Field Report: Beginner Moves - this works!

Frosteecat · 2018-09-15T16:20:02+00:00

I'd argue that just as a marriage can become a death spiral by a thousand cuts, fixing that shit is a 1000 mile journey that entails first steps. When you RP and realize through objectivity just how pathetic and fucked your reality has become, even the smallest change or "victory" can help defeat the soul sucking inertia that threatens to ultimately destroy a marriage. Those on the mountaintop would do well to remember the journey and realize the trip back down can be hard and fast. The way up is a serious bitch. Yes, OP's "win" is infinitesimal at best--but goddammit at least he didn't apologize, comply or keep doing the same fruity shit. Take it dude--but realize that you just put 1/2 drop in an Olympic sized pool.

gettingmymojoback · 2018-09-15T16:47:36+00:00

Rule number one, LIFT. Why does everyone think they can skip the easiest and most important tenet?

You’ve been at this since May, that’s 3 months too long spent getting in halfass shape with body weight before moving on to lifting. I spent a single month doing HIIT at home before moving on to Stronglifts, but that was only because I knew my fitness level was total shit from 15 years of faggotry.

After 4 months you can stop looking for excuses, go hit the weights and get on a lifting program. HIIT is an add on, not an instead of. Can you do 20 pushups and 20 squats? Yes? Then you can go lift.

Why the fuck is the stress level through the roof in the mornings if you’re at home? Who is the captain? It sounds to me like your wife is the one running the morning show. If everything is falling apart, ultimately it’s because of your own lack of leadership. No wonder she is armoring up. While you’re off waiting for your hugs and kisses, she’s the one taking the reigns and making sure shit gets done.

You’re missing the forest from the trees. Yes, you did good by not running when called but you failed everything before and after that.

Texting her at work because you knew it would be a shit show? Where have you EVER seen that recommended? Let her hamster run. Text is for logistics. You feebly tried to make things sexual so I’ll give you a meh for that.

LIFT and LEAD

Operator_Axiom · 2018-09-15T18:48:53+00:00

This FR isn't about anything that "works" because there is nothing here but fail. Didn't start off bad because you recognized what were issues to you and you acted accordingly. She said come here, you stated you were busy, she acted predictably. Here's where you fuck up. You "knew I needed to text her". Why? Why did you KNOW YOU NEEDED to send her a text?

Simply put it was out of fear of your wife and/or her reaction. You were so afraid of what 'might' happen when you both got home. What 'might' be said or what you 'might' not receive. You sent a pic and a comment you felt was funny to try and make your point and break the ice. Her potential reaction owned you to the point that it made your decisions for you. You didn't even have to enter her frame because you've never left.

You never argue. By arguing you are entering her frame. You say what you need to say and shut the fuck up. She is always going to try and justify why you are wrong. She is going to make points and make her views known as to why you are wrong or were out of line. And every time you try to counter her makes you look weaker. If you even just state your original point over and over again you make yourself look weak and then childish. State your point and STFU.

And NEVER have a discussion of an issue over text. Never make your point over text. Makes you look like you afraid of her. Like you aren't man enough to do things in person. And fear is weakness. Doing things through text equates to you having zero frame especially when married. This is your wife and not some plate that lives two hours away. Man up and run your home.

What you should have done is left things as they were and when you both got home wait until she brought it up. If her feelings were hurt then she was going to bring it up. At that point you state what happened, your reasons for your dislike, and how you are going to handle from then on. IE: if you want a hug and a kiss before you leave you need to come find me BEFORE you are loaded down. I'm busy getting ready for work too and am not going to stop everything I'm doing. Especially not to half ass hug someone I can't even get to. And then you leave it at that and go about what you were doing or want to do. Let her give you points and her views and you either don't respond or shrug it off. You made your point and stated your feelings and that is all you need to do. She will either do as you say or she won't but you don't change your stance.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-09-15T17:33:21+00:00

I was cringing reading this. Very passive aggressive. You pushed back a little and showed your little teenage balls for a second.

