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Is she prettier than me

by kendallb183 | March 26, 2018 | askMRP

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30 sec version, wife got fat, my fault, we used to be skinny and I let myself go and she followed. I got myself on a diet and in the gym, wife joined. She's doing well with some cheating here and there on it. We're in Disney world, a girl skinny and cute is in line in front of us. Girls giving me IOIs wife obviously takes notice... a few moments later gets close and intimate and looks me in the eyes and asks if she looks better than her. I freeze thinking hmm I don't wanna be like no baby your fine and built comfort with her current state which isn't what it could be, she's prob 5-10% over ideal bf. I also don't wanna blow her out by saying no this girl looks better and demoralize her progress on dieting.

I say simply yes babe you look great and kiss her forehead. She smiles and a moment later puts her ads against me in line standing close and moving back and forth a little to get me turned on.

I'm thinking this was successful, but I'm curious for MRP perspectives.

Specifically how do you keep competition anxiety without demoralizing progress toward being the girl I want her to be? Did I accomplish this well or was there better ways to do it?

Edit: replaced Blew up with got fat because we used to be skinny and I let myself go and she followed


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Title Is she prettier than me
Author kendallb183
Upvotes 15
Comments 86
Date 26 March 2018 07:19 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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[–]donedreadpirateRed Beret16 points17 points  (5 children) | Copy

I have no idea. My wife lost her shit this weekend when I was recognized by a hot 23 year old fitness chick. Sobbing, hiding in the bathroom, I had to take her home and white lie to our friends about why we left without saying goodbye. The sex was fantastic.
 
Edit: Meh, go figure, I came home to a love note and a dozen roses. I feel like a princess!

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Haha see, this is exactly the behavior I'm getting... so the result says I did something right.. if just like to know what that is and why to replicate it.. instead of just getting lucky lol.

I also understand I'm suppose to not give a shit about her response because I'm in my frame... but at the same time I think if I am learning to pass shit tests and comfort tests, seeing how she reacts and if it lines up with how other people say their wife reacts after they pass these tests will let me know if I'm able to internalizing these lessons well

[–]donedreadpirateRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Comfort is a gift that should be earned. "I love you" is a phrase that should be gifted. Being married does not obligate you to "be the oak" and provide comfort to your wife. Comfort does not necessarily even soothe her needs and is more of a bane than a boon to your SMV. Comfort is for momentary appraisal and approval of a woman who has worked hard to earn it by doing something that makes your life better and should be given on your terms. Usually, a smile and a kiss will do. Remember: pussy is cheap, but you, you are a rare bird. Let her mind wander.
 
Edit: also this

[–]InChargeManRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Usually, a smile and a kiss will do.

This is the right response. She knows she isn't as attractive, she knows you know. If you DEER about it you are operating in her frame. Just smile, grab her close, give her the long kiss, then move on without a word.

[–]johneyapocalypse-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Recognized?

Intriguing word, that one.

[–]donedreadpirateRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's part of a group I workout with. Cutie.

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.012 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

You need to figure out an AM to this. Is she hotter then me? Yeah, but I bet she can't do that thing with her tongue. Fill in with whatever inside joke you guys might have.

This weekend my wife was putting on a sweatshirt and it shrunk in the dryer. I see her stretching it out as shes putting it on and I am laughing at her cause shes getting stuck etc. She looks at me and says, "I wouldn't have this trouble if someone hadn't put this in the dryer", immediately followed by "I am also getting fat." I looked at her with a smirk on my face and said, "You are absolutely right...but I didn't put your shirt in the dryer." I immediately got a punch to the stomach and an asshole comment followed by a laugh. I also saw her go down to the gym that night.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is for guys who have frame. OP doesn't have frame.

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.06 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah You’re right. One of the hardest things I had to learn so far is that there isn’t a magic bullet for any of this. There’s no if I say this at this exact time it will fix everything and I’ll never have to deal with that particular problem again. That one comment I made was a result of me pushing the boundary and building my frame nail by nail. By me building my IDGAF and OI. I didn’t wake up one day and decided welp today’s the day I have frame. I woke up and said today’s the day I start building frame.

[–]SeamusAwl6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

This was a missed opportunity for some fun AM fogging.

Her: does she look better than me?

You: Not sure, its hard to top you in bed. But we can find out. You can hold the camera.

[–]470_2_700_nm0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I am surprised more have not spoken about introducing the idea of fucking both of them. Because that is what I would want.

“Is she prettier than you? Let’s find out.”

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

The quote was “look better than me”. Is she prettier would not work as I was suggesting playing with ambiguity of the quoted phrase.

