This is going to sound petty and stupid, and it frankly is. My wife sometimes does some really stupid behaviour to try and pull me into a drama frame. In my home office there were a couple of framed pictures of myself with my siblings and cousins when we were children. I like them. Wife took both pictures out, and put pictures of herself with our kids. There are pictures of herself with our kids elsewhere in the room. She has pictures of her family elsewhere in the house
The following exchange took place:
I : Where are the pictures that were here?
Wife: Why do you hate our pictures, do you have a problem with our family?
This frankly was so stupid I laughed in her face. Seems like a royal shit sandwitch of shit test, comfort test, and jealousy all rolled into one. My wife is extremely jealous and possessive of me - to the point of insanity, which makes dread game really effective.
I told her I want the pictures back and I left. I like the pictures - they are not digital and they are the only copies in existence (20+ years old, before digital was a thing).
I still don't know where they are. I'm frankly more pissed off at that then the fact that they were taken down. I wouldn't be surprised if she binned them given past petty behaviour.
How would you handle this? There is a consistent current of this behaviour where she baites me with childish stuff, on the one hand this seems like a silly thing to assert oneself over. On the other hand, it takes a special kind of disrespect to pull this off and I want it to stop.
EDIT: Addendum - more details:
I'm improving - lift, 6 pack, control of my life, good job and the rest of it. I have no problem attracting the attention of women. I'd say my SMV is 8. Hers is 6 or 7.
Abdada is onto something with the foot is cut comment - she is a feminist (i know, too fucking late, don't ever marry one) and actively resists my direction over big family decisions.
Paradoxically, sex is ok - she craves it more than I actually and puts out a lot.
Still working on the big decisions front. Still have no clue how to handle this stupid behaviour. She does a lot of this "hurra girl, you do what you like because you're a woman ha!" crap and has me as the embodiment of a male that she has to practive her SJW over.