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Been going Rambo

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January 11, 2019

After that great thread that was posted the other day for the new people here, i read the Success Stories, and it was a real eye opener. I realised I've been pretty Rambo for a year now. I've been silent with my wife. Giving one word responses. Hardly listening to her. Giving orders. I've been a bit of a cunt tbh.

She's a pain in my ass but I'm now seeing it's because of me. How do i transition out of this. I don't feel like being all luvvy with her, but i do want a better marriage. I feel like i need to start this all over again.

In the success stories they all started out like this, except they all had women on pedestals, i never have. I haven't initiated sex with her in years. It's not more sex I want, it's a happier marriage and a happier environment.

I suppose this post is more of a vent to release what I've just learned. It's like I've taken the pill for a second time, i just don't know how to put it into action.

Self employed tiler
Lifting. Jiu-jitsu 4 nights a week

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Title Been going Rambo
Author SidMRP
Upvotes 9
Comments 56
Date 11 January 2019 03:38 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]Cam_Winston2117 points18 points  (4 children) | Copy

It's not more sex I want, it's a happier marriage and a happier environment.

Which would you think is the best path to those:
(a) Being a butthurt bitch who punishes his wife emotionally not for disrespectful behavior but because she's not meeting (you didn't say even say) criteria, or
(b) be the fun/exciting/hopeful guy she fell in love with & who she chose to spend the rest of her life pleasing?

She may or may not follow you in the future, but why would she follow a guy who doesn't even show her affection right now?

Reset every day.

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

One thing a lot of new guys do that fucks them over is that they dislike their wives, but want to try to improve and see if they can save the marraige. Like they're "stuck" and miserable and resent their wives but still know they need to improve. You cannot be an alpha male if you are currently in a relationship with a woman you don't like. That's not how alpha males work, if you have options and you're confident and you put yourself first, you wouldn't be with a woman you don't enjoy spending time with. Only pussy beta faggots stay in relationships that make them miserable and resentful towards their women. Don't give off pussy faggot vibes by resenting your wife. Always start each day as a blank slate and be fun, cool and positive.

Does my gf annoy the shit out of me sometimes? Of course, I think all of our gf's and wives are annoying, but you still choose to be with her and stay in a relationship with her. If you have any resentment or contempt for your wife, she will notice and she will view that as a weakness in you, for being too big of a pussy to just admit it and dump her. You have to own your decision to stay with her and be fun and happy when you are around her, otherwise it will slow down and hamper your progress a lot.

[–]thunderbeyond0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Great perspective.

[–]Tbonesupreme2 points3 points  (22 children) | Copy

In my marriage, she's happier and more submissive when I give her a good fucking on the reg.

Why haven't you initiated?

[–]SeamusAwl[🍰] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

In my marriage, she's happier and more submissive when I give her a good fucking on the reg.

Mine is that way when I lead and own my shit. The latter is just what I do.

[–]Tbonesupreme2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

HappIER and MORE submissive.

Tango helps with that shit, too. It's a game of follow the leader.

My wife is a CEO. Advanced techniques are required.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My wife is a CEO. Advanced techniques are required.

yep, hypergamy demands it. you must always be "better" than her

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

The advanced technique is dread level 6 and 7. Give fewer fucks and be less impressed with stupid shit like ceo cred.

[–]Tbonesupreme0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

My point wasn't to communicate that I'm impressed by her title. My point was to say that I have to overcome a very large income discrepancy. It makes it harder to maintain appropriate power dynamics.

I've been on dread level 6 and 7 since I was 14.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I am telling you from experience that you must consciously avoid pedestalizing her and not GAF about her earnings in order to make it work. She will use it at some point and if your validation in any way depends on her, that is the moment she will strike like a rattlesnake.

[–]SeamusAwl[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's not more sex I want, it's a happier marriage and a happier environment.

Then start doing things that are more fun for both of you. Start being playful with her and quit being an angry toad. Learn that giving less fucks isn't about ignoring her. Just that you realize she lives in the moment. What she says and feels in the current moment might not, and most likely will not, be how she will be in the next moment. So it should never have pre-eminence over your thoughts, mission, and feelings.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Let's all analyze the footprint on this mans dick. Somone page Rian stone, hes our resident expert on dick footprints.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hope he knows the metric system.

