Not giving a fuck, is the biggest form of seduction. 90% falls for it.

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Miss_Galoldriel · 2026-05-06T05:59:25+00:00

As I see it, it depends entirely on why you're not giving a fuck. If it's because you are content, comfortable in your own company, confident and you don't need external validation to feel good about yourself, then yes, in my experience this draws people in. It's like they think I have a secret, and want to know what it is.

But if it comes from a place of bitterness, it has the exact opposite effect. It's a matter of having the right mindset.

Quiet_Rock_5696 · 2026-05-06T07:48:44+00:00

Not giving a fuck about the outcome. But also showing a lot of interest and giving a lot of your time to her

MyUsername0_0 · 2026-05-06T06:18:11+00:00

Not giving a fuck if a woman rejects you or not is part of it but it doesn’t necessarily make women want you

Illustrious-Tooth702 · 2026-05-06T09:07:41+00:00

I kind of agree with this statement but I'd phrase it differenty.

Women like men who are confindent and confident men have choices so they don't feel like thy have to perform at the date because if this date doesn't go anywhere then thy just move on ot the next one.

Ant that's the solution a lot of inexperienced men don't realize.

Just be cool and chill and don't treat the first date as an interview. Have fun, get to know your date's interests and hobbies and future plans and if the vibe around them is good then you could have a second date but if it's not then that's also fine.

Tell your goodbyes and move onto the next date.

Scrace89 · 2026-05-06T10:05:31+00:00

Indifference to outcome is a better way to understand it.

Metrack · 2026-05-06T09:29:02+00:00

Not giving a fuck works only if you have women attention. Or when you already presented value like money, good sex, good companionship.

When you don't give a f while she don't want you you just take care of your own wellbeing cuz majority of guys are invisible to women anyway.

HomelessMilkman · 2026-05-06T09:50:52+00:00

Confidence; not having 'downsides'; not having them interact with someone who is tense, uncomfortable, hypervigilant, self-concerned, low self-esteem. Great.

Though "not giving a fuck" can also be interpreted as belligerence which distinctly isn't 'confidence' and will get you a slap in the face.

Accomplished_Egg_928 · 2026-05-06T10:33:58+00:00

Not being outcome dependant is more accurate. For guys who already have lots of options then this comes naturally, however for a lot of guys, the trick is to accept you maybe forever alone and that's ok. Accept that then do everything else in life to make yourself happy and the best you can be (career, gym, social status etc) and stick to your morals.

A girlfriend or a hook up is a bonus but not required to live a fulfilled life. It's too easy for guys with few options to settle for women who will boss them about as they know those guys will do anything to prevent being alone, even to the point looking after Chardonnays children with four baby daddies, while she escapes for a night with Tyrone every weekend while you are lucky to get a quickie once every 6 months after begging her for it while she empties your bank account. (These types of women do exist)

However, while being satisfied being single forever, get yourself out there, be social and have fun with the intention of going home alone.

Eventually you will get female attention but you won't put up with bad behavior.

OrlandoLasso · 2026-05-06T15:33:44+00:00

Didn't work for me today. Met a woman on a Facebook dating group for child free singles. She asked what I was looking for and I said dating mostly but I'm open to friendship if we're not compatible that way, and she hard rejected me because I wasn't dating intentionally enough.

vertascend · 2026-05-06T08:34:06+00:00

If we’re talking about seduction then you’re wrong… seduction is the ability to get a girl to like you based on influence; not giving a fuck gets you laid but technically it’s not seduction; and yes not giving a fuck gets you laid more than seduction does, because you shoot more shots irrespective of the result because you don’t care, hence you get more action as a result of the numbers game; seduction however is and aiming to get with someone with the full intention of swaying her into falling into bed with you

Chemical-Low209 · 2026-05-06T11:30:12+00:00

I don't agree. Not giving a fuck does not usually alone get you women

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-05-06T11:38:35+00:00

Over simplification of what’s happening but yes I agree

notanewbiedude · 2026-05-06T12:27:57+00:00

It's a little more nuanced than that. I think that women find it attractive when you don't interact with them in a way that suggests that you need something from them.

cheddstheman · 2026-05-06T13:22:03+00:00

Yup the second you put on the line you have something to lose it's like women instantly sense it and it turns them off.

lameboigenie · 2026-05-06T08:51:12+00:00

"I do not give a fuck! Do you agree?" What an unbelievable question

WebNew9978 · 2026-05-06T05:50:13+00:00

Disagree

Brandnewlions · 2026-05-06T09:05:46+00:00

It’s a fine line. Go too far with it and it’ll push them away big time. A little bit of that attitude can work well though

drkslr · 2026-05-06T11:31:18+00:00

its called confidence

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-06T21:06:17+00:00

You can try that but...... Eventually you will catch feelings .

Maximazed · 2026-05-06T22:10:23+00:00

Agree, one of the best ways to test the theory is by trying it for yourself. I gave one of my plates some hard boundaries and she disrespected them. Now she blows up my phone every day. The other component of this is having enough self-respect to maintain that frame.

Euphoric_External298 · 2026-05-07T02:08:45+00:00

Honestly.. being handsome. Either you have it or you don’t. Being handsome and not saying anything to stupid. Handsome and tall and not saying a thing to stupid? Well there’s literally a guy who should’ve been homeless but never spent a night outside because just pulled a different woman ever night he wasn’t already with one for like 2 YEARS…. because tall + handsome + not saying anything to stupid. The longest he lived with one while she paid for everything (everything, including buying him clothes and a gym membership and pocket money to look for a job.. abd gifts) was like 2 months.

Title	Not giving a fuck, is the biggest form of seduction. 90% falls for it.
Author	notsafenow
Upvotes	267
Comments	51
Date	May 6, 2026 5:29 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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