Girlfriend wants to hang out with ex boyfriend soon, should I be worried?

IAmLeftHandedOk · 2019-02-08T12:23:14+00:00

They're going to fuck.

stokacanec2 · 2019-02-08T12:30:11+00:00

They will fuck. Tell her that she's free to see her ex boyfriend, but she won't have one after that. If she still goes to see him, NEXT, no matter how painful it is.

heres_johnnie · 2019-02-08T13:03:49+00:00

This is so beta to the point where I can't tell if you're trolling or not. How are you allowing yourself you be disrespected like this?

VisiblePlan · 2019-02-08T12:53:39+00:00

OP, people have already said what will absolutely happen, but I'd just like to point out that you seem to only want to come here so people will confirm your biases. This shows a fundamental lack of understanding from your side, if the only point of TRP is the confirm what we know and not challenge us and make us grow, then it is a flawed philosophy. I think you need to check your own ego, and if you don't want an answer to a question, don't ask it.

alleyteris · 2019-02-08T14:01:50+00:00

She is going to say goodbye to him but with his dick in her mouth

patacsiipse · 2019-02-08T13:26:31+00:00

Hard next unless you’re a cuck

Flyboyrs · 2019-02-08T12:45:14+00:00

Ignore her words and focus on her actions. She may show you the 'leave me alone' texts, but at the end of the day she is still visiting him. Why would she visit him despite her telling him repeatedly to fuck off? Come on OP, read between the lines.

johker · 2019-02-08T14:01:26+00:00

My god, the absolute state of “men” at the moment..

Listen faggot, she is going to hook up with him. Now I know that truth will hurt your delicate sensibilities, but if a bunch of random strangers are telling you this.... it just means we’ve all seen this played out before.

Stop being a faggot and use this experience to exercise your balls.

Just leave her and never look back.

Simple as that.

good-look · 2019-02-08T12:53:58+00:00

will they be alone? why would u be ok w this, lol ur gf is trash

chumjetze · 2019-02-08T12:39:26+00:00

she is genuinely hates him and doesn't want to have anything to do with him in terms of texting or calling.

-She will be hanging out with him soon for a final goodbye because he'll be moving out of the United States.

You internally know 100% what this means, you're just trying to rationalize. When in doubt, always watch what people do, not what they say.

In your case, she's clearly enjoying the attention and might soon (or is still) enjoying something that starts with a d and end with an ick.

Flyboyrs · 2019-02-08T13:14:45+00:00

There should be no reason for her to go see him if she doesn’t still have feelings for him. Leave her ass bro

mrpthrowa · 2019-02-08T16:38:14+00:00

This dude is a troll please ban

Metalgear222 · 2019-02-08T18:16:05+00:00

More importantly, why are you dating a girl you’ve only fucked for a few weeks?

Demote to plate immediately, use a condom, game other girls.

ReadTheSidebarIntern · 2019-02-08T14:35:33+00:00

Read the fucking sidebar

Zedbrav · 2019-02-08T14:41:25+00:00

Dude you are really in denial, all these guys are on the same page and know what's gonna happen.

Why you ask? Because experience most of the guys here are not just saying shit because they can they are talking from experience. You need to get out of denial and ask yourself why does she still talk to her ex? Why is she trying so hard to show you she is not gonna do anything? Why does she need to see him one last time it's an EX? Why does she still find him attractive?

All you need to tell her is " i find it disrespectful to me that you are still in contact with your ex. If you respect me and our relationship you would cut all ties with him immediately and not consider to see him if you don't then sorry I cannot be in relationship with someone who disrespects me".

CainPrice · 2019-02-08T14:49:59+00:00

Women don't need to have feelings for a guy to have sex with him. They just need to be attracted to the guy.

A huge number of women will continue to hook up with their ex-boyfriends after they break up, because they know the guy is safe, respectful, discreet, and the sex is good. No interest in rekindling the romance and the relationship. Just fun sex that barely even counts in her book since it's not adding to her partner count.

Just because this woman isn't romantically interested in her ex-boyfriend doesn't mean she's against the possibility of hooking up with him before he leaves the country. She hasn't blocked his texts or cut contact - she continues to entertain his hopes and answer his texts. She's agreed to meet with him fully knowing he's going to make moves on her when they meet. She may not be planning to fuck him 100%, but she's giving him the audition to try for one last fuck before he leaves. She's open to the possibility.

Who are you to her anyway? You're just some dude she's been dating and fucking for a few weeks. She probably has three more of you. And her ex.

redhawkes · 2019-02-08T15:11:15+00:00

Been dating and sleeping with this girl for a few weeks and she's hanging out with her ex boyfriend soon

she still finds him attractive, she told him she doesn't have feelings for him anymore.