But You did break rapport and you got a reaction from her. You now see the light.

You must establish your own frame bro. You are the Prize. You shouldn’t be waiting for goodbye hugs at the very last second.

“Next time I’ll do better.”.

Fuck that shit dude. Did the Chad she fucked on spring break on Panama beach back in college ever say that? Why are you qualifying to her ? She needs to qualify herself to you.

You should be feelzing all up on that ass the moment you wake up and in the bathroom together. Pick her up and put her on the kitchen counter and grind that pussy while she’s trying to make the kids lunch. That’s your pussy man. Take it. You must start building attraction early during the day. She needs to see that you are going out into the world with a kick ass attitude and about to slay dragons and pussy if you want to... let that hamster run wild.

It will be second nature eventually. You have one life, start playing the lead roll.

Beta mindsets:

“I knew i needed to text her about the incident”

Why? But I like how you made it funny. Don’t get caught up in deering or conversations over text. Logistics and Game only. I’d really just say Game only.

“it’s impossible to give a meaningful hug and kiss goodbye”

Pussy. You didn’t unplug yet. She doesn’t think it’s meaningful at all. She does the morning hug routine because she knows she can control you and it keeps YOU submissive. Keeps you dorsile and no backbone. Keeps you so unattractive no woman would ever want to fuck you. It frames her as the one in charge. The Dominate. She yells at you because she doesn’t respect you. You immediatly run to momma to get YOUR hug like Pavlov's dogs. She needs to submit to you.

Wake the fuck up. She doesn’t love you. The more comfort, “love”, and your little faggot hugs you show her is great for comfort but it doesn’t make her wet or attractive to you. She thinks you are gay and doesnt respect you. She gets no tingles ^tm. I can meet her at Starbucks 10 min later and get her cell number, more likely a mini bounce back to my place for a morning fuck. Then she’ll call in sick for work. All done without hugging. Game mother fucker.

It doesn’t provide any feelz. It’s the opposite affect. All she cares about is the feelz she gets from you and the resources you provide (mostly $). Hugs make that pussy dry up.

Instead of hugging next time, grab that ass as she heads out the door. Tell her to be ready tonight under the covers with no panties on.

Lift for fucks same.

SaintJohnRakehell · 2018-09-15T17:50:43+00:00

Yeah total bullshit petty power game. Women excel at them.

Lemme armchair quarterback for you:

Take the hug, dont ask for it. If she rejects it or some shit forget about it. Dont get mad, Dont text to playfully argue about it. You have better things to think about/do. Maybe Go find someone else to "hug" or at least work on making your wife think you have that option and might excercise it.

Women get immersed in their stress, so morning might not be the best time to seek affection. I'd agree that taking charge more in the morning would be good to start. Get that lil fucker outta bed and fed or whatever.

Of course your wife will resist this. They're stupid control freaks like that. Dont let that deter you.Do it because that's what the captain does, not because it's a favor or a covert contract.

justpickanyusername · 2018-09-15T15:50:19+00:00

WTF???

Most of this came off passive aggressive and super cringey to me. You felt the need to text her? Keep texting to logistics for now because your text game sucks. Don’t try to discuss or resolve problems over it.

I read the last kiss emoji (after a 3 hour delay mind you) as “I’m not going to encourage my little dip shit of a husband to sexualize this convo and this kiss emoji will shut this shit down.” Send.

I’m glad your dental hygiene is on point and your teeth have been thoroughly flossed. That’s the best I can do with this field report. Looks like you may have gone from Rain Man autistic to slightly less Rain Man autistic.

FireTempered · 2018-09-15T16:07:03+00:00

Tips and tricks...

Rian_Stone · 2018-09-15T16:48:12+00:00

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weakandsensitive · 2018-09-15T18:06:05+00:00

I liked this because this really is baby steps.

This is infinitely better than the crap on askmrp.

This isn't to imply that op is not a fuckup.

innominating · 2018-09-15T21:38:52+00:00

You said no and you felt guilty...

