Disclaimer = Not currently on hard mode.
Buying a house and moving in with 2 year LTR this summer. We both have full custody of three kids, so six kids total, both divorced. I make $80k, she makes $45k.
She got married young in a courthouse, always wanted a “real” wedding. She pushed for a “maybe someday” answer from me for a long time. Fogged for awhile, but she started communicating overtly/dropping numerous shit test and comfort tests three months ago about it.
Broke it down for her like this
“I got burned in my last divorce, and I will never put myself, or my kids, in that vulnerable of a position ever again. For anyone. I will, however, think about giving you the wedding, the dress, the ring, but I will NEVER sign paperwork. I will give you the experience, because I love you, but you have to 100% accept that I won’t sign my future away.”
She brought it up again the other day, in a joking manner, and I politely and firmly told her to knock it off it wasn’t funny. She got pouty face but didn’t bring it up again.
My theory is she isn’t 100% confident in locking Beta Bux down, and she obviously wants to. I expect the tests to increase when we move in together.
Anything wrong with how I’m handling this?