[–]470_2_700_nm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m suggesting making a move towards a 3some.

[–]thunderbeyond2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Similar experience in an airport queue when wife says "god look at that girls ass. Is mine that good?"

Hell, now this was heaven in yoga pants. I told her "sure thats a nice ass but you got her beat with the tits" (which was true).

Lighthearted punch and a cheeky smile from the wife and life goes on.

I didn't think I had to lie to my wife about it - she wouldn't have believed me anyway. But I gave her comfort she knows I find her attractive.

[–]kendallb183[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This really hits home, I think I see what you mean here. Taking advantage of the situation to light heartedly show what you approve and disapprove of with her, not try to protect how she feels

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What you should be doing all the fucking time! Your frame should be fun, AM, ngaf, cocky, al the time.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"babe, sometimes I like bourbon, and sometimes I like scotch, but in the end it's all whiskey. How can I pick a favorite?"

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

"Right? I remember when you used to try hard. You should try some lipstick like hers maybe that'd work?"

[–]kendallb183[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

So you see this as a shit test, and one you'd use to point out how she let herself fall apart a little?

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Shit test yes, but she'd never say "I've let myself go"

She was saying "that girls hot. I feel bad because she's hot. Make me feel better. Validate my feelz!"

But I don't take that shit seriously. Instead I treat her like a little girl and change the emotion to something light and funny. As an alpha I don't validate her feelz when she demands it.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

If you want to stir the shit, you say "Define looks." or "I'm going to need a second opinion."

But yes, that was a comfort test. A oak response was warranted.

Remember, sometimes you want to stir the shit. But you have to have the frame and SMV beforehand.

Quick note, sometimes when women say this it is a shit test. One of the shittiest of tests, actually. It also depends on your wife's SMV. Here, because she is fat, I'm wagering it is more comfort test.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

A oak response was warranted.

It's not a given.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I ninja edited but you beat me to the response.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Man, I hate these questions, there is so much shit rolled up into a ball, then when they ask how to polish the turd, and then delete their account when you tell them to stop polishing a turd

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amen. I might just have to go with WNS's approach for these situations. I'd for sure get more amusement out of it.

[–]TaipanshimshonRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s why you leave other guys shit alone.

Otherwise you get all stinky and shit stained without the anal

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree. Sometimes this is a woman's way of making you feel uncomfortable for her insecurities. So you have to put that boundary up that says "nope, not playing the game."

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Probably comfort test, ok, but fuck, I always treat as shit test. Just say “yes, she has a hot ass”. Show her that her emotions have no affect on you.

Of course though, OP should be throwing in intermittent comfort here and there as part of his game- if she is being good to him at home. Don’t be autistic. Have to develope a feelz for it.

Eventually, she’ll be pointing out hot chicks to you, OP. That’s when you know you have arrived.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Agree. Direct approach.

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Specifically how do you keep competition anxiety without demoralizing progress toward being the girl I want her to be?

I've been negging the ever loving shit out of my wife lately. She doesn't know what the fuck to think about it, and that makes it even more fun for me.

If you can give her a muddy answer and get a genuine kick out of her reaction, then do it. If you push hard ("Eh, you've got some work to do if you wanna catch up with her.") then you better be ready to pull even harder. That, or, spend the next 3 days with a raging bitch (your fault, not hers).

Point is, if you're standing there like the manchurian candidate working a verbal formula it's probably not gonna go so well. Ask me how I know, I was there before here.

If you're legitimately amused by watching her squirm for awhile before releasing that tension then you can say whatever you want. And 9/10 you'll get that competion anxiety, or other positive response, as a bonus to your own amusement. And that 1 time...doesn't really matter. You still had fun.

Did I accomplish this well or was there better ways to do it?

If you are happy with this reaction...

She smiles and a moment later puts her ads against me in line standing close and moving back and forth a little to get me turned on.

...then yes, you could say mission accomplished. Just be cautious for now. You're here asking, which means you're playing with dynamite.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I've been negging the ever loving shit out of my wife lately. She doesn't know what the fuck to think about it, and that makes it even more fun for me.

Careful, don't go Rambo.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Having a frame in this type of question means not worrying about whether she’s shit testing or not.

I don’t think these are a comfort test if she hasn’t been putting any effort into no longer being fat; so your instinct is correct in that you don’t want to let her off the hook for poor habits. Then respond with “sure she’s hot; but she’s probably going to the gym and working for that ass 3 or 4 times a week”. That way you hold strong with acknowledging that another woman on the planet, that’s actually putting work into her physical appearance, is indeed attractive to you.

