

Dead.

You are down bad bro. Focus on you.

just-jake · 2025-10-10T19:30:56+00:00

did you message her after the date or no

elijahtryhard · 2025-10-10T21:06:02+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/share/BAKU8FKFmj watch this basically sums up everything recently

Otherwise_Scar_4831 · 2025-10-10T21:31:49+00:00

If you just texted her then give it 24 hours. If still no reply send her a meme or gif catered to her. If she responds take it from there.

RedFox457 · 2025-10-11T00:30:49+00:00

What did you send her?

Don’t double text, just wait 2-3 weeks as if she’s busy in life.

DopeAFjknotreally · 2025-10-11T00:33:21+00:00

It’s wrong of her to ghost, but I do want to say - many men think a date goes well, but from the woman’s perspective, he only talked about himself and never asked her questions about her.

toastychief93 · 2025-10-11T01:52:12+00:00

"if you think I have enough self respect not to message you a second time, well you're wrong. Please ruin my life"

Works every time

cwick225 · 2025-10-11T01:53:26+00:00

She used you for that free meal & free diactraction

mmphoto82 · 2025-10-11T04:49:03+00:00

On to the next one

Kylearean · 2025-10-10T18:39:27+00:00

Don't chase.

Here's a text that worked for me: "I'll take it from your silence that you're no longer interested in hanging out."

It leaves the onus on them. This is a common sales tactic as well for eliciting a response.

Kronuk · 2025-10-10T23:46:52+00:00

If she’s not replying it’s cause she’s talking to another man that she likes better. If you are putting all this effort into someone else’s girl you’re just wasting your time when you should be spending your time with a girl who makes you her first priority

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