Borderline Career Beta

I'm going to jump in here with a slightly different take. I was you when I first started, thinking that this stuff would just get better if I had a good, masculine role model. And that makes sense. Men are geared to follow a hierarchy, and will usually defer to a stronger man who shows superior leadership skills. It's why the military works so well. Men will naturally fall into a chain of command that puts the most competent leaders at the top. (Let's not get tied down in petty discussion about bad leadership in today's military. You know from your time in that you had a natural instinct to follow certain COs who you knew had their shit together. They were the ones who you followed without reservation.) Given no external force, men will always naturally organize into a unified chain of command.

The mechanism that makes this happen is the same mechanism that makes you want to seek out a mentor. You know you can learn more effectively with a role model / mentor to look up to, to model after, to keep you in check, and to coach you with good advice. That is actually what NMMNG recommends, to get involved with more male activities and to hang out with more male friends. I think this is the best way to go about unplugging and fixing yourself. But there is one big problem with this approach.

Good luck finding a mentor. Our society has been so fucked by the FI, that it is hard to find a good mentor nowadays. Male spaces are disappearing. It's becoming increasingly difficult for men to find a place where they can just be men, with no fear of disapproval or repercussions from their maleness. And this assumes you can even find another guy who is unplugged to begin with. In all my life I have found maybe one other guy IRL that I would consider close to being Red Pill. Most everyone else is either too scared to reveal that they are Red Pilled (and rightfully so, White Knights are everywhere), or are nowhere close to even unplugging. Add to the mix the increasing prevalence of women in traditionally male spaces, and you start to forget what it even means to be a guy, or how to be a guy. Jack Donovan writes about this in his book, The Way of Men. (Which is a good read, btw.)

There are even a whole crop of guys who have never known what it is like to be a guy. I include myself in this group. I never grew up in an environment with a strong male role model. I never went hunting, I never played any real manly sports, I was essentially raised by women, having only ever had one male teacher until I got to eighth grade. By then I was already conditioned to do what I had to do to seek female approval because, well, no one ever taught me differently. "We're a generation of men raised by women." - Tyler Durden

So, what does all this mean for you? Ideally, you would get a real, live male role model to make the most of your transition. The closest you will ever come was probably while you were in the military, depending on your MOS. There is really no other place around anymore where you can experience raw, unfiltered testosterone. Sure you can come here and ask specific questions, knowing that we will break your balls because biting sarcasm and brutal insults are both pretty effective ways to shock you out of your preconditioned frame and drive home the importance of our advice, but all you are going to get from us are commentary on specific issues you bring up, and the occasional article on some general topic the author thinks is important to share with everyone else. You do not get the shared camaraderie, the shared experiences, the shared accomplishments you get when you actually do something IRL with other guys who get it and are unplugged as well. I'll make a deal with you: whoever finds where all the Red Pill guys are IRL first, tells the other.