My ltr wants to watch me with another girl

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June 13, 2019

A couple weeks ago, my (26m) ltr (23f) (plate for 7 months before 1 year ltr) probed my interest in a involving other people in our sex life. I have already had a very explorative lifestyle before her so I wasn’t exactly jumping at the opportunity. I explained it is something we can discuss in the future.

Some time later, she mentioned it again. She claims introducing another woman is something she fantasizes about. Here is what I am confused about: she doesn’t want a threesome per say, she wants to watch me with another girl without her own participation. In her own words, she wants to be “reverse cucked”. She claims she is extremely turned on with the idea of me being with another woman while she watches because she knows at the end I am going home with her. She claims she is turned on by the idea the other woman would be completely objectified, simply be an object for our pleasure.

What are your opinions on this? Why would a girl want to be reversed cucked? Compared to an more interactive session? Is this a more extreme version of “women would rather share high smv male than not” or is it something else?


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Title My ltr wants to watch me with another girl
Author Pooping_Willow
Upvotes 77
Comments 74
Date 13 June 2019 07:34 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]Pooping_Willow 1 points [recovered]  (29 children) | Copy

I have come up with three explanations of the situation:

  1. she has swinger vibes and is probing me
  2. she cheated and feels guilty
  3. its a trap to bang some dude she has eyes on

[–]Cazken98 points99 points  (2 children) | Copy

Go with it, if it’s a trap then u just know to drop her as a LTR, and there’s no point worrying about wether she cheated or not. Just stay on top of your game.

[–]babybopp24 points25 points  (1 child) | Copy

It is refreshing to see a post where OP knows what's up. She has banged another dude and she is seeking mental absolution. That is it. Mental gymnastics have told her that if you bang another girl then it is perfectly balanced.. the way it should be.

[–]DeborahBinLaden45 points46 points  (2 children) | Copy

She wants to conquer the other woman, pretty common for a girls fantasy that involves another girl (usually the other girl is beneath her e.g. she rides the other girls face, you use her as a fucktoy while you’re committed to her.) Obviously seeing her man fuck another girl in front of her is maximum tingles and then she wins at the end of it.

If her fantasy involved another guy that would be a major red flag

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is most likely the correct answer.

[–]Sad_Sleeper57 points58 points  (7 children) | Copy

You are overthinking it too much.

Fuck that other girl, involve your ltr in it and have a threesome.

After that you can think about everything else.

[–]Pooping_Willow 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Perhaps you are right. Don’t over analyze, but stay sharp.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think you’re good home slice just go with it lol

[–]Skylights100020 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Oof I wish this was my main problem in life.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol right

[–]TheRedPillRipper29 points30 points  (2 children) | Copy

Also cause it’s her fantasy let HER do all the legwork i.e. set up the meet and greet/pick up Thotiana.

Then tell her to bring Thotiana around for YOUR APPROVAL. Sets the frame for BOTH of them to appeal to you.

Godspeed and good luck!

[–]rpsheepdog0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good way to vet if she's legitimately interested

[–]Onein1024th0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sets the frame for BOTH of them to appeal to you

this is key

[–]tb0n20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

Standard TRP wisdom says go with your gut, and your gut seems to think she just wants to bang other dudes. You might as well get a threesome out of it before it falls apart. Take video.

[–]yettymonkey3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Those are three very good points..... Hmmmm...... I'm going to be honest and I would say that the plate is broken or will be soon. You might as well see if you can get that "threesome". The way I see it she either freaks and the plate breaks and you move on. Two you have the experience and the plate later breaks and you move on. Three you go through with it and she later cheats on you and the plate breaks and you move on. Four its all a trap and the plate is broken and you move on.

Do you see the theme I'm getting at???? Always remember: She is not yours its just your turn and it sounds like your turn is coming to an end.

Read the sidebar again and hit the gym/mediate. Start looking for another plate or two and spin them so when this one breaks you effortlessly move on.

P.S: I would make sure if you go through with the fantasy of hers you have texts (save them to the cloud) proving that it was all consensual. Make sure you do it at your place and see if they want to record it or some weird shit. Always protect yourself.

[–]a7000-a2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Are you thinking about having kids with this chick? If not, go party and realize that your relationship w/ her is temporary.

[–]Count_Giggles2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

could just be the influence of all the porn her age group grew up with.

[–]BurningOrangeHeaven1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe shes spent too much time online/warching porn, i've seen this same fantasy before. Did she say where the idea came from, cuz i doubt thats something she would think up on her own if # 1,2, or 3 aren't true.

