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[–]AbundantOverflowFDS Apprentice99 points100 points101 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This! I have never made concessions or exceptions for a man and later thought, “I’m so glad I gave him a chance. That worked out great.” I have literally always regretted giving them the benefit of the doubt and being “understanding” of their shortcomings and re d flags. No more. The standards are sky high and they’re staying that way.
[–]herp_derp_hagFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oof. I'm in this picture and I don't like it ha ha
[–]HmtnswFDS Newbie27 points28 points29 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not wanting children really helps overcome the "I have to settle because my biological clock is ticking and I WANT kids." issue. Lol
My parents aren't going to like it because they are always taking about me finding a man tk have kids and finally "be normal." But I have other plans.
[–]manateecolteeFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's hard to believe how many of us are on the same boat
[–]pascalinesFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is exactly how I feel. I’m blissfully happy in my own apartment, with peace and quiet, no LVM ruining my mood, being childfree with my dog and my other childfree best friends, saving money and traveling. The only reason I would give any of that up is for a truly spectacular HVM.
[–]LaBaronessaFDS Newbie98 points99 points100 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
uncomfortable laughter
[–]super_thinker_FDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂
[–]PahapanFDS Disciple43 points44 points45 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I was okay with both! Brenda the Builder over here. 🤡
[–]VioletRomanticFDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Me too. Multiple times. Ive wasted an entire decade of my life on men who were worth less than dog shit. Its fucking embarrassing. My roommate and I are moving out of state and I am so excited to leave behind almost every single person who has ever met one of my exes so that I can stop having them rubbed in my face constantly.
[–]_AmarantosFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
u/bananamilk58, we gotta do this.
(she my irl bestie)
[–]VioletRomanticFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
We are literally so excited. Were hoping to move halfway across the country just the two of us and our pets to a state where we know exactly no one by this time next year. No abusive families to hold us down, no LV friends taking advantage of us, a totally clean state to be who we truly want to be. We're not scared because we have each other for support. She will have enough money for a solid down payment on a house for us in the city we're moving to, which means we will have our own space from day 1. There is nothing for us in our current state, and we both feel really limited by our current surroundings for a variety of reasons. This clean slate in a new home full of nothing but support, love, and trust is exactly what we both need.
[–]madonna_whorecomplexFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This reminds me of those 3 ladies who are bffs, paid for houses that are beside each other and has a single fence around them to have a large garden and stay close together. It's a dream to live with your besties!
[–]bananamilk58FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's amazing!! Good luck!!!!!!!!!
[–]VioletRomanticFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you!!
[–][deleted] 32 points33 points34 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Much agreed.
I'm a first generation Latina and finding a guy who is decent and who is gearing towards improving himself (a promotion, going to school, perfecting a skill) is hard where I live.
At the end of the day, I dont mind earning more than a man, but it's that "stuck" mentality that I dont like: this mentality of not striving for more. The reason why I dont like it is because these people tend to question or belittle you when you are striving to do better financially/education instead of supporting you. Or in other cases, they are insecure of your personal successes.
[–]jeanneeebeanneeeFDS Apprentice44 points45 points46 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You don't have to be OK with either. I know, strange but true. You have nothing lose by having high standards, except the chance to have your time wasted by a low value man.
[–]herbstzeitFDS Newbie35 points36 points37 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'd be more okay with a poor guy, if he was actually responsible with what funds he did have. I don't make a lot of money, so I get it. But you save your money, live within your means best you can. The job market where I live sucks, nothing pays well, even before COVID. But so many poor LVM here spend any extra money they have on weed or video games, while complaining about having no money. It is not attractive at all. A self-sufficient lower-income guy is another story.
[–]vmuzondiFDS Apprentice[S] 18 points19 points20 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep it’s not necessarily that a rich man is an HVM, but that responsible adults will spend money according to their means and be able to afford romance. I personally wouldn’t date someone who doesn’t have the funds to spoil me, but if they are able to it’s fine as long as we are on the same playing field. If a man can’t do that, he should be working to get a promotion, and find a better career path before dating.
[–]mostdefinitelyntursFDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If it's not up to my standard, I'm not doing it!
[–]Lavender_flowFDS Disciple6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Dating as a straight woman is like "are you ok with dating a porn addict or not"
[–]vmuzondiFDS Apprentice[S] 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And “are you okay with society gaslighting you and telling you you’re insecure if you’re not”
[–]smart-tart23FDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This! Was recently in an Uber and the convo steered toward me saying I have a real hard time respecting men. First words out of his (the Uber driver) mouth: oh, so you’re gay. The hell? And what’s that got to do with it all anyway......
[–]ThunderofHipHipposFDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm allergic to men who make less money than I do.
[–]alien_aliceFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Literally my ex, who I’m inconveniently still in love with :(
[–]blissandblossomFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Facts on facts on facts 🙃
[–]felonnotmeFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the truth but then men have the nerve to say stupid shit like “all women care about is money!” While they work at Burger King calling off half of their shifts to sit at home and send crusty dick picks to girls online. Sorry Travis, I guess I didn’t realize how unfair it was for women to expect a man to bring something to the table aside from the fact that he’s a compulsive cheater lol.
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