I don't understand why she wants to see him

Spin hamster, spin. Deep down you know whats up, that's why you came here.

Few weeks is not even a plate, let alone LTR.

suckisuckilongtime · 2019-02-08T16:57:14+00:00

Hey my dude recently I met up with my ex, she has a boyfriend for 2 years. Guess what literally that time we met up I kissed her the next time we meet up 1 week later I fucked her in the back of her car. 2 weeks 2 years it don’t matter she meeting with her ex she cheating on you.

[deleted] · 2019-02-08T17:17:41+00:00

Oh look it's the hourly asktrp thread where op consistently refutes advice given by dozens of users as its not what he wants to hear

How's this buddy:

You should propose to her right now, and schedule the wedding ASAP, and whatever you do don't get a DNA test done when your kid arrives! I'd estimate that will be roughly 9 months after her little 'goodbye' meet up ;)

zboo1h · 2019-02-08T18:05:32+00:00

It's over already. She just cared enough to tell you in womanspeak that she wants to fuck her ex, and she is going to fuck her ex, and she also thinks you're a colossal pussy because she told you. This also proves that you ARE a colossal pussy, because instead of ghosting her and talking to other women you're posting on Reddit about it.

Move on. Yesterday.

Greddit1231 · 2019-02-08T21:19:11+00:00

1) save this post of yours along with the replies

2) go with your "feelings"

3) re-read what everyone else have been telling you

Sometimes other people's learning method is experiencing things first-hand.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2019-02-08T13:26:43+00:00

Yep. You should.. why would she want to meet an ex in the first place?
To say goodbye? To fuck goodbye you mean.

SHe doesn't want to text him or distance contact, she wants to have physical contact.. dump her ass.

She's complaining about him, cause it would give plausible deniability (Why would I do that, if I showed you I hate him so much)

Some guys are so dim, sorry

dspeed102 · 2019-02-08T14:58:36+00:00

You use the word 'but' too much

MR3790 · 2019-02-08T15:13:12+00:00

She has already fucked him behind your back.

Herdsengineers · 2019-02-08T15:20:14+00:00

Next. Just tell her you want to be with a woman that is into to the point that hanging out with ex-'s or other guys apart from isn't appealing to her. You want an LTR that is all in, and she's clearly not all in.

It's a concept of all in. With LTR's, all in is the only way it should work. Read Mark Manson's "Fuck Yes or Fuck No" article. He lays it out very well.

Don't make it personal, or butt hurt. Just be comfortable, brief, casually friendly about it, etc. Just be assertive and otherwise make it more a "good luck to you but this ain't working out for me."

BluntMFer · 2019-02-08T15:26:54+00:00

Actions speak louder then words. She can talk as much as she wants about why she doesn’t want to see this guy, but at the end of the day she’s going and it’s the last time they will see each other and he is an ex. Now I’m not saying she’s a gold digger, but

imtheoneimmortal · 2019-02-08T15:28:21+00:00

Look her actions not what she say It’s final goodbye I want talk I hate him but blabla

WOLFY-T · 2019-02-08T15:45:02+00:00

Lmao, dump her bro. There's is no point being lost in the sauce in what they'll do or not. If she's really loyal, she will take you with her. Don't even offer to go with her, she'll say you're insecure. That's her job to ask you to come with her. If you dump her, she could tell you she's not going to see him anymore, don't even fall for that shit. Her decision to go see him for final goodbye is already messed up bro. She's possibly not even moved on & you're a could be a rebound.

vivid_mind · 2019-02-08T16:01:06+00:00

She is going to bang him.

bucSlayer · 2019-02-08T16:10:53+00:00

Even if she doesn’t fuck him, subconsciously she will know that you are ok with her seeing her ex and nothing will happen.

Also, women don’t operate on logic like men, is all about the feelings, she wants to feeel even if is hate. If she hates a guy, she can still fuck him because he makes her feel something.

BusterVadge · 2019-02-08T16:23:20+00:00

Girlfriend? ....

Been dating and sleeping with this girl for a few weeks.... Oh.

Take longer to vet and pre-select next time.

What realistically is going to happen if she hangs out with him?

Doesn't matter. What does matter is that you failed to set boundaries and are too weak to command the respect to enforce any boundary.

bruiser18 · 2019-02-08T16:55:58+00:00

She is now your ex girlfriend.

resnine · 2019-02-08T17:21:08+00:00

Absolutely... nothing good comes from this. She is re-investing her time with an ex, huge red flag.

walawalawa · 2019-02-08T17:24:38+00:00

Abort mission NOW. End it before you come back HERE saying "Ex gf banged her ex after telling me she didn't like him anymore what gives?"

Here's a simple Red Pill truth that I have learned many MANY times the hard way.