Then you text her, when you didn’t need to.

RishardCooper · 2018-09-15T15:40:18+00:00

What does AA stand for ?

Frosteecat · 2018-09-15T16:21:12+00:00

Oh....and LIFT you fucking pussy!!! :)

470_2_700_nm · 2018-09-16T19:42:14+00:00

“At work around noon. I knew i needed to text her about the incident, ”

Fail. Get back to reading mother fucker you have work to do.

Operator_Axiom · 2018-09-15T17:56:36+00:00

Drawing blanks on these: WISNIFG, MMSLP. Not sure if I'm missing books or not finding in my library.

coachdad8 · 2018-09-15T20:55:45+00:00

All I read was, "Hi guys! Look at how manly I am after 3 months!" Here's some advice, less posting, more reading and OYS.

screechhater · 2018-09-15T21:20:08+00:00

Drunk captain wakes up after momma.

Drunk captain shows momma how he will step onto the “Rambo train” shortly.

How about getting your shit together and let her give you a fucking BJ because you are so awesome because you get your kids ready for school.

ChokingDownRP · 2018-09-16T13:58:42+00:00

Her: 😘

Your next step is to stop seeking validation from her. The fact that YOUR hamster spun to the point that you had to text her about the incident rather than let it go until it came up that evening is pretty weak (I was the king of doing this type of shit - I once emailed my wife in the middle of the night because my hamster was out of control). The fact that you texted for anything other than logistics or nudes is pretty weak as well. But the thing that screams that you're still a validation seeking little faggot bitch boy is that the kiss emoji was so special to you that you ran to reddit to post about it. My wife texted me a middle finger emoji yesterday...she was in lingerie eager to fuck when I got home an hour later.

You CANNOT care that much about an emoji. I get it, every bit of progress feelz goood...but you will have arrived when you hardly react to her texts, feelz, tears, smiles or any thing else she does. Her moods, her words all of it is temporary...don't let any of it affect you.

P.S.: Did you fuck that night?

Red-Curious · 2018-09-17T16:02:44+00:00

The Good

You're trying new things that you were too chicken to do before
You're not going Rambo yet, maintaining enough of your old ways to keep the transition smooth instead of all at once
You're starting to realize that her antics are something to be laughed at, not taken seriously
You didn't apologize for when you did nothing wrong

The Bad

You still took her too seriously
You felt compelled to text her
You let her responses to you affect how you feel
You're defining your "RP progress" by how she behaves toward you
It took you 3 minutes to think of, "I want to have sex with you tonight."
You came here to share your excitement, looking for validation from us, under the guise of wanting to teach men that telling your wife "I want to have sex tonight" is a good idea ... and assuming that this wasn't somehow implicitly obvious to every man who wants to have sex tonight (although to be fair, I do remember days when this wasn't obvious).

To keep avoiding Rambo mode, pick 1 or 2 things on the "bad" list and work on it this week, then another for the next week. Don't try to fix all at once.

InChargeMan · 2018-09-23T00:23:41+00:00

Congrats, you discovered there are actual bones somewhere around where your spine is supposed to be.

A 1000 mile journey starts with a single step. This is your first step. You have a LONG way to go.

I'm not going to rip you apart, just realize that you have a long way to go. Lay off MRP posts, stick to askmrp for a good long time. MRP isn't a hair growth creme, you don't sprinkle some on and declare "this stuff really works!".

Save this post, you will find it of use as you improve and need a reminder of how far you've come.

red-sfpplus · 2018-09-15T19:11:48+00:00

I am anal training my woman.

Was hoping to see beginner moves = thumb in ass.

Sadly disappointed.

Maybe I should make an OP on it.

I could title it:

Making your girl into an anal lover in 0-60 days.

BloodRedQuestions · 2018-09-26T21:19:54+00:00

I wouldn't have even realized this was a test. Good insight and response.

Title	Field Report: Beginner Moves - this works!
Author	BlazenGains
Upvotes	35
Comments	51
Date	September 15, 2018 3:16 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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