Massive beta blue piller for years, unplugged about a 16 months ago. Lift four times a week but still weak as fuck. Age 45, 179 lbs (down from 215), 5'11", lift four times a week. BP 5x165, DL 5x265, SQ 5x225, married 17 years, read everything in the sidebar and lots of posts.
As of 8 months ago we have sex whenever I want. Also, spontaneous, unprompted weekly BJ's and up until tonight the wife has said our relationship is the best it's ever been. Great dates, lots of fun, great sex, overall really enjoying the wife until tonight. Tonight, I think this woman may have a deep layer of rage or is just fucking crazy.
Working my plan. My stay plan is the same as my go plan.
Tonight we had a nice dinner on the patio with the kids (teenagers) until shit went sideways. I think she drank to much wine but who knows. At one point she accused the boys of being potential parent killers (think Mendez brothers). I shut that conversation line down as it upset the kids and was a shitty thing to say. I told the kids that isn't a possibility and their mom watches way to much news. I then excused the kids and changed the subject.
About ten minutes later we started discussing summer vacation and she brought up her desire to take a dog with us that pisses in the house. I said that's not going to happen and that I found the dog in a room earlier today that is off limits to it. I didn't know who left it but that room smells like piss now even though I couldn't find a spot. (I hate that dog and she knows it)
Wife then starts saying I get on to her to much and I wouldn't like it if she did the same. She then quoted me getting on to her about the potential shooter accusation and the dog pissing. Instead of deering I got up and started clearing the table and took some dishes to the kitchen.
Next part is seen by one of the boys....On my way out the kitchen door to get another round of dishes she blocks my way. I went around her so she grabbed my hoody (it was slightly chilly out) and yanked hard so it choked me. I turned around and brought my forearm down on her hands to break the grip and stop the choking and walked away. She threw a serving bowl at me and hit me in the back and then ran at me and started pulling on my hoody.
I broke her grip again and went to walk around her. She grabbed me again so I grabbed her hips and moved her to the side and started walking out of the yard towards the street. She once again started pulling on the hoody. I told her to let go and quit being a mean drunk. I would discuss things with her when she was sober. She kept attacking and pulling as I walked down the driveway. I finally let her have the hoody and walked down the street.
After walking a ways, I realized that she would probably do something shitty with my toothbrush and other personal items so I went back to the house and gathered that stuff up. (She keys cars when people cut her off or drive to close to her while she is cycling. My toothbrush to clean the toilet, etc. )
When walking out of the house after packing up my toiletries wife said "I'm done. I just need some money for a lawyer. "
I didn't reply. I just left for the hardware store to get some stuff for a home repair project and decided to type this.
We have three more years before the youngest will graduate high school. If we divorce the spousal support will make it so I can't keep the house and stay in the district. It's a great school district and I would like the kids to finish up there.
Any thoughts? I had hopes that this marriage had turned around but there seems to be a huge amount of pent up anger in my wife and a large dose of crazy.
I know I'm not perfect so advice will be appreciated.