[–]Aggressive_Beta1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Could be. Or it could just be what it appears to be - she has a fetish for it. My LTR has admitted to me that she fantasizes about having sex with me while her female friends watch because she wants to make them jealous.

[–]Fulp_Piction2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

How many of those possibilities infers a future for you two?

Fuck the other bitch, stop taking it so seriously.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Would you say your SMV is significantly above hers?

[–]Pooping_Willow 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Yes. On my scale she is a 8-8.5. I am a recent doctor grad about to start my career working to own my own practice in 5 years. I am currently 10% bf at 6’2 190lbs with past frat history. She was one of a few plates i spun before ltr and she knew.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

She sees a threesome as the best way of locking you down in a commitment. She wants to marry you. It's not a trap for her to bang other guys.

[–]Pooping_Willow 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

“Marry” lol nope

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Your decision, I'm just explaining her thought process.

[–]NorthernSpectre0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

In my case it was nr 2.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev68 points69 points  (1 child) | Copy

It can be a form of masochism, one supposes.

Blow your load in the other girl's snatch and then make her eat your cum out of her pussy. 1

1 Standard disclaimer about the other girl being on the pill for 100% sure apply.

[–]MindFuktd37 points38 points  (0 children) | Copy

We love you, Uncle Vasiliy!

[–]goblinboglin20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

My LTR did the same when she cheated on me.

She felt guilty and wanted to make it go away.

[–]red_philosopher22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy

Introduced two plates to each other once, we started a three-way relationship, had a lot of good times until it went to hell.

10/10 would do it again.

[–]ZeppKfw4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Would you care to make a post about it on how you made it work on TRP?

[–]red_philosopher5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Probably, eventually.

[–]2ComplexProjection21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

My previous LTR was like that. It stimulates woman's preselection instinct: she sees that you can bang other women, you are hight value, and you are hers. It is a compliment to herself, and really enticing for her.

Develop that part with her, and man you are going to enjoy a lot of threesomes she will even organise for you.

[–]Cazken16 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy

How’s that reverse? Seems like the real deal to me.

[–]Pooping_Willow 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

As in she thinks “cucked” refers to when it happens to a male while she is a girl.

[–]Cazken8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ah I see. Well based on the original meaning of the word cuck, it kind makes sense. Anyways. It seems like a submissive thing to me and that she sees you as high SMV obviously. Can’t look into her mind, people get fetishes for various reasons, but this one seems like a good one to me. I’d do it if I were you.

[–]_Icarus_Reborn_6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

The reversed is called a cuckquean.

[–]SummerThenWinter37 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy

  1. It goes without saying that you should never marry or have kids with this woman now.

  2. She either is into the fantasy, has cheated and wants closure, or is starting with just a girl before opening the relationship further i.e., another dude. Again, see 1.

It's impossible for any of us to know without knowing her and your relationship dynamic. My opinion is if she was my ltr I would probably fuck the other girl and start looking to bang girls on the side. You really don't have a relationship anymore after introducing another person.

[–]dankest_knight7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

What is your reasoning for the first point? Do you feel the same way if she's wanting a MFF threesome?

[–]liberty11275 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

I had a previous LTR who had the same fantasy. She wanted to get drunk and scope women out for me to bring home and fuck in front of her. Let's just say other red flags occurred shortly thereafter and that relationship was terminated. The girl I'm with now likes to show me off but has voiced that she doesn't have any interest of sharing me with others. I'm cool with that. No need for unwanted turmoil if you have a solid relationship.

[–]ZeppKfw1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah. What stable girl would want to do this? Just like another guy said that she's not a good choice for marriage now that she proposed this.

[–]okanagancouple26 points27 points  (4 children) | Copy

Lookup cuckqueen and cuckcake. I've known women who like to watch their partner play. It's probably the start of a lot of sexual exploring. Regardless take her seriously and don't make her feel weird about it. Make sure she is 100% certain that she wants this and will be okay with you after... Ask her lots of questions like if she wants to be directed to participate or film or whatever. Sex washes off, love doesn't.

[–]Non-Cookie-cutter19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

sexwashes off , love doesn't

It does as soon as a better man shows up and she thinks she can make him commit .

[–]okanagancouple1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Could be. Don't know her. But what the hell, enjoy the ride.

[–]Gr33d3ater8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sex washes off? Lmao. Okay. Says the man who never met a crazy bitch aka any woman in his life.

