I straight up refuse to open an Instagram or Snapchat account, friends both male and female have been dumbfolded when they figure out I don't have any account.
I find these platforms feed the egos of every fucking female be it an average chick gets hundreds of likes/followers, they all have countless of orbiters in snap and IMs and even if it wasn't for this female usually use these stuff to brag and compliment each other.
It's not just the "insta thots" every chick craves attention and they use these platforms as huge ego boost and attention resources.
Now let's get to the point basically I think it's hook-up platform at it's core and for females, it's straight up what porn is for dudes(dopamine in tons). Even if it wasn't that I fail to see it other than humbel-bragging platform.
Personal isses with these platforms:
What do I, as a average dude have to show in Instagram?
Gym sessions? Fuck no, I ain't doing it for the women but for myself, the gym is where my mind is at peace and I can boost my tt levels and channel anger in a positive channel.
Nights out? Sorry but that's just pathetic, I find taking pics while at dinners and events even at traveling for the sole purpose of sharing pics in social medias downright insulting, I go out to have a good time with friends, drink and talk and experience.
It just seem so shallow and fabricated/curated for an audience, I cringe when I see posts of myself at events in social media, it can't be escaped.
I even see people take workplace pics, I am sorry but that is just unproffesional af, women do this so often.
Enough with the ranting tho: Even through the toxicity nature of these platforms, I can't help but feel like I am "missing out" or to better word it: paralyzing myself in the dating world and connections. I use a simple fb profile to reach my friends through IM only and have nothing on it but now everyone and their dog(literally lol) is on Instagram/snapchat/whaterver is new(idk) and I am fucking 20 years old for fucks sake.
Do you guys feel/have similar expereiences? It might be an insecurity issue and I don't deny that but I can't help it but see it as a Linkedin for dating in hindsight, Tinder is shallow af, I am glad it doesn't exist in my country.
Should I just add a private snapchat and Instagram with friends only or all private(can that be done?) And only share highlight of my life(lol) like hobbies?
Basically use the Snapchat for dating opportunties in real life, I don't think only dating works but online messaging(after real dates/meetups) is a great tool for sure.
Other thing is women of course are interested in your status overall, I don't want them to even be able to sneek me up( ik people who put their work titles in their bios. Like wtf) I am an engineer but I don't need to brag to other fuckers because it's my shit.
This is my only "fear"(posting pics for other to see, fake bullshit comments, etc etc) to say except fear or rejection( or rather I say hatered towards being rejected by a shallow bitch and just feeding her ego)
I consider myself a private guy and I am not interested in fame or that shit(quality>quantity) also I am not to keen on hooking-up culture but I sure as hell won't cut my balls and go to a temple.