If your wife is working really working hard and showing the right behaviors, then this is a comfort test and you want to keep her focused on the things she’s doing correctly. “Sure, she’s cute, but I kind of feel sorry for her. She’s nothing like how you look lately with all the hard work you’ve put in.”

However, in this case, even though you claim your wife is putting in the work, she had to complicate things by comparing herself to this other chick. That is an easy Shit Test that I’d shut down. “You’re asking me if this fit girl in her twenties is cuter than you?!” and I’d chuckle as I’m saying it.

[–]weakandsensitive3 points4 points  (30 children) | Copy

I say simply yes babe you look great.

So you lied to her and want a pat on the back? Meh.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge0 points1 point  (28 children) | Copy

Still in wife’s frame.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (27 children) | Copy

Hmm. See this is where I get confused. I know my frame, I also know this isn't TRP, it's MRP. I know this is where an oak is needed of comfort and attraction. I may be misplaced here and if I am I'd love to understand better but is it not my role to guide and develop those following me with encouragement as well as honesty as needed to motivate? Or are you suggesting I continually tell her how I think she's overweight? Do you think that would demoralize her when she's already in a state of doing lifting and dieting to make progress and is making progress? Or are you saying that it is needed to keep a fire under her ass or something?

I know my frame, my frame is I'd like for her to be more my ideal weight for her and I know exactly what she was doing... the question is how to posture myself for her to continue to achieve progress towards the goal of her losing weight

[–]SeamusAwl6 points7 points  (6 children) | Copy

Um. No.

Let me simplify (big word I know) it for you.

You care too much what your wife thinks and craft your reply to suit her reaction instead of owning up to the itty bitty woody in your drawyers. The one you got from a young hottie inadvertently glancing your direction. And your wife picked up on it because your eyes were so glued to the hottie’s tight little ass.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

I was in Sun glasses, she can't see my eyes... she saw the girl give me IOIs and saw this girl obviously looked better... And felt insecure, that part was pretty clear. But your saying I should have just said yup, she looks better and left it alone?

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

No. I said you should have used AM, or atleast AA, than lie because your wife already knew the answer.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I see, that makes sense. I'm thankful for your response... I'm starting to see that using one of those two would be better and still be honest in my approach. Would that cause her to be less motivated to lose weight though is the lingering question in my mind. Do you think it would motivate her more? I can't see why but maybe you can help me see that point of view

[–]SeamusAwl1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You give her comfort when you joke about it with her that you are a man and you chose her over little miss hottie (this time). She could dread losing you after because of it and then try and up her game to keep you. But she may (most likely) also require your leadership to guide her in how to lose the weight.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I see, so me thinking protecting her from the truth isn't really protecting her from shit since she already knows the truth and is really just seeing if she's able to get me to comfort her in her state which lets her know where she's at compared to my smv as proven by my response. Real encouragement comes from guiding her diet and exercise and pushing her in the gym but also being honest in how I feel and over time she will see less and less girls that she thinks are hotter than her which will be the real encouragement not the lie

[–]SeamusAwl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

To briefly answer your first sentence. Yes. Because she is on the decline and you are pulling young hotties. Yet still chosing her. It both comforts and excites her. Fun times will ensue.

Lying means she cannot trust you and you will leave her when you are ready. She will clamp up as she won’t want to get pregnant only to have you leave.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy

“where an oak is needed of comfort and attraction...”

Attraction comes from breaking rapport, not comfort.

Don’t know wtf you talking about.

“how to posture myself for her to continue to achieve progress towards the goal of her losing weight”

Lead by example. Show some encouragement. Stop being a bitch.

I did get tingles when you referenced competition anxiety though. Good. You did your homework.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

I am leading by example. The part of encouragement is what I'm asking. If she is feeling insecure because she hasn't made the amount of progress yet, but will, is it appropriate for the sake of encouragement to tell her other girls look better than her, or to let her stay in a simi state of bliss so long as she is working hard to make progress

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

“is it appropriate for the sake of encouragement to tell her other girls look better than her”

Fuck no. No talking about it. Let it naturally happen, she’ll see them flashing IOIs at you. She fucking knows you think hot chicks are fucking hot.

“let her stay in a simi state of bliss”

Fuck no. You making this complicated.

She caught you checking out a hot piece of ass, ok, fucking own it bitch.

Outside of this event, yes, give her some encourage and comfort if she is putting in effort.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

You misunderstood the situation. I had on glasses, she can't see my eyes... which was convenient to watch the whole thing play out. She didnt catch me and then I act like I wasnt.... she saw this girl and felt insecure and asked me to tell her she's Pretty/am I prettier than her.