[–]okanagancouple1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol. Well it usually washes off.. Those situations.... oh my.. lol

[–]vild3r5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Talk boundaries. If you do it it doesnt mean that you wanna get cucked. Specify her that

[–]McVaghunter20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

What are your opinions on this?

It's hot

Why would a girl blah blah blah?

I don't care

Is this a more extreme blah blah blah?

I don't care

[–]Madhatter7473 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Cant be too careful bro. If she has a history of cock carousel... it maybe a trap. You must play it as safe as possible and say something like: okay, sounds fun, but this can never be used as justification to fuck another guy.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

my (26m) ltr (23f)

Stop reading femme-centric subreddits.

What are your opinions on this

Sounds great, do it.

[–]vodkalimesoda14 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s got issues. Normal people don’t get off to cuck shit. The most alpha way to approach this situation is to milk it for as long as you can until you get bored of her then next her.

[–]SeasonedRP2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've been with a woman like this. She is younger than me, and her thing is to watch me with much younger women. It's happened twice. It's hard to find participants no matter what the ages, but especially so with the age differences involved with us. I've been with another one who likes to talk about it during sex but is too jealous (so far) to actually do it.

Just go with it, and if the opportunity arises, take it. Maybe she has partners in mind.

[–]pete-repeat2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe it's some extension of pre-selection. Women love men who can get other women, though they're not usually so overt about it. Strange.

[–]Gr33d3ater2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s called a cuck queen.

[–]johnhello2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Only listen to these words: DO IT

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy

Anyone who says this is necessarily a trap is a novice.

Girls will do and enjoy seriously kinky shit with men they are enthralled with.

Girls who like to watch their man with other girls often have a humiliation fetish. Try verbally degrading her during sex. If she goes wild, you pretty much know why she asked for this.

Then you can go for it, and do humiliating stuff to her as part of the action, such as making her service the other girl orally.

Bear in mind that the best tool for girls who are into humiliation is your voice. Learn to use it well.

[–]Pooping_Willow 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

I think you could be right. She is very submissive towards me so I think this could be a kink rather than something nefarious, something I didnt consider in my original frame of mind.

[–]Project_Zero_Betas0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Listen to him. It's not a trap despite a lot of people ITT claiming otherwise.

[–]thatguy768900 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How do you use your voice well any tips? or does it have to be completely self learned?

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Content and tone.

You have to be able to say demeaning stuff in a tone of voice like you mean every word.

Comes down to voice acting and properly choosing the stuff you say according to the girl.

Also consider how mean you need to get. With some girls, there is such a thing as too much, but others need extremely cruel.

[–]0io-1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go for it. I don't see what the problem is. Call up one of your other plates and tell her to come over. Maybe she wants to fool around and join in with the other girl, maybe she just wants to watch you get laid like she said.

Not saying this is you, but I feel like a lot of askTRP posts go "My girl who is great and always trying to make me happy just made me a sandwich. Then she told me she's turned on by handcuffs, is this a red flag? Should I hard next or soft next her? Does this mean she cheated on me with a policeman?"

[–]justlibertarian1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s tryna bang another dude after.

[–]Stupyyy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a trap!

[–]BrodinsOats1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s called cuckquean, and it could be a legitimate turn-on for her. If so, congrats on the lucky find.

[–]WIA20XX1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a fetish.

[–]SwRacist2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

You bang this girl and have a threesome.

Be aware that she will most likely want to try a MMF threesome later down the road with a guy she likes. In that case fuck her with the other guy but end the LTR and demote her to plate.

You guys need to realize that female cucks are not Male cucks. They are rare.

Either way if she truly is a cuck be aware that doing this might end the relationship. She might think she wants it until it happens

[–]Distractingyou2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why make a threesome with a dude just cut the relationship before

[–]SwRacist-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're going to end it regardless. Might as well fuck her one more time

[–]friggandfrayed1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

NO. She is setting you up for either:

a.) swinging/poly - which is now justified cause you slept with someone other than her

b.) will use this, hold it over you because she didn't realize how it would make her feelz (empty)

c.) she cheated & now wants to allow you to cheat to make her feelz better

d.) she wants to cuckhold you & this is step one

[–]DBOLsinyourmouth0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

None of these things should bother you because it should be made clear beforehand that extra guys are a no-go. Also, if she's introducing this, it's already in her head. Anyway, if those things were a problem, the problem is already there. Just do it, and have fun.

[–]randombjkfan19030 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That’s dope

[–]Lukap2950 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe some kind of a shittest.

[–]fuggetboutit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's a trap, I repeat, it's a trap.

[–]GiftedUnlimtedRU-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy


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