[–]jcrptaRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Speaking as someone in a similar position to yourself:

It sounds like what you need is a fresh perspective.

What has happened is in the past; you cannot control that. Nor can you control how your wife responds to that.

Focus on the things you can control. You can control how you respond to this. So try to think about things in these terms.

[–]FoxShitNasty832 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

What does a better marriage look like to you?

P.s your lifting numbers are so small I can't even see them

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

A year? And I thought my month of Rambo was a huge failure for me.

She's a pain in my ass

I want to cuddle

Sounds like you're confused as hell. And of course it's hard to do it... it's supposed to be hard, nothing in life that is worthwhile is going to be easy.

Here's some of the advice/questions/wisdom I've been given on here when I fuck up (like weekly fuck something up, oh well do better next time): Stop being an ass for the sake of being an ass. Stop reading into what she does or says as a measure of your self-worth. Why are you a cunt to her? Is this some sort of covert contract that if you act shitty she'll act better because that's what you think the 'alphas' do? Look at your relationship: does she add value to your life and support YOUR mission? You have resentment issues with your wife, let that go because you're in her frame all the time then.

Start initiating sex if you want to (also good frequent sex is directly linked to 'happier' marriage and anyone who pretends otherwise is full of BS); if you don't want sex go get your testosterone checked because YOU AS A MAN SHOULD WANT SEX.

How do i transition out of this. I don't feel like being all luvvy with her, but i do want a better marriage. I feel like i need to start this all over again.

Great time to start over again. Guess what? You start over every fucking day. It's a new day - do better.
Get 1% better. You know the tools, you know what needs to be done, so make your plan, own your shit and do it.

[–]gringomasloco0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've been a bit of a cunt tbh.

Do you enjoy being a cunt? No? Than don't be such a cunt. Reset every day. If she's a cunt, than fuck off and do something fun/ productive. Be a leader. Have fun. Game your wife. NO COVERT CONTRACTS. You're not entitled to anything. What's your mission? (hint: it shouldn't have anything to do with her) In order to for her to see you as the prize, YOU have to BE the prize.

[–]onewayroute0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If u are doin juijitsu join the squad after hours and grab a drink. Make friends, be social, or not but have fun. Be that guy she fell in love with. I went rambo for a period and did same shit. Once i started just goin out to have fun for myself (always inviting her), she got fomo and started taking initiative to join. Lead man but dont punish with covert tactics

[–]Fritz_Frauenraub0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

how do I transition out of this.

Good question, one you'll more or less have to answer for yourself.

Getting past anger phase IS the work of MRP. The rest is supplementary.

[–]RedPillCoach0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

The title is exactly correct. This is what going Rambo and cementing it over years looks like! This is what IDGAF looks like when taken to far. You get a passionless, unhappy marriage! Of course she doesn't leave when you are a true blue (or red) asshole but the tactics we suggest for EARLY MRP AND NEW GUYS DO NOT WORK LONG TERM TO CREATE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!!!

Read that last line again. It is 100% true.

MRP tactics are mostly for new guys. You STFU NOT because it is an ideal tactic. It is not!!!! You STFU so YOU don't screw up and so YOU can begin building a frame. You sometimes should stop initiating sex in order to increase OI and gain power but that is TEMPORARY. It is NOT an ideal tactic- it is just the best tactic for new guys coming out of a low sex marriage (especially if you are unable to handle rejection).

You are not supposed to continue using those tactics when you have OI. Instead we, and sidebar writers like Athol Kay (and me!) recommend turning towards intimacy tools like the 10 second kiss and the hug to relaxation. We recommend you begin using Kino and Seduction tactics sooner rather than later.

Right now this is a Cold War. If you want to make peace, then the leader is going to have to make the first, and probably the second move. Are you the leader? Or are you going to wait for your wife to suddenly perk up and be happy?

My suggestion? Start over. Today is Year 0. It is the first day of the rest of your life. Start by SLOWLY touching your wife over days and weeks. Google / Youtube "Kino and Seduction." Initiate sex when you want and screw her like a cave man. Make eye contact, cuddle, give hugs. Pretend she is an entirely new girl that you just met. What do you need to do to get her into your bed?

Start acting more like that and she will soon find the mysterious "intimacy" that "just happens" doesn't just happen! A MAN MAKES IT HAPPEN. So go make it happen!

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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