Also, I don't tell her I can pull more attractive girls, she just saw this girl giving me IOIs.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Ok , I missed that. That was a comfort test. Doesn’t matter, I would have still AA that shit like a shit test. I always maintain frame and act as the dominate. Always keep her submissive. Never let her win the frame.

How early on are you? Is she dtf on the regular?

Provide some comfort if she is doing good on the fitness goals and treating you well in everyday life. Reward her.

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

OP thinks his ladyfriend is a moron because he wore sunglasses.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah sex is on demand which is great... That sounds good... I'm glad to see the distinction either way, it helps me understand things. I'll admit I'm a bit autistically logical at times.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockChief Autist in Charge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Logical is good. At one point you’ll internalize all of this and it will come through you naturally.

[–]hystericalbonding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I always maintain frame and act as the dominate. Always keep her submissive. Never let her win the frame.

Frame isn't "winning" at interactions, arguments, or convincing anyone of anything. Feeling the need to do those things is often a sign that a person has no frame.

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (10 children) | Copy

You are such a huge bitch.

[–]kendallb183[S] 3 points4 points  (9 children) | Copy

Great comment, thanks for the value added. If your gonna call me a bitch, at least be worthwhile and explain what exactly your referencing. This is AskMRP it's designed to educate, not just fucking insult. Take your redpill rambo bullshit to another thread if you have nothing to add. I don't mind being called a bitch, I've had people with red beret beside their name do it all the time, but they educate, explain what they mean... You add nothing, anyone can respond to everyone calling them a bitch or faggot...

[–]BostonBrakeJob1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Great comment, thanks for the value added. If your gonna call me a bitch, at least be worthwhile and explain what exactly your referencing. This is AskMRP it's designed to educate, not just fucking insult. Take your redpill rambo bullshit to another thread if you have nothing to add. I don't mind being called a bitch, I've had people with red beret beside their name do it all the time, but they educate, explain what they mean... You add nothing, anyone can respond to everyone calling them a bitch or faggot...

Exhibit 'A'

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Quality post, thanks.

[–]pridebrah1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's saying you lack frame (and other , man. You got triggered by the simplest of internet comments from an anonymous person. Think about that and how that applies to you overall.

I can only imagine how you react when your wife gives you shit.

[–]BostonBrakeJob0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So do you see the bigger picture yet, why u/weakandsensitive was spot on, or do you need that spelled out for you too?

[–]weakandsensitive0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

No bitch.

I'm here to laugh at you be a bitch while you fail.

I've had people with red beret beside their name do it all the time, but they educate, explain what they mean..

Those guys are bitches too for wasting their time on your bitch ass.

Edit - sorry, you wanted some real help.

Here you go --

No amount of bullshit here can fix the root problem - which is the fact that "You are such a huge bitch".

Stop acting like such a huge bitch and you'll stop getting treated like one. You can't fake mindset fatty.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I don't mind being called a bitch

Your long reply indicates otherwise.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Right... makes sense. Length of post correlates to bitch amount. Wish they put that on the sidebar.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Look up DEER

[–]InChargeManRed Beret-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Didn't you read?

a moment later puts her ads against me

He gave some comfort and got some major ads. Sounds like a win :)

Edit: Sarcastic comment for those less socially adept.

[–]mattizie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

To me that sounds like the general response when you're just checked out and not listening to what she's saying.

Maybe she was acting that way to get your attention?

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Another spin from UEMcGill is:

I love you and I love tacos. Some days I love you more than tacos. Now put your hair back the way I like before I replace you with tacos.

[–]Alphaphux0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Was she?

[–]mala_madre0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

If my girl ask her I either ignore it if I don't want to fight, or tell her "yes".

Then when she gets angry I ask her what she expected and tell her to don't ask stupid questions if she don't want the answer.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret-1 points0 points  (16 children) | Copy

wife blew up, my fault

Why are her emotions your fault?

[–]kendallb183[S] 2 points3 points  (15 children) | Copy

Blew up weight wise. That part is back story. I let my weight go, so she followed lol

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (14 children) | Copy

Why are her emotions your fault?

your excuse is not a reason

[–]kendallb183[S] 2 points3 points  (13 children) | Copy

It's pretty well known and taught that the man is the leader, he will be followed. Search fat wife on MRP and they will preach over and over if you want your wife to lose weight you first have to stop being a slob and lose weight. You both used to be in shape? Then you get BP comfortable and let yourself go? Your wife will surely follow. This is exactly what happened. My wife eats when I eat... she eats like I eat. As a leader it's pretty fucking retarded to blame your followers for following you.... but this post isn't about why she gained weight... so I'd ask if your gonna comment on my thread you focus on the actual topic please.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret-2 points-1 points  (12 children) | Copy

K fatty, I get it. you meant pyshically blew up, not emotionally.