When a girl brings up another guy...she's testing your reaction. Happened a few years back with a plate who brought up "hanging out" with two of my "Friends"...I would set boundaries which she LOVED because it gave her a thrill that she was the centre of some sort of rivalry. Until I ghosted her.

Latest plate starts acting weird and insulting me via text just before a big vacation. I do NOT respond...obviously a guy is involved. She sent some insulting text about some nonsense. I ignored, she didn't follow up. Obvious.

This has happened so many times that to go through the details would be redundant. Leave NOW. You can just ghost her. That would be more fun. If you did that you might still stand a chance to bang her and demote her to plate status. But dude for you to believe this is innocent in any way is Blue Pill.

max_peenor · 2019-02-08T18:13:07+00:00

What do you care? She's just another fish. You didn't stop fishing, right?

MisterRoid · 2019-02-08T20:00:48+00:00

She's going to have sex with him. If she wasn't interested, she would not want to see him at all. But you clearly don't want to break up with her anyways, so don't then. You will hopefully learn from your mistakes.

SkankHuntL89 · 2019-02-08T20:15:40+00:00

Nice try troll

mrdeeds1972 · 2019-02-08T20:17:41+00:00

She has broken imo a fundamental rule. Never hang out with the ex. Like everyone has been saying, she should have blocked/ghosted this guy long ago. And there never would have been a problem.

Ask her if you presented her with the same situation, how would she react? Trust has been lost and it will likely never be the same no matter what. Move on to someone who is more trustworthy.

bestsparkyalive · 2019-02-08T21:29:02+00:00

This guy is FUCKED

coolredpill · 2019-02-08T15:32:37+00:00

i dont really want to repeat what so many others have already informed you

it is simply unacceptable behavior from a girlfriend

id honestly leave her so you can save some money next week during valentines and go have fun with better girls

civilizedfrog · 2019-02-08T17:58:40+00:00

Buttsex

[deleted] · 2019-02-08T18:03:34+00:00

Look this is all you gotta do: Before she goes to hang out with her old flame (who she will 100% fuck if you don’t do what I’m about to say), call her on FaceTime and have her wear her phone around her neck

[deleted] · 2019-02-08T19:55:07+00:00

Don't worry just dump the cheating whore

Eldudearino89 · 2019-02-08T21:50:37+00:00

Maybe you can be the third wheel, and video tape it?

[deleted] · 2019-02-09T00:22:50+00:00

She's definitely not over this guy bro. Have respect for yourself and walk away.

Classy_Amir · 2019-02-09T00:29:39+00:00

"fine, see your ex. But you'll have two afterwards".

GrandmasterHurricane · 2019-02-09T00:43:49+00:00

You only kniw thus chick for a few weeks and shes already your girl? How exactly? When did u get time to properly get her?

You committed to a girl with poor character. Whatever she says is irrelevant, it's what she does that matters. She may say blah blah blah she doesn't like him, yet she is going to see him one on one before he travels. What do u think they're gonna do? Play scrabble and drink tea?

This girl is a thot. You should pump the brakes and slow your roll. She is not yours. Take a step back, realize that she is not fit for commitment, and start working on other chicks. You need to read the sidebar material, because you're setting yourself up for a colossal mistake

Terdmuffin · 2019-02-09T00:52:07+00:00

"Ex girlfriend wants to hang out with ex boyfriend soon..."

huggyblossom · 2019-02-09T01:10:11+00:00

There are at least 4-5 good answers here and I will point just one thing as it's your choice of actions in the end:

- The woman as stated down are not logical and their acts are to be judged and not their words.

- She is already trying to make excuses about anything that can happen and makes shit tests to you to see your reaction and have an excuse if anything happens: she shows me texts , she still finds him attractive , she doesn't have feelings for him , She will be hanging out with him soon for a final goodbye , she still finds him hot .

- See where this escalates to, she already has the excuses for her acts and tried to see your frame on it and you obviously failed

- I do not want to sound like all the other fellas, but this is not a relationship and for my personal opinion is not worth it in the long run. Enjoy the sex with her and be more distant whenever she goes to tell you about the meeting. If she continues to shit test you with this just for the test try to mention an ex girlfriend that messages you constantly to see the girl reaction.

This is what I can say as the other is said: they will make sex, because you failed on several occasions to her shit tests and she has an excuse if anything like that happens and the other guy WILL hit on her 100% for a farewell sex.

AbdullahMacNeil · 2019-02-09T12:47:28+00:00

You already lost when you didn’t shut her down immediately.

Girlfriend wants to hang out with ex boyfriend soon, should I be worried?

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Title	Girlfriend wants to hang out with ex boyfriend soon, should I be worried?
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Date	February 8, 2019 12:19 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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