Man writes an uplifting article about showing his penis to his son while encouraging him to masturbate. Ha! Just kidding! It was a woman and her daughter, so it's just fine!

Pecanpig · 2013-04-16T14:39:33+00:00

This ladies and gentlemen is an example of how and when to do a gender swap.

literallyschmiteraly · 2013-04-16T14:36:10+00:00

I think there could have been some middle ground between telling the daughter it's dirty and showing the daughter her own vagina. (If they didn't live in America the daughter would have seen it by now anyway.) But the general idea of wanting our daughters to avoid all the guilt, shame and secrecy we experienced doesn't strike me as bad or creepy. And where in the article does she "encourage" the child to masturbate? I didn't see that.

sillymod · 2013-04-16T17:11:36+00:00

I warned you before that editorializing titles was unacceptable.

You can take a few weeks break from MR.

PowerWisdomCourage · 2013-04-16T14:15:22+00:00

Creepiest. article. ever.

JonLR · 2013-04-16T14:39:09+00:00

Not sure what's worse, OP's article or this one - Baby Love - Nerve.com where a woman talks about masturbating while breastfeeding her child.

GCanuck · 2013-04-16T16:57:09+00:00

Holy shit.... For a movement that totes itself as progressive, sure are an awful lot of sexually repressed individuals in here.

There is nothing "creepy" about this, and if you truly find it so, I urge you to examine your feelings and ask yourself 'how' and 'why' this is so creepy to you.

This is a mother teaching her child about her body. Yes, a gender swap would likely raise the same comments from others, that doesn't mean it's right to do so now.

poisonelf · 2013-04-16T16:42:12+00:00

Damn social wiring is powerful. I was creeped out as I was reading the title, and as soon as the gender swap reveal happened, I still found it strange and over the top, but much less creepy. Now I feel guilty for my reaction, but it was automatic, didn't even have time to think.

rebelcanuck · 2013-04-16T17:27:11+00:00

Nothing wrong with doing what this mother did. The kid was curious about her body, so the mom showed her what her's looked like. Like she said, you teach your kid about everything else. Showing your kid your body one time out of curiosity is fine. What I do find annoying about this article is how she contextualizes the issue with "a culture that often tries to deny women control." As if all fathers are totally fine with talking about their son's penis. Like someone else on this thread said, boys are told myths about hairy palms, going blind, etc. Feminism isn't an evil ideology out to attack men or anything but it's over-contextualization and one-sidedness like this that is unnecessary.

OThomson · 2013-04-16T17:12:54+00:00

Wait people grew up not seeing their parents genitals?

Redditishorrible · 2013-04-16T16:50:56+00:00

‘Can I see your vagina, please mummy?’

At that moment, as all my rational thoughts deserted me and my sexual anxieties rose to the surface, I understood why my mother never showed me her vagina. Sexual embarrassment and discomfort is handed down through the generations in my family.

This woman is disturbed.

Someone needs to take her child away before she "good rapes" her.

She’ll probably look back on this day in ten years time and cringe at my forthrightness.

If by

cringe at my forthrightness.

she means she'll likely need therapy, then yes.

DukeMaximum · 2013-04-16T14:33:40+00:00

What in the fuck?

Bonnie_1989 · 2013-04-16T16:52:26+00:00

That is out of context. The woman has actually not said how she handles the topic of masturbation with her daughter. So yes, she did let her daughter see her naked, because she was curious. How many penises do you see in a life time and compare yours to, without it being awkward?

tyciol · 2013-04-18T04:39:10+00:00

I think it's a problem that we should be creeped out by either instance here.

Let's keep in mind that her daughter DID ask to see it.

This situation should be an acceptable teaching moment for members of either gender.

The injustice is not that this mother is 'let off' for something we're assuming evil motives for, but rather that a man would be unjustly villified as some kinda child molester by default.

Such a load of biased feminist garbage from 30 year old Kasey Edward regarding the impact on her 3 year old violet:

It reinforces the pervasive notion that girls are not entitled to pleasure for pleasure’s sake.

Right, because it's not as if the exact thing occurs to males when they are condemned for touching themselves.

And it perpetuates the gender stereotype of women being passive — that they are not in charge of meeting their own needs and must therefore rely on somebody else — a man — to take care of them.

Right, and it's not as if male independence is discouraged when we're told not to do it and that it should only happen if a woman deigns to give us pleasure.

CertusAT · 2013-04-16T16:17:24+00:00

What the fuck!

tyciol · 2013-04-16T14:22:50+00:00

I've read about it being Arabic tradition once somewhere for a father to teach his son how to jelq.

scottishonion · 2013-04-16T17:10:00+00:00

I stopped at "Mommy, can you show me your vagina" as my ovaries and cooze ran away in fear. If I had heard of a grown woman doing this to a child, I am sorry, CPS needs to be called about sexual abuse.

CrossHook · 2013-04-16T17:07:41+00:00

This is what the future of feminism looks like.

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