Have you lost the weight yet? Are you hitting a road block? Or have you not even fucking started yet?

And you're telling me I'm off topic?

Want to know what to say? Start with honesty then. Yeah, I was a fat fuck, so you thought it was ok to be a fat fuck. Yes she is hotter than you, anything else?

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (11 children) | Copy

5'10 188, 12% bf, bench 225 x7, squat 315 x 7. Fat for me was 18% after a dirty bulk, I hated how I looked. I have a goal of sub 10%, which I've been working on for 2 months now, expect to hit it probably this month, then ill bulk but on a much cleaner diet.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Ah, I see now. And you lost it, because it's the main precursor to a girl wanting to lose it, and you're a little peeved she hasn't got with the program eh?

I can feel ya, we've all been there, or still are to some extent. I wish I had a 100% answer to you there. Best things I've found are preselection (hotter girls wanting you helps), cheating (when she wants to upgrade she will) but the low hanging fruit is enabling behaviour.

Do you often aquiesse when she bitches and moans about eating a salad, or going for a walk?

[–]kendallb183[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Did you read my post at all? Yes she's been making great progress, she's down 7%, she is very submissive and follows what I ask as far as tracking her food, weigh days, weight lifting program and diet.

I do know anyone who is doing everything right and seeing the correct amount of progress can be easily demoralized and pushed to quit by asking from them unrealistic rate of progress. Oh, you only lost 10 lbs, well your still a fat ads because you should have lost 20 by now... She's gonna say well fuck you, I'm doing everything and trying as hard as I can, wtf do you expect from me...

The question is with her making this progress and being submissive and following so well... How to respond to these situations to promote the continuance of the state she's in as far as desire to make progress and keep her diet.

I don't wanna be like oh yeah your great, and then she stops feeling she's already achieved the goal... nor do I wanna hound her over and over until she quits.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If she earned it, a comfort test. Sorry I didn't answer your basic question, I had to go back and read the easy, basic shit about comfort tests in order to remember.

Again, try honesty.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So the pivot really would be if she was actually making progress and working on it, give her some comfort but not too much... but if she has been slacking and just wants false encouragement comfort to call her on that shit and respond with yeah she seems to take good care of herself

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The part you mention hotter girls wanting me is this situation, so how do you act in those situations?

[–]BLVKEY-2 points-1 points  (5 children) | Copy

You just got done emotional vomiting saying how you 'let yourself go' and now you're throwing out bodyfat percentages as if you actually test that.
You're a bitch OP

[–]kendallb183[S] -1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

Getting fat is relative, and you bet your ass I test my BF. I do a quarterly bod pod, and weekly 3 point calipers. For me going from 12% to 18% is getting fat, what is your standard, asshole?

[–]BLVKEY0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

You suffer from body dysmorphia and are living inside your fat wife's frame. Call me an asshole when you stop being miserable -- and a bitch.

[–]kendallb183[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Haha nice rationalization that 18% is body dysmorphia, probably means your sitting in the 20's. That's ok friend, if you need advice on getting to an actual attractive bf% I'm here to help. It's pretty common place on MRP and TRP both that anything over 15% is starting to push it.

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I freeze thinking hmm I don't wanna be like no baby your fine and built comfort with her current state which isn't what it could be, she's prob 5-10% over ideal bf. I also don't wanna blow her out by saying no this girl looks better and demoralize her progress on dieting. hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster hamster.

"Nope".

She gets mad? She knows how to fix it.

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I don't like this question. I don't like being asked this question. It's a shitty manipulative tool. The goal is to get you to lie to make her feel better. More insidiously to get you to lie to assert a reality where she is better than she is. Don't.

I've dealt with this a few ways in the past.

"It's either close so it doesn't matter. Or it isn't close and you already know. Don't ask me stupid questions."

"Sure is. And I would totally nail her. Why?"

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What response does this usually get You?

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My wife never has asked. She knows better.

I find the latter answer works better for aggressive women, the former for more timid women.

I’ve had LTRs in the past ask. One LTR responded to the latter by eating a maraschino cherry out of her drink stem and all, and tying the stem in a knot in her mouth and spitting it back on the table.

One whom was more timid, responded to the former by shutting up and never asking the question again.

Ultimately neither asked the question “is she pretty” that way “is she prettier than me” again. You wanna know if I find a girl attractive, for science and all, sure I’ll tell you. You wanna pretend like I’ve got oneitis or I’m a demisexual, and you’re the only girl I’m looking at news flash I’m not, and I am looking